To leave a note at his door

[singlemum10]

Okay, I need opinions...

I have a crush on my neighbour (who will be my neighbour for another 3 months) but I rarely see him, and when I do I’m usually with my son so it’s not really a moment to talk. But he is so kind to us both and extremely handsome. I'm a single mum in my late 20s, have 2 child-free nights a week and don't have time to meet people in day-to-day life and I very much miss having a connection with someone

So I’m thinking of leaving a note on his door like:
“hi neighbor, I always forget to ask if my stroller is in the way in the entrance - let me know if it is, and you can text me on xxx if we don’t run into each other” (I genuinely do always forget to ask)

Very neutral, not flirty as I don't know his relationship status or if he is even into me! I'm just not sure if this is the worst note ever to leave haha, just thought it might open the door veeeeeery slightly

What should I do?
A) leave the note (lowkey, no expectations)
B) leave the note but add something to make it easier to start a conversation
C) don’t leave a note, just wait until I run into him
D) abort mission completely lol

No. I should have said. The demure is not code for oppressed looking. It's more of a mystique thing and is most effective with flushed cheeks and a push up bra. OP all this nonsense about cake is not helping your cause. Please continue. I think your note is a little dry, though.

In what world does this leave her plausible deniability?

We don't know that! (joke 😉).
The point is that it's often better to be direct, then everyone knows where they are.
she says -
"Do you fancy going out for a coffee sometime?"
he says -
"Yes/maybe/no/perhaps somewhere that doesn't sell lemon drizzle cake, it makes me nauseous".

Blimey.

I lean strongly toward "talk to him face to face". You can eke out a few minutes even if your child is there - or watch his schedule so you can run into him on one of your solo days. Could you ask for his help with some quick, minor thing in your house/yard - especially if it's just you and a young child in your household - and then offer a coffee or drink or lunch or something as a thank you?

A note is fine if it's for a practical purpose but he's probably not going to think to take anything further. I would not eat a homemade thing given to me by a neighbour if I've never been inside their house and have no idea if their kitchen is sanitary, and I'd feel slightly inconvenienced being given something I wouldn't eat and wouldn't feel comfortable donating.

You've never tried "flushed cheeks and a push up bra"? 😂😂

Not since I was 16, no 🤣🤣

Why only the next 3 months?
Are you moving? If so is it far away?

If it was me, I would leave him a note on the last day.
Say it’s X from number Y. Tell him that you’re moving etc and leave your number.

I can imagine it would be quite awkward if you left your number now and he didn’t text!

In the meantime, I’d strike up conversations in the normal way.
eg by just saying hi at first and then mentioning the good/bad weather, then mentioning the stroller etc.

Do you just want a FWB whilst you’re living there or more of a longer term thing?

I hope it worked! 😂

It got me into my local nightclub 😬🤣

You saucy minx! 😳

FWIW I love a lemon drizzle cake but there’s no way I’d make a stranger one!

And if a man gave me one I’d assume he’d roofied it!

Demure ?? Have we gone back in time?

I think the purpose of the note is a red herring - it means that he has OPs phone number, if he wants to make a more..err...in depth contact.

If he doesn't - there's your answer.

I have a mental image of Princess Diana, fluttering her eyelashes from under her fringe - complete with lemon drizzle loaf under her arm!

Apparently so! Don't want to scare off gentlemen by being assertive!
Although you don't need to tell that to @OhBumBags with her Wonderbra!

C- If you like the guy just tell him, you'll soon know where he stands on that. If I got a note like that I'd think you were a bit barmy and I'd ignore it.

I was a 32A.

A Wonderbra was the only way I could tell my front from my back 👀😁

😂😂😂

Personally I would be weirded out if anyone did this for me. 😐

Also, I can't help wondering what you do with the second lemon drizzle cake?
Anyone?

Is there anything going on locally near you soon? Next time you bump into him you could say "have you ever been to X place, I was thinking of going Friday night" might strike up a conversation.

I don't think I was ever a 32A - I seemed to need secure scaffolding from puberty 🤣
See if he is on Tinder, if so do the swipey clicky thing or however it works. It seems to be how my kids do it.

In my culture we sometimes share baked goods with neighbours, even we don't like them. I'm surprised you haven't heard of this. OP, disregard this poster. They have referred to your lovely neighbour as a stranger and are unlikely to have neighbourly skills.

Let it go stale and use it as a brick to hit him with if he turns op down, or leave it out for the wildlife, a la Bridesmaids. 🤣