What's some --more-- juicy gossip that you can't share irl but can share with nosy strangers on mumsnet?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

The follow up thread to my one from last year 🤭

Does the child not resemble the sperm donor?

I suppose you have to admire the green credentials here because if I wanted to really hide that I was drinking vodka at that rate, I would smash the bottles in a newspaper, roll it all up and wang it in the normal trash.

You’ve put a lot of thought into it!

Queen Victoria married her cousin.

Just name changed for this as it’s still raw.

Our close neighbour and friend of 20 years didn’t die of the terminal cancer he had, but by taking his own life. I knew he was probably going to and didn’t do anything to stop him. I’m glad he took back some control at the end. He was only 46.

I would agree with you, he took control and he has that right.

No idea as have never seen or met him. I haven’t seen the child IRL for about 8 years but in photos he looks like his Mum. I think we often see what we expect to see too.

It’s not a huge deal, but many years ago I went on a skiing holiday with my best friend and her Mum. We were about 18, so her Mum was late 30s.
Thinking back, her Mum was quite unhappily married to her Dad, who was a nice enough man, but never wanted to do anything - wouldn’t go on holiday, didn’t want to go out etc.
There was a gorgeous young ski instructor - maybe mid 20s and we thought he was fabulous. One night my friend had got off with a bloke at the apres ski disco and I decided to walk back to our room (I was sharing with my friend). As I rounded the corner of the hotel, my friend’s Mum was outside having a passionate snog with the ski instructor.
I snuck past, didn’t say anything and have never mentioned it to anyone. Her Mum has since divorced and is with a new partner (not the ski instructor!).

Everyone has two alleles for each gene expressing blood type. Type A blood can either be from AA alleles or AO as A is dominant and O is recessive. So if one parent is AO and one OO a child could either be AO or OO - 50:50 chance. If the parent with type A blood has AA alleles all children from a AA/OO cross will have AO alleles and type A blood.

But yes, if you have AB blood (A and B alleles being co-dominant and your husband has type O blood, your children have a 50:50 chance of AO or BO alleles - type A or type B blood.

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Just for the people talking about cousin marriages. I remember thinking it was quite normal as a child because I used to read Beatrix Potter and I remember this line:

When Benjamin Bunny grew up, he married his Cousin Flopsy. They had a large family, and they were very improvident and cheerful.

That was written in 1909. I know they're rabbits, but it was still normal - even wholesome - enough to be written about in a children's book and I can't imagine that changed for a good few years. I would be willing to bet it was still quite common up until about 1950s

It's still legal today but I doubt many outside of Asian communities would admit to it 🤣

They're rabbits though!!

Also there are cousins and there are cousins. It's truer to say that in the past English people lived in more settled communities and married within them. If your extended family lived in the area you'd be in touch with quite distant relatives in a way that wouldn't be as common now. I'm sure first cousin marriages happened more often, but I don't think they were ever that common and they were very close to the consanguinity laws.

In Jane Austens
Persuasion one of the musgrove sisters marries her first cousin. Think it’s the mothers who are sisters.
In Pride & Prejudice Lady Catherine hopes that her nephew Darcy will marry her daughter Anne.
Fanny in Mansfield Park is in love with and marries her cousin Edmund.
So must have been common or not unheard of in Austen’s times.

I knoooow they're rabbits but they're personified, they wear clothes and eat current buns from the bakers.

It was normal enough for Miss Potter to put it in a children's book and not expect it to be questioned. If it was weird in 1909 then she would not have been popular for making Edwardian parents have to explain such things.

I remember in 90s then bf flatmate got with his cousin . . .. gross but apparently they had never met previously (flatmate dad had died suddenly when he was young and he had nothing to do with his dad side of family for ages . . . long back story) but he moved to same city for uni that his cousins he had never met lived . . . and yeah. Totally gross. But then the female cousin was in a university tutorial of mine (had same rare distinctive double barreled name and I knew her first name) I couldn't look at her for whole term - luckily she had no idea who I was.

Mine is that a close friend of mine cheated on her partner for years with a married man. She ended it eventually, he still doesn’t know. The wife found out and she stayed.

I don’t know about anyone else but I judge myself so incredibly harshly sometimes and it’s nice to have a reminder that at least I’m not cheating on anyone or breaking anyone’s heart or getting involved with married men!

Yes you can. AB x OO = AO or BO

A guy I was dating for a few weeks took the condom off during sex ‘stealthed’ me and got me pregnant - I had a termination, he was keen for it and pushed me in that direction. I was a mess. He was awful to me. Unbenown to me he had a girlfriend the whole time in the next city. he is now the professional, family man on social media - married and holding his children up like trophies. I have toyed with telling her but he was so awful to me I find it hard to believe he can be not abusive to her and she knows on some level.

Stealthing can be prosecuted.

I supported a man with learning difficulties who's father was his half brother. Nothing surprises me now after working in this sector for over twenty years

Does that mean he had sex with his own mother ?

How did that work?

Yes I made a whole post a month or so ago after finding out he is now married with a child on social media - 159 comments and likes ‘beautiful family’ etc - no karma whatsoever.

I went to local services / rape crisis but decided ultimately not to prosecute as we are both professionals in the same career - I had gone through enough