What do you find hot in a man? What do you think men like on a woman? Lighthearted Friday chat 🤷‍♀️

[freedomformeismotherhood]

In a man:
Muscles
Height (sorry)
Aura - are they strong or weak?

I think straight men notice:
Skin (does it have that dewy look)
Shape
How much you care for yourself (manicure, hair, etc)

😂

Gosh, I don't know. The men I know at least claim to hate that fake eyebrows/ fake eyelashes/ fake teeth look.

A smile and friendliness goes a long way in my opinion. I was in the pub the other week with my boyfriend who’d gone outside and a younger man shyly came running up to me with my scarf and said “you forgot your scarf. I’ve got to tell you that I can see you’re attached but you’re stunning” and then smiled in a friendly way, and I’m definitely no Kate Moss. I went on my way happy with my scarf and a compliment.

😄 I must say, I didnt mean long pointy nails

Just clean french manicured types!

Ditto on blue eyes though!

So you dont really have a type, but blue eyes get you?

I always smile and am friendly.

not asking for much are we?! 🤣😱

Lucky you!

Haha, like I say, the sample size is small - I met DH when I was still in my teens. So maybe I've missed out on a whole world of skill and endowment. But I don't think so...

Northern
Dark hair
must be bearded and hairy
Must have a manual job
Rough hands

How about the men?

Previously, I would have said long hair for women but since I’ve had mine cut super short, I’ve got more attention from men. I didn’t consider how they would view it when I was in the barbers for the first time though.

Love this

I like tall slim but muscular though, but agree with everything else

Do you know what, randomly I like long hair on men 😄

No idea why, I wear extensions myself - then again I think women look better with long hair so maybe that's it.. maybe i'm going bi in my old age 🤔

For me it’s:
Sense of humour
Practical and capable
Nice forearms
Glasses

I think men like a woman’s silhouette, so slim waists but curvy hips
Hair
a pretty face
Curiosity in them

Oh ok. I have to disagree with you here. I've never met a man with long hair I fancied. Nope nope nope. I don't care if he can lift me in one arm and build a tree house with the other. It just doesn't work for me 😂

Except, maybe, Jack Sparrow...

Interesting. I've considered cutting mine, just to save the daily faff of washing, brushing etc. But DH isn't keen. He likes to hold onto it at certain moments iykwim.... And I kinda thought a lot of men liked that / the idea of that.

Personally though I find women with shaved heads and tattoos the most attractive women to me. I'm straight but if I had to pick, that looks would definitely win for me

Really 👀

Ive had a few comments re nails 😄, I really didnt mean super long ones!

Okay - agree that being friendly helps. But not too friendly! I feel like holding back a little helps, no?

This is what I think, they notice when a woman has spent some money taking care of herself 👀👀

Thank you for that. What you say about you and your DH having different smarts and complementing eachother is exactly what we've got too. And yes, small piggy hands are gross and creepy 😂 I'm a sucker for a hairy man. Men who remove all their body hair creep me the fuck out😅

Has anyone else had a sudden change in type?

Up until having children when I was early 30s I had a general type, boyish charm etc think Damon Albarn when he was in Blur.

Once I had children I suddenly saw the appeal of more obviously masculine, competent men (ie not complete knuckle draggers), think Bruce Willis in Die Hard.

I assume its hormonal.

But then if they're marrying the former - are they sexually attracted to them?

The latter are still getting married

I like in a man:

Well groomed (not ott but not scruffy)
Intelligent and well spoken
Decent Vocabulary, limited swearing
Sense of humour
Usually prefer dark haired men or grey hair
No specific visual qualities - just that connection really

The Flip side is that men who are the opposite of this are not for me!

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Broad shoulders, chunky build rather than skinny, but not someone who’s obsessed with the gym. A hairy chest, some stubble or a tidy beard. Height - I don’t tend to find shorter men attractive. A tool belt 😂

Omg musicians

Matty healy is hot for this reason