Shocked by what my BF did to me

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This happened at the weekend but has kind of dragged on to the week. I don’t live with my boyfriend but we’ve been together a few months and we spend every other weekend at one of our houses. We were at mine this weekend just gone. We have a quite ‘jokey’ relationship and banter a lot. On Sunday, he hovered over my face (having taken his shorts down) and broke wind. I was in bed on my phone at the time. I went mad at him and he kept defending it as a joke and says that I always joke about doing it to him. I said yes, a joke. I’ve told him I want space, he has attempted to apologise over messaging and asked to call me. I just feel like it’s a line crossed even if it was done purely as a ‘joke’. Is it me or is that the ultimate disrespect?

I thought this too. You dont want him thinking you are one of the lads. You need him to be respectful.

I’ve been with my husband for over twenty years and he has not once farted in front of me.

That's really really gross but sounds like you both have an immature sense of humour. Really, who AWLAYS makes jokes about farting in their partner's face?I'm also always a bit wary of people who use the word "banter" as it's usually code for being a twat to each other and dressing it up as humour.

If you decide to forgive him I think you should both rethink the boundaries of your banter.

He treated you like one of his mates. Gross. You're not mates.

Reading this post and the comments I truly now believe I need some boundaries and believe it is a good thing I am single 😅. I would be grossed out but would absolutely not be finishing him for that. It’s literally just a fart.

He might have assumed that and he does sound sorry. You could give him one more chance.

Is he the kind to send you dick pics? He sounds like he is, thinks a woman is just thrilled to be with him, she should accept anything from him and he can treat her with utter disdain for his own enjoyment

I had strong words with my nephew for breaking wind next to me at the weekend , there’s no way I’d tolerate this from a partner - would be permanent and terminal ick

Grim all round, though given your jokes perhaps you belong together.
The last time someone farted in my presence I protectively vomited. There were thirty family members in a private dining room and I was suffering from HG.
I'm fairly well-known for being a bit delicate like that, and this was a teenager. If someone did what your bf did, he better hope I didn't have something heavy handy.

An acquaintance of mine dumped someone for farting in bed. She is perpetually single …

Sorry but I'm really confused. He pulled down his pants and farted at you, which is hideous. But you say that You did it to him? Have I missed a post here?

Either way, it sounds revolting, immature and inconsiderate on both parts.

Whenever I feel a bit down and lonely about being single, a thread like this makes me feel as if I lead a lovely life. Seriously, is this what passes as communication between two grown adults.? OP makes a juvenile joke to her partner who then literally carries out the act. Very immature behaviour

Perhaps I'm a snob but I can't quite get passed how you would joke about doing it to him - and now he has done it. Maybe an apology is enough if this is something you "banter" about anyway..

Gross but also why are you joking about it yourself...?

It would give me the ick.
I could never get over it and would be nauseated every time he wanted a blow job that he would fart on my face which would frankly make me vomit.
It’s a fart too far I’m afraid.

This sounds like a scene from Shameless. Utterly grim from both of you, you set the tone and he followed your lead.

It's disgusting but it's not sexual assault for goodness sake

Are you 10 year old mates or an adult romantic couple?

No you don’t need boundaries, some of the people responding are totally nuts. It’s a fart, who cares.

I really couldn’t get worked up about a fart.

Confirmation that butt hole and plums were hovering nearby as he let out a loud stinky fart in OP’s face

This would be unwelcome to many

omg Me too
thank god you haven’t moved In with this revolting man!

The pair of ye need to wise up. What a weird thing to joke about let alone actually do🤢

Every time you fart shit also comes out - even if it’s just a little bit it does come out 🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢🤢

That's not something to be particularly impressed by or brag about.

I see these horse around/play pranks type of couples on tiktok, YouTube etc..
Often think that I just wouldn't want to be treated like a little brother.
It's not for me. Where do you draw the line?
Nah.