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To leave a note at his door

157 replies

singlemum10 · 13/04/2026 14:38

Okay, I need opinions...

I have a crush on my neighbour (who will be my neighbour for another 3 months) but I rarely see him, and when I do I’m usually with my son so it’s not really a moment to talk. But he is so kind to us both and extremely handsome. I'm a single mum in my late 20s, have 2 child-free nights a week and don't have time to meet people in day-to-day life and I very much miss having a connection with someone

So I’m thinking of leaving a note on his door like:
“hi neighbor, I always forget to ask if my stroller is in the way in the entrance - let me know if it is, and you can text me on xxx if we don’t run into each other” (I genuinely do always forget to ask)

Very neutral, not flirty as I don't know his relationship status or if he is even into me! I'm just not sure if this is the worst note ever to leave haha, just thought it might open the door veeeeeery slightly

What should I do?
A) leave the note (lowkey, no expectations)
B) leave the note but add something to make it easier to start a conversation
C) don’t leave a note, just wait until I run into him
D) abort mission completely lol

OP posts:
FlatErica · 13/04/2026 18:07

C

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 13/04/2026 18:08

B

Holesinmesocks · 13/04/2026 18:12

Loving this thread😆

godmum56 · 13/04/2026 18:16

Notabarbie · 13/04/2026 16:11

I would bake two lemon drizzle loaves and bring him one of them. He will not be able to tell if you're flirting or not because this could mean anything. As long as you are very warm but demure. It gives him a notion but you have plausible deniability. And don't say much when you hand it over unless you're very good at being relaxed. None of this I made too much, thought you might like it, hope you like lemon etc. Just I hope I'm not disturbing, I've been baking today, hope you enjoy and allow him to say what a kind thought and then it's his turn.

Edited

"warm but demure" the 50's called, they want their cake back

Tacohill · 13/04/2026 18:22

MNHQ please can we get the laughing emoji back

This thread is hilarious!! 🤣

ainsleysanob · 13/04/2026 18:22

OhBumBags · 13/04/2026 16:44

Blimey.

Who will fasten OP into her corset and overdress? She mustn’t forget her bonnet either or mr darcey the next door neighbour won’t believe she’s demure, flushed cheeks or not.

ainsleysanob · 13/04/2026 18:26

AmyDudley · 13/04/2026 17:26

Stand on the street corner twirling it round your head and shouting 'sex and lemon drizzle anyone ?'

Can this be done in a Nancy from Oliver Twist accent?

OhBumBags · 13/04/2026 18:30

ainsleysanob · 13/04/2026 18:26

Can this be done in a Nancy from Oliver Twist accent?

🎵 As long as he needs me
Oh, yes, he does need me
In spite of what you see
I'm sure that he needs me

I'll make our love sizzle
Stood there with me lemon drizzle
I know he'll want more
If I push up me tits while looking demure🎵

ainsleysanob · 13/04/2026 18:31

OhBumBags · 13/04/2026 18:30

🎵 As long as he needs me
Oh, yes, he does need me
In spite of what you see
I'm sure that he needs me

I'll make our love sizzle
Stood there with me lemon drizzle
I know he'll want more
If I push up me tits while looking demure🎵

Absolutely fantastic!! Bravo! 🤩

OhBumBags · 13/04/2026 18:32

Cheers.

I've got the song stuck in my head now 🤣🤣

MissFenellaPrism · 13/04/2026 18:33

OhBumBags · 13/04/2026 18:32

Cheers.

I've got the song stuck in my head now 🤣🤣

Beautiful. Just beautiful 😢

MissFenellaPrism · 13/04/2026 18:35

ainsleysanob · 13/04/2026 18:22

Who will fasten OP into her corset and overdress? She mustn’t forget her bonnet either or mr darcey the next door neighbour won’t believe she’s demure, flushed cheeks or not.

Whatever you do... don't dance with him more than twice at the ball!
People will talk!
Send him for some flavoured ice.

ClaredeBear · 13/04/2026 18:35

Dontknowwhattobelieve2 · 13/04/2026 16:37

So.. my neighbour did something similar, he gave me his number incase anyone broke into his house while he was away for the weekend. I took it literally screwed the paper up and binned it once he was home, never actually texting him. He’ll probably do the same (if the stroller isn’t in the way). You’ll need to be more direct, what’s the worst that could happen? As you say he’s only going to be your neighbour for another 3 months.

I felt sure this would end with, “he’s now my husband”.

ainsleysanob · 13/04/2026 18:36

OhBumBags · 13/04/2026 18:32

Cheers.

I've got the song stuck in my head now 🤣🤣

I have a really aggressive version of oom pah pah stuck in mine. For after the drizzle. Obvs.

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 13/04/2026 18:38

This might be the funniest Mumsnet thread I’ve ever read.

But I’d leave a note to say you’re moving out soon and would he like to grab a coffee before you go and leave your number.

It’ll happen or it won’t, and at most it’ll be mildly embarrassing for a few weeks.

MissFenellaPrism · 13/04/2026 18:40

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 13/04/2026 18:38

This might be the funniest Mumsnet thread I’ve ever read.

But I’d leave a note to say you’re moving out soon and would he like to grab a coffee before you go and leave your number.

It’ll happen or it won’t, and at most it’ll be mildly embarrassing for a few weeks.

I wouldn't use the word "grab" I'd use the word "sip" 😘

MissFenellaPrism · 13/04/2026 18:41

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 13/04/2026 18:38

This might be the funniest Mumsnet thread I’ve ever read.

But I’d leave a note to say you’re moving out soon and would he like to grab a coffee before you go and leave your number.

It’ll happen or it won’t, and at most it’ll be mildly embarrassing for a few weeks.

I've got "The Ride of the Valkyries" stuck in mine, but that's probably just my love of Wagner.

Happyjoe · 13/04/2026 19:06

Have a BBQ with a handful of friends next time it's warm then invite him? Hopefully we will have a warm weekend sometime in the next 3 months...!

Dontknowwhattobelieve2 · 13/04/2026 19:15

@ClaredeBear Absolutely not🤣 he knocked on my door a couple of weeks later and asked if I’d go on a date with him. I politely declined, things have been very awkward since!

awayhay · 13/04/2026 19:18

I would ask if he wants to go for a coffee when you next bump into him

Notabarbie · 13/04/2026 20:55

MissFenellaPrism · 13/04/2026 17:39

... better still, outside his front door.

OP forget knocking demurely at his door. This is clearly the answer.

Notabarbie · 13/04/2026 21:02

OhBumBags · 13/04/2026 18:30

🎵 As long as he needs me
Oh, yes, he does need me
In spite of what you see
I'm sure that he needs me

I'll make our love sizzle
Stood there with me lemon drizzle
I know he'll want more
If I push up me tits while looking demure🎵

😂😂😂😂😂😂

You're all making light of the OP's plight. This could be her one true love but if she follows your advice she will eat both lemon drizzle cakes alone, push up bra or no push up bra.

My idea had merit.

Hollowvoice · 13/04/2026 21:08

I'm now quite worried about the implications of making lemon drizzle cake..

Notabarbie · 13/04/2026 21:11

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 13/04/2026 17:51

E. Sit in the stroller and when he passes ask if you are in his way.

This saves writing a potentially embarassing note and initiates a direct conversation. For a more dramatic effect suck on a bottle and wear a knitted bonnet.

If she's going to sit in the stroller., she may as well be eating cake and have some to share, surely.

Personally I think he'd be a fool to take food from anyone in those circumstances. OP if he accepts the cake when you're in the stroller, it's a red flag.

Notabarbie · 13/04/2026 21:15

SimonWigglesBaratoneVoice · 13/04/2026 17:56

What happens if you give a man lemon drizzle cake, but you have saggy boobs and aren't demure? Or does that require a red velvet cake?

He'll probably still eat it but probably find you less alluring. I don't think raising the bar to red velvet would overcome this and it's trying too hard. It takes fifteen minutes to knock out two lemon drizzle cakes.

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