What do you find hot in a man? What do you think men like on a woman? Lighthearted Friday chat 🤷‍♀️

[freedomformeismotherhood]

In a man:
Muscles
Height (sorry)
Aura - are they strong or weak?

I think straight men notice:
Skin (does it have that dewy look)
Shape
How much you care for yourself (manicure, hair, etc)

Slim with muscles, dark hair, blue eyes and shorter than me, if my exes are anything to go by.

I'm 5'11 and exes were 5'7 and 5'8.

First post nails it as per usual and I would add that I love arms, lower arms, the bits that hold you in a cwtch, that's shallow but it is also true for me.

And when you question someone's age because they harmlessly post about something trivial, youre gonna get a meme telling you where to go - bringing down the vibe with YOUR aura

Did you not find it awkward being out with them and kissing them? 👀

Genuine question, not being rude?

Or... David Haye - as of a minute ago

Fair point. But, my DH walks both our Pom AND our retriever off lead, together. That might confuse you 🤣🤣🤣

Two dogs - married!

I dont make the rules 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Quite right, good rule to follow. I have to say he doesn’t care if I get my hair or nails done though!

That is good - you want your husband not to care about these things 🙌

I do think the average man is attracted to a woman who takes care of herself

That includes having your hair and nails done (nothing super long or anything, but neat)

Oh, I'll take that. I thought I'd bored him to death 🤣

Definitely not! Even for a non car person, someone doing that is interesting at the very least! I'd find it cool myself, but i filled up the windscreen washer thing and was extremely proud 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🙈

#unwatch

Someone you can talk to for hours without noticing time go by, that you get on with and that you have a laugh with, both for men and women.

I've never had manicures or even done them myself but I've not been short on men. I think that is bollocks. Not all men want a barbie doll. I think most are genuinely looking at boobs, legs and bums. Personality is obviously important as well not that anyone on this thread is mentioning that. You're making men seem as shallow as anything! 🤣🤣🤣

I dunno why the manicure comment is getting so many people's backs up?! 😄😄😄

I mean - are your nails neat and clean? Are they filed nicely? You dont have odd length, unkempt nails, do you? That's what I mean

Kind of like you take good care of yourself and arent at all scruffy?

Ofc personality is important - but its looks i'm concerned with today 🤷‍♀️

Wit
Eyes
Mannerisms and body language
Voice
Smell

My taste in men- Tall( over 6ft), clean, polite, kind, calm.
DH likes a pretty face and a fun spirit

I think theres something to be said for men liking a fun outgoing spirit in women 🤔

😂😂it really did get my back up. I just thought no man has ever been interested in my nails unless he wanted them scratching down his back. Although you have jogged my memory on something. I wouldn't dream of doing it now as I have old lady toes but in my youth it wasn't uncommon for girls to not have nail polish on toes as long as toes were nice. I went to a local pub and some random bloke had a go at me because I didn't have nail polish on my toes. I wish I could go back in time with my older lady attitude and tell him to go and fuck himself. 😂

I recently read a definition of demi sexual and it absolutely describe the wah attraction works for me. Each serious relationship I've had (there have been 3, most recently 20 yes with my husband) I've suddenly become attracted to the person after conversation and getting to know them. Like I objectively frequently think someone is attractive physically and had lots of first dates back between relationships and they just didn't go anywhere as I had no romantic interest after a single conversation it was just not there. So I've had a date for instance with a very objectively attractive man who slept in my bed that night and I just didn't feel any sexual attraction. Yet my husband kissed me on the second date walking me to a bus stop and I'd absolutely have ahagged him in the street the attraction was so instant and overwhelming. Still is actually 20 yes later.

What men find attractive, I dunno I have to assume it's complex and multifaceted as it is for me.

To me intelligence is not having some PHD certificate on the wall or being chartered in some professional career. Its just being switched on, emotional and social intelligence, being able to read the room, aware of current affairs, curious, self awareness, not afraid to change your mind etc.

But I think 'demi sexual' actually means just 'normal' for a vast number of people, in other words, it's a meaningless term. So you don't leap into bed with everyone you find visually attractive, your brain and emotions have to be engaged before you start to want sex with them. That's not any kind of unusual or different 'sexuality' - that's how it is for many people. It really annoys me when people stick a label on what is normal human behaviour,

I don't know if I agree, I absolutely would have jumped into bed with my husband as soon as I experienced sexual attraction towards him, my point being I wasn't not 'jumpibg into bed' with men I saw as objectively attractive, I just had no desire to have sex with them. If I felt that level of sexual attraction frequently I'd have a much higher 'body count'.

That's exactly what I mean, it's totally normal not to feel immediate sexual attraction, even if someone aesthetically ticks all the boxes, it's commonplace that you need to get to know them before sexual urges kick in.

I'm not saying everyone is like that, but what I mean is it's not an obscure, niche way to be that requires the label of 'demi sexual' - there are probably more people, especially women, who feel like that, than people who would feel the desire to have sex with someone before they'd got to know them at all.

Hmmm, not sure I agree....