To leave a note at his door

[singlemum10]

Okay, I need opinions...

I have a crush on my neighbour (who will be my neighbour for another 3 months) but I rarely see him, and when I do I’m usually with my son so it’s not really a moment to talk. But he is so kind to us both and extremely handsome. I'm a single mum in my late 20s, have 2 child-free nights a week and don't have time to meet people in day-to-day life and I very much miss having a connection with someone

So I’m thinking of leaving a note on his door like:
“hi neighbor, I always forget to ask if my stroller is in the way in the entrance - let me know if it is, and you can text me on xxx if we don’t run into each other” (I genuinely do always forget to ask)

Very neutral, not flirty as I don't know his relationship status or if he is even into me! I'm just not sure if this is the worst note ever to leave haha, just thought it might open the door veeeeeery slightly

What should I do?
A) leave the note (lowkey, no expectations)
B) leave the note but add something to make it easier to start a conversation
C) don’t leave a note, just wait until I run into him
D) abort mission completely lol

Good call 👍

You eat it. I wouldn't go to the trouble of making something for him unless there was lemon cake in it for me too. OP, take note. You only bake extra for a man. You don't actually bake for a man.

this thread is hilarious 🤣I love the lemon drizzle one.
do you not know if he’s single? Have you not seen anyone else come and go from his house? If it’s likely he’s single start up a convo about the neighbourhood, ask him does he have any kids/live alone/have a partner. If it’s no then tell him your moving and if your too shy leave him a note with your number when you are moving out or if you’re feeling brave then ask him for coffee there and then.

Stand on the street corner twirling it round your head and shouting 'sex and lemon drizzle anyone ?'

What does it have to do with your culture though, unless you can be certain the OP and her neighbour share it?

This is why people can't Tinder properly. Demure and assertive are not mutually exclusive. Poised and shy are not mutually exclusive. Sexy and impossible to read are not mutually exclusive. Smart and funny are not mutually exclusive. A push up bra and DM boots are not mutually exclusive. Having your cake and eating it are not mutually exclusive. You can do anything without being pigeon holed but cake and cleavage are effective.

I can see why some posters need a brick.

OP, just bake the cakes. If nothing else, you'll have cake. If you have second thoughts, lemon cake freezes so two cakes are not a problem. For the love of God, don't throw it at him.

I was just joking,☺️ a bit of a giggle about the push up bra as well.
No biggie 😉!
ps what does "can't Tinder" mean?

It normalises it. I can't think of a culture that never does this.

... better still, outside his front door.

You can do anything without being pigeon holed but cake and cleavage are effective.

Fair play! 🤣🤣

I would love it if my culture meant men giving me baked goods but unfortunately it’s not.

If a man knocked on my door and gave me something he’d baked, I would not trust that he hadn’t put something extra in it.

You sound very trusting which could be seen as lovely or it could be seen as very naive.

They do not talk much, considering OP has never asked if the stroller is in the way and so yes they are very much strangers.

She doesn’t even know his relationship status and not sure if she even knows his name.

OP is a single mum with a very young child.
Being cautious around an unknown man is extremely wise.

Just because someone lives in the same building as you, doesn’t mean they’re automatically to be trustworthy.

I understand giving a new neighbour baked goods, or even if it’s a particular celebration.

But why would you spend time and money on a random man.
That seems quite desperate.

Just bake yourself a cake and eat it yourself or share it with loved ones, not some random man.

C

E. Sit in the stroller and when he passes ask if you are in his way.

This saves writing a potentially embarassing note and initiates a direct conversation. For a more dramatic effect suck on a bottle and wear a knitted bonnet.

Definitely C. If you left that note at my door I’d assume you only want me to text you about the stroller.

I don’t want to be downer but I don’t think it’s a good idea to pursue a neighbour 🙈. If he turns you down it will be awkward, if you get together and either one breaks it off it will be awkward. I do a hobby in a cafe, I went on a date with the owner, I didn’t feel we were compatible and even though he was very nice about it it was still awkward to see him every week. If it’d been the other way around I probably would’ve left the hobby. And that was just a cafe not my street/block of flats

A

It’s gonna take more than three months for that dry note to lead to sex. If you’re moving out, throw caution to the wind and be more direct.

What happens if you give a man lemon drizzle cake, but you have saggy boobs and aren't demure? Or does that require a red velvet cake?

A bottle of Echo Falls and a multipack of crisps should tempt him.

I was thinking Black Forest Gateau, but others on here may be more knowledgeable.

The use of “neighbor” and “stroller” makes me assume American, so you’d probably need a Dunkin’ Donut and a weak lager.

God no, never go BFG on a first date!

Really?! That's where I went wrong with Friedrich, then.

Good point

Love the nickname.

Perhaps you have a recipe for the OP? 🤣🤣