Acquitence went to kiss toddler

[sarahmaguire]

I went to an event and it was just a few people. I have a 2 year old and we are going through the tantrum stage and crying when he can't do something.

I took something off him and that caused a small meltdown. It was just before nap time so I was getting my pram packed to go home and was looking at him but knew that we just had to go. I would take a minute or two and was right next to him. She comes and takes him and put him on her lap, doesn't ask, and then starts to mock kiss him saying "everything is ok".

I instantly get him and put him in the pram, of which is a struggle because tired toddler = only one solution.

I put the pram down flat and get him as settled as properly whilst saying Im going, and she continues to get right in his face and mock kiss. I really don't know if she will kiss him but really I wouldn't get that close to someone's kid who isn't a relative/I'm not good friends with. It was close enough for me to put my hand there to make sure.

Aibu? She has a kid the same age. I don't really want adults putting my child on their lap either, unless family or paid care. J

Just to be clear I was comforting him as much a si could but you know your child and what's best in the situation. I was also flustered and the event was winding downn so not disturbing anyone.

Who are you to accuse her of being a liar?

So she doesn't like something relatively harmless. It isn't a reason to accuse someone who was trying to help of doing something disgusting and trying to undermine her.

Oh for heavens sake OP, your friend or acquaintance was being nice! Can't you see that? She saw a distressed toddler who can't self-regulate and needed distraction, and she was trying to cheer him up.

People are so bloody ODD about other people interacting with their kids. Don't blame the rest of us when your children grow up equally strange and unable to interact with other people, will you?

We went on holiday to Greece with our kids when they were toddlers. The number of Greeks who picked them up, cuddled them and fussed them was amazing. Each time they said what beautiful blue eyes they had. They had never seen such blue eyes and were fascinated by them. The child loved the attention and we thought how sweet it was. I don't think anyone was traumatised by it.

Making kissing sounds is the same as making goo goo sounds - silly noises to distract a baby. You have totally overreacted.

On her own admission the woman didn't kiss her child, yet she keeps saying she did. Is that telling the truth?

And…when someone obviously doesn’t like you having their child on their lap and takes them away, don’t compound your behaviour by getting into child’s face and making kissy faces. The mum doesn’t like it, that should be enough.

There are many mums who would be fine with this, but OP is not, and she is allowed her boundaries.

Why do you keep saying she kissed him when your description of what she did says she was inches away from him and making kissing noises?

She did not kiss him

What she did was more the equivalent of going psstpsstpsst at a cat to soothe them.

You clearly dont want to be disagreed with, you only want posters to agree with you that she was wrong and disgusting but at least try to be consistent. Don't keep saying that she kissed him when in your own description she did nothing of the sort.

She didn’t say anything to the acquaintance.

Why are you accusing OP of calling her disgusting and trying to undermine her?

Hi, I'm budgetbuster... I have the capability (as do the vast majority of people on this thread who have agreed) to read.

The thread title bangs and OP bang on about Kissing a toddler. Then she quite clearly says the toddler wasn't kissed. She's lying to cause a drama that just didn't happen.

Any more questions?

That's so lovely! I know a few vicars (all women) who absolutely would do this (and quite possibly do)! Nice of the older women at coffee to do that too. A generation or two ago this would have been utterly unremarkable. How things have changed.

We're way too precious about the extended community taking an interest in our lovely children. The vast majority of people do not have: paedophiliac tendencies; harmful intent; cooties. Most people are kind and want to help.

Because she has had to type out responses to various people.

She has said mock kissing, do you really need her to add the ‘mock’ every time?

Give OP a break, she is dealing with a pile on from dozens of posters.

Ha, they may have thought secretly that your blue-eyed children were vampires

My Greek friend used to tell me that some of the older people she knew on Crete would side-eye tourists with blue eyes and mutter 'vrykolakas' under their breath. Pale-eyed people in older Greek folklore were often associated with undead creatures or vampires.

The lie is in the OPs posts. She first said about mock kisses and described what she meant by that (I.e. not actual kisses). In further posts she started getting huffy and exaggerated, asking posters if they would be OK with a friend kissing their kids. Posters were responding to say that there was no kissing. The OP was just trying to skew the narrative as the truth wasnt getting her the response she wanted.

Because she has had to type out the same response to various people.

She has said mock kissing, do you really need the ‘mock’ repeated every time?

Give OP a break, she is dealing with a pile on from dozens of posters.

We’ve had the loveliest experiences in Greece when my DS was little.

I remember him being about 2 and wouldn’t settle over dinner. The taverna owner came over, picked him up and walked him round the gardens so we had time to eat our food in peace. Every bar and restaurant we went in, they made a fuss of him gave him ice creams etc and were very affectionate,

We went back to same island when he was 13 and went there one evening - she remembered him and was amazed how big he was now

Mums have an instinct to step in and help other mums - it’s a good thing

From your OP, it sounds like you did need help and surely she could be forgiven for thinking that, too?

I get not wanting people you don’t know to kiss your child, but that doesn’t really seem to be what happened.

You sound absolutely insufferable.

It’s not a pile on ffs.

The vast majority disagree with her but rather than accept that with grace, she’s doubling down on the fact she’s in the right

Its AIBU don’t ask the question if you don’t want to hear the answer

She did not kiss the child.

Or maybe you could all show some humility by not piling on to the OP.

I wouldn’t have minded someone doing this to my child but OP is allowed her feelings.

So why continously ask people "would you like your kid to be kissed" blah blah

She's getting a pile on rightfully because she's spinning a very inaccurate tale and is being really spiteful about a woman who was trying to help her distressed child.

Your really over dramatic and you keep saying in your follow up post she kissed toddler BUT she didn't. Person isnt weird you are!

I would have been grateful she was trying to distract toddler.

You sound like a pain in the arse and if your going to be this insulstated by every interaction with your child, your going to spend lots time being insulted/cross

Okay, sorry, now you’re being ridiculous. How exactly was she undermining your parenting skills?

Yeah, what a weird bitch she is for trying to help a mother who seemed to be struggling with a toddler? You realise that toddlers can be a nightmare at times, right? That’s just the way they are; it’s nothing to do you with your parenting.

You sound overly sensitive and insecure, but that’s not her fault.

Nor is she the weird one 🙄.