To leave a note at his door

[singlemum10]

Okay, I need opinions...

I have a crush on my neighbour (who will be my neighbour for another 3 months) but I rarely see him, and when I do I’m usually with my son so it’s not really a moment to talk. But he is so kind to us both and extremely handsome. I'm a single mum in my late 20s, have 2 child-free nights a week and don't have time to meet people in day-to-day life and I very much miss having a connection with someone

So I’m thinking of leaving a note on his door like:
“hi neighbor, I always forget to ask if my stroller is in the way in the entrance - let me know if it is, and you can text me on xxx if we don’t run into each other” (I genuinely do always forget to ask)

Very neutral, not flirty as I don't know his relationship status or if he is even into me! I'm just not sure if this is the worst note ever to leave haha, just thought it might open the door veeeeeery slightly

What should I do?
A) leave the note (lowkey, no expectations)
B) leave the note but add something to make it easier to start a conversation
C) don’t leave a note, just wait until I run into him
D) abort mission completely lol

Lemon drizzle and sitting in the pram aside 😂😂

I once wrote my number on a napkin and approached a very attractive man in a bar (as I was about to leave) and said ‘I’ve no idea if you’re single or not, but if you are then here’ gave him the napkin and left. It worked, and we went on a date. Turns out he didn’t have much of a personality to match 😅. But why don’t you wait until just before you go and try it! If he never messages then at least you don’t have to crack your door slightly making sure he’s not in the hallway before you leave your place for very long after

Definitely write him a note, but make it a bit flirty. It’s not your fault you don’t know his relationship status, so give it a try - there’s nothing to lose!

More like - "I hope you don't mind my stroller in the hallway. If you're single, my DS is at his dad's on Saturday night so come over for lemon drizzle and shags."

Put your schnizzle in my drizzle. So snoop dogg said.

She could write her number on the lemon drizzle and stuff it through his letterbox.

No no no no, no note. If you want to get to know him, ask him for coffee. Or else wait a bit longer and see if he makes a move.

Me too. How can you accidentally make an extra lemon drizzle cake, and if you did, why would it be so hard to work out what to do with it?

This made me laugh out loud in bed.

Maybe she could write a stray digit on crumbs of Lemon drizzle and Hansel and grettle him to her front door

I like your style 👍

What happened to this thread 😂😂😂 I am more confused than I was when posting lol!

I am sensing a general consensus of no note, so will not be doing that

I am only moving to the building next to ours for a bigger apartment, so will still be VERY nearby, but will very likely never see him as even living next-door to each other, I haven't seen him in weeks.

So I coooould make a move when moving...? Might be awkward if we run into each other. Not to mention, I am so terrible at making a move, fear of rejection gets me every time. I’ll probably need to bake myself a lemon drizzle for emotional support if that happens

Jeez don’t be baking cakes and asking for sugar.😂

the note isn’t a bad idea if you don’t run into him, but the stroller part is. Really bad.

so if you see him again, and you’re brave enough, ask him if he fancies a drink sometime. If you don’t, put a note through the door. With your number and say was hoping to run into you, am moving to x. If you fancy a drink sometime here’s my number.

Definitely do the note but do it on the day you leave so there’s no awkwardness.

In the meantime just keep saying hi to him and trying to strike up a conversation in some way.

We need updates OP! I am already invested in this relationship 🤣

And definitely bake yourself a lemon drizzle!

E: leave a note on the day you move; “hi, it’s @singlemum10, we are moving to the next door building, but I shall miss bumping in to you. I have a couple of child free evenings a week, I’d love to stay in touch, here’s my number”

If he doesn’t contact you, there’s no shame because you’re unlikely to see him by accident.

Oh, and bake the lemon drizzle and eat it yourself.

Given you are moving to the building next door in 3 months, and don't see him to talk to very much. I'd pop a note through his door: Hi Matt, I don't know if you're single, but I wondered if you would like to grab a coffee with me sometime? My number is XXXX. Laura x'. You literally have nothing to lose by popping a note through. If he doesn't reply, then you'll probably see him even less than you do now, once you move!

Why wait till you bump into him? Don’t send the note but knock and ask, just say I’m sorry I haven’t asked you before, as we’re always on the way out/in and it completely goes out of my head. You’ve said he’s moving so just laugh and say hopefully not because of pram gate. Break the ice, see where it goes.

Don't leave a note, but take the bull by the horns and knock on his door. Ask him out for coffee - if he declines, or you don't gel, then never mind, you're moving soon (I know it's not far but you'll be surprised how often you won't run into someone not in the same building!) - but if you do, then you have the convenience of next door but not really.

Good luck!

You guys would actually have the balls to knock on his door if you were in my situation?? God I envy you!

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Am I the only one who likes the OP’s note idea (A)?! 😁
Obviously it will lead to further chat when the neighbour texts her back … which he will do, if he likes the OP.
I like it because it doesn’t put him on the spot immediately, and is a good way to give him her number.
Good luck OP and keep us posted!

i also like the note so i say go ahead, OP! a single male will, i think, take your note as an indication that there is a good possibility that you like him. potential problem is that the note may vanish before he sees it so if he is silent you will have to wait until you run into him perhaps weeks or months down the line to ask if he got the note. therefore you should post the note (in an envelope) under his door. this is also (slightly) more forward - no bad thing! i would also sign off with your name. (but definitely no kisses or ❤️). good luck 🤞🙏🍀

No note c or d knock on his door and ask him if he’d like to go for a coffee (do not do this if he’s got a wife). Good luck

It’s the best option. You know one way or the other then.

Knocking on his door is best, but if you really can't bring yourself to do that a note might work, just not that note. Make the note make your intention clearer, don't talk about strollers and being in the way.

I’m down.
But I have absolutely no class and if someone were to ask me round for a cup of tea and a Krispy Kreme I’d be pretty much ready to settle down.
OP I’d probably try and bump into him, chat about where he’s moving or something, and ask him
round for a coffee.

Your note idea will work as in my experience, men always assume (not all men) you’re coming onto them. So it should do the trick.