What do you find hot in a man? What do you think men like on a woman? Lighthearted Friday chat 🤷‍♀️

[freedomformeismotherhood]

In a man:
Muscles
Height (sorry)
Aura - are they strong or weak?

I think straight men notice:
Skin (does it have that dewy look)
Shape
How much you care for yourself (manicure, hair, etc)

Intelligence, ability to laugh when women are funny, ability to put aside ego and listen rather than assume criticism is a battle commencing.

I personally don't like bald men or men with excessive body hair, but some women are drawn to these like moths to a flame, so your responses will be wide and varying!

Men I don't think are too picky, even the ones who like the barbie doll look would bang something over a size 12/flat chested/brunette if they got a chance I suspect. Men are more visual however, so having a personality is usually not a prerequisite.

I find nice eyes, good smile, kind nature very attractive.
My DH is 6’1 dark, handsome and overweight.
He wasn’t my type when we met, I used to be attracted to 5’8 men, good arms, not muscular, cheeky chaps but they were mostly dickheads.

As a man, I don't tend to notice skin, unless it really leathery and over UV exposed and makes you look older than your years. I notice a woman's shape, but to me it's not really a yardstick for attractiveness, I'm attracted to lots of different body shapes, except maybe the extreme ones. No interest in manicures or salon fresh hair, or over groomed/perfect presentation. If anything I find that slightly off putting/intimidating. Long, pointy nails look like talons and are somewhat terrifying!

It's taken me til my mid 40's to realise it, but I'm a sucker for blue eyes. Not saying I don't find women with other eye colours attractive, but for me having blue eyes is a trump card.

In a man I like:

1. Decent sized shoulders (I’m less fussed about height (as long as they’re not smaller than me), but small shoulders is a deal breaker for me)
2. A good jaw (no round chubby faces)
3. A nice mouth (as shallow as it might sound, I’ve been put off some lovely men by their mouth. I just couldn’t imagine kissing it!).

I don’t really know what men look for, but they often compliment me on my hair, which is long and thick, so I guess that they must at least notice that. I think they also look at body shape and proportions (boobs, hips, waist, bum etc).

Physically - I like a nice back. Chests, muscles, arms etc. do very little but I melt when a man has a shapely back and shoulders (a nice bum helps as well!)

I also won't glance at a man over 6ft, shorties only!

In a man, I’m physically attracted to

broad shoulders, narrow waist and hips

eyes that can speak

a freely given smile

strong hands

clothes that fit

Other attributes that make me go weak at the knees:

academic and emotional intelligence

acts of service towards me and others

a large community of decent long-standing friends both male and female

Creative/artistic - plays instruments, writes, that sort of thing

Things that men have said they find attractive about me

my shoulders to waist proportions

naughty eyes

big smile, huge laugh

party-vibes

big brown eyes & curly brown hair

Bum

appetite for life

intelligence and seniority at work

confidence

Freckles

What I love is an intelligent man with a good sense of humour, who's kind and gentle but has really strong hands and kind of looks like he'd throw you onto the bed. His eyes twinkle when he grins and I get goosebumps when he whispers in my ear.

I dont know what men like. I assume its as varied as what women like.

I agree. I think insecure men are put off by intelligent women. I’m glad you found someone who values you for “you” and I’m sorry your first partner was a shit.
I am definitely more intelligent in an academic way than DH is, but he has other smarts that I don’t. So
we compliment each other.
Physical attributes I like in a man are being taller than me and having nice eyes with dark, visible lashes
A deal breaker would be small piggy hands 😆

I like in a man:

1. Intelligence
2. A reader
3. Socialism
4. Facial hair
5. Not obsessed with his appearance but is clean and hygienic, smells nice
6. Keeps his own house clean and has no expectation of my getting involved in that
7. Can cook

Men like in women:

1. Slim OR sexy
2. Pretty
3. Long hair
4. Job that doesn't over shadow their job
5. Some money but not more money than the bloke
6. No children

Basically, I'm not fussed about appearance or height in a man as long as he's clean, solvent and a fully functional adult. But I'm pretty sure most men want an attractive woman who won't out earn/over shadow them and is at least a little submissive although maybe not as much as dude bros want us to be.

Ooh, for me, in all honesty because it's anonymous, what I find attractive in men is:
Height - nothing silly, but 5'10 + please.
Build - strong and broad. IRL, that basically means I don't find skinny men remotely attractive. But I also don't find fat attractive. There's a fairly wide range, but it has definite limits on either side! Drives me wild when I see DH lift something heavy, oh my...

Eyes and hair I'm not fussy. I like decisiveness and competence, like a feeling that he can take control and sort it out (it being pretty much anything - broken dishwasher, puking toddler, missed flights, sad PMS-y wife etc etc).

I like tattoos but don't require them. He has to be funny and generous, and have interests/ hobbies that aren't phone or watching sports. And has to be sufficiently sized (which doesn't mean silly big, just, you know, at least bit of a mouthful so to speak 😂) and know what he's doing.

Lucky me, DH ticks all the boxes.

I have no idea what men find attractive. I'm guessing slim, good shaped boobs and bum, long hair, ready to laugh, enthusiastic about sex, and not grabby?

Intellectual curiosity
Kindness and empathy
Humour

You sound nice whether you're male OR female. 😍

Nice eyes
nice body
smile

Aura strong

Back & Bicep muscles 🥵
Masculine energy/confidence
Smells good

I think Men like
A pretty face
Light and fun personality
Boobs/bum

What do men like in a woman?

takes care of herself
clean and tidy
good dress sense

bit some men like total opposite to above.

As I’ve got older, I’ve realised that men notice clothing a lot more than I ever thought too. In my 20s I tended by shop cheap fashion brands, and when I got into my 30s, I got more picky and started buying higher end and putting more effort into outfits. I expected women to notice, but I was truly shocked by the number of compliments that I got from men. Prior to this, I honestly thought that men didn’t really notice what women wore (unless it was something tight and revealing).

OP you’re so wrong.

Men don’t care about “dewey” skin or fingernails. They literally couldn’t give a toss.

It’s boobs, body shape, a nice smile and being approachable/friendly, but not too loud and garish. It’s not let me down so far!

I think men want to marry a naturally attractive lady, minimal makeup, similar level of education, family values and income etc.

But, they want a one night stand with the daft eyebrow, implants, caked on makeup 'all look the same Russian Doll ' types.

The rare ability to see what needs to be done and to do it.

Most well endowed men I’ve known as friends or lovers have been complete and utter arseholes, perhaps I’ve just been unlucky. Current boyfriend just over normal size maybe 7” but chemistry and likability is off the scale and he definitely knows how to use his tackle and pleasure me. Asks for me to tell him what I want.

What do I find attractive in a man 🤔

Firstly, what I don't find attractive at all;

A man who talks too much, loves the sound of their own voice, talks over people.
A man who doesn't take care of their hygiene, physical and mental wellbeing
Someone who is really into clothes, accessories and flashy watches
A man who is into flashy cars
Work shy, or lacking in ambition (not about money)
Who flirts with other women, or has a wandering eye

So, what I find attractive

A quiet man, a thinker, listens more than talks.
Dark and moody looks (olive skin and dark hair)
Goes the gym, looks after their skin and teeth, makes healthy choices, but not into fashion and bling
Hardworking and ambitious on some level
Loyal

Oh I can’t stand indecisive men, who don’t know where to go for a date and so on. Also prefer a confident man. Not too outgoing though.

Well yes I sort of agree on a man mountain type...

but you know, if he opened his mouth and said he was gonna vote Reform, or that the moon landing was a hoax, then I wouldn't care about the size of his cock or forearms he'd immediately lose his hotness 😄

From the very small sample size of my experience, the biggest was by far the worst. The second biggest was the best, but not because of his size. I married that one.