Ditzy women

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... Drive me bloody bonkers. Just that really . I'm probably going to be flamed but seriously - I notice them more and more and maybe its my mindset ( driving, parking, meandering taking ages to decide in front of a supermarket fridge, forgetting appointments we've made, at work not knowing whst meetings are about etc.)

Anyone share my frustration!

That also sounds like there is a lot going on for you OP and it is overwhelming at times. I too hope you are ok and you have people around to support you. Do take care of yourself and hopefully find some time to drop the busy schedule and relax.

I have my children with me most of the time and it's made me much more tolerant and patient of others because I spend a lot of time explaining to them why it's important to take other people's limitations and situations into account.

Kids are naturally impatient and curious about what is going on around them, so I explain that we don't know if someone is trying to park with a sore neck and that's why they're a bit slow, they might be trying to manage a mental shopping list and remember who asked for what while they're standing in front of a shelf, they could be having an 'inane' conversation with an elderly relative while they shop because it's the easiest time to multi-task etc.

We sometimes make a game of why someone might be driving slowly: wedding cake on the back seat, fish tank in the boot, driving someone with a broken leg to hospital etc.

It is a good reminder to be tolerant and a much more fun way to spend a car journey than seething.

Life is generally a lot nicer if you assume that people you don't know are generally doing their best and are facing their own difficulties. If you choose to believe that they are doing things deliberately to be difficult, you're only really annoying yourself.

Wow, I suppose “ ditzy” men don’t exist then?? Many “ditzy” women are usually working at 10000mph most days. Maybe consider that, before you get “ frustrated” ?

Of course they do exist. I'm not talking about the ones going 100mph as you can usually tell . I'm talking about the ones who have no clue anyone else exists and have hours of time to get simple things done . There's a difference and you can tell . As I said its possibly personality type as someone pointed out earlier

You are a very patient person indeed! Fwiw I've never believed anyone does this on purpose . Still frustrating but I appreciate the different reasons and views and I'll try to remind myself next time I'm seething driving 10mph on a 30 road behind someone!

I believe it’s “ditsy”.

You would hate me then. I dont actively try to be ditzy, but fibromyalgia gives me terrible brain fog that pisses me off and now peri added into the mix I dont know if im coming or going. Actually fucking hate it.

Must be great to be perfectly normal. That would be one of my 3 wishes if I ever got them. 🥺

So it is...I spelt it wrong too. 🤣 oh well, another thing to add to my dopey brain.

Why not get your supermarket shop delivered for example. Cut out stuff that stresses you.

Life is busy! Isn't everyone a "busy mum" these days?

Life is too short to spend in queues behind people who are taking 10 times as long as they should. Especially when they do it deliberately. I don't think most people do but some definitely do - they are either attention seeking or ditsy or both.

I posted earlier about my own struggles and want to say thank you for taking this on board.

You sound a little like my dh used to be and I know this is a big cliche but I’m genuinely trying to be kind, are you ok? Like actually are you ok? You’re human and have a lot on your plate and it sounds like you’re a bit like my dh used to be when I first became ill and our child also has SEN, you sound stressed and almost at breaking point and with so much in your plate, you’re probably spending a lot of head space worrying about people you love and keeping yourself together and I know y gays very to do. I don’t think you’re the high powered hot shot, this post makes me think you’re mum a parent at breaking point and that stress is coming out like it used to with dh. My dh has always been a “I need to get this down asap or I can’t relax” and instead of looking at ways to manage his stress, he’d blame everyone else that mildly inconvenienced him for being stupid. Lots of people in his family are like this and I think his childhood plays a big part.

My husband used to get really short when folk would drop things or bump into things or walk too slow and part of it for him was the constant low level underlying stress and worry and wanting to get all the things done for everyone. But it presented as anger and almost like he felt because he was stressed and rushing, anyone not like him is just useless and for a long time, seeing him be like that about people made me anxious about my own declining health and “slowing him down” He and his family always say they can tell genuine people “like you” from the ditzy and I think, it’s easier to lie to themselves and pretend it’s everyone else that’s the useless idiot because the alternative is that they’ll have to reflect and realise they’re the type of person they call ignorant bullies when they treat the SEN and disabled family members the same way.

My husband has really done a lot of work on himself when. Dh is now able to catch himself in the moment and instead of stressing and rushing, and blaming other people, he worked to change because he never wants to be reason anyone with the same struggles as our child and myself, goes home in tears and feeling shit about themselves because they need longer to do certain basic tasks.