Friend price checked my DH's birthday gift to me, in my face

[BigBird100]

A girlfriend googled the price of my DH's birthday gift to me (piece of tech) on the day I received it. She asked me what I received and I mentiined it over coffee and was beyond mortified she googled it and priced it. Who does that?

A jealous person.

Yes. It’s strange, we’re not 12 years old.

You need to be 12 years old to make conversation with your friend about her birthday?

Very strange.

I thought the same, originally thought the DH didn't spend much on her, but she's now clarified it was expensive. Lots of people incorrectly think mortified means something like horrified/appalled rather than embarrassed so I assume it's that.

tbh either way it's a bit of an OTT reaction. Googling it as you were sitting there and telling you she was doing so is the only bit I find a bit odd - checking the price isn't weird in itself. It's not as though the cost of a phone is a state secret.

"Did you get anything nice for your birthday?"- nice, normal question which allows the other person to talk about the handmade card she got from her kid or the random jam she got from her aunt etc etc rather than focusing on £££

"Tell me what your OH got you" followed by googling- pretty crass.

I think she was crassly trying to say OOOH lucky you!

ie, she was trying to make you feel good.

So you're being a bit judgy I think..

I don’t think it is rude to ask what you got. I do think it’s rude to ask how much it cost, even ruder to Google and price check.

Some people are very invested in the cost of other people’s things. Someone I used to work with was obsessed with my engagement ring. Not a day went by without them asking me how much it cost, and could they wear it for a few hours!

Maybe she wants one herself

And yes she probably wanted to see if she could afford one.

Do adults really ask each other what they got for their birthdays though?

I might ask, I might not. As In “did you get anything nice?”/“got any plans?” Just making conversation and I wouldn’t necessarily ask, but I wouldn’t think it was weird to ask. I definitely wouldn’t price check a gift in front of someone, even if I wanted one for myself.

But it doesn't really tell you anything I don't think - only what they spent on that particular present which could be a one off. And you wouldn't know if they've paid cash or got finance so you can't judge accurately what their financial situation is?

If you tell me about a gift and I cannot envisage that particular thing, I'd Google it and if you Google it the first hit you'll get is, say, Amazon, even without clicking on any links, the price is there.

It's a key feature of how any search engine operates. Even if you Google something not purchasable eg space rocket, it'll top the search results with some space rocket related products and their price, from a handful of major outlets.

So I'm thinking her intention was originally just to see what it even looks like, and then distraction into mentioning the price.

You paint it as if you said, I got a blabla and her immediate response was hang on now, I'll just check what that sells for.

That's just how it reads to me, maybe I'm wrong or I've missed something?

Crossing the line? Why do people on here feel the need to live their life in a constant battle. Why would you let any of this bother you?

Have we all lost sense that people are human and if friends do strange things (and it is a bit strange) we just keep living our life. Once again a poster comes on here and uses such heated language against a supposed friend that I wonder if people on here are on a teen drama.

If it’s a bit of tech, it’s not like the price would be secret
My friend got a shark face masks for Xmas and I had a google and was shocked how expensive they are. And probably said ‘wow can’t believe Dave spent that much on one!’

I totally would do this. I promise I won't do it again!

Your friend is nosy so what she was curious not a crime. I would say did you get anything nice for your birthday then maybe say ooh that must be expensive or pricey I wouldn’t think it was rude I might have looked when I got home though.

How embarrassing for your friend. She has no etiquette

I think in these specific circumstances she meant well, like "wow he's really spoiled you, you lucky thing!" Clearly you didn't receive it that way - maybe you're a private person and it embarrassed you - but plenty of people would have felt good about it, I think.

I would google the price but I definitely wouldn't tell her about it. That's a bit mean.

Your friend is keeping score. That doesn't seem very friendly to me.

I've come across people, often people I hardly know and wouldn't confide in, who ask outright things like "how much is your house worth?" "How much did you holiday cost." even "How much do you earn.?"

I'm always a bit shocked that they can be so brazen, its none of their damn business and I can only assume its because they are running some kind of comparison judgement in their heads.

I generally think that people who do that fall into the category of knowing the price of everything, but the value of nothing.

There's not enough context to tell

If my friend got a gift (I wouldnt ask, but say they said "oh look what DH got for my birthday!") and I thought "Fuck me that looks expensive" hell yeah I would google it!

But I wouldnt tell her, wouldnt comment and secretly be green with envy!

Me but not in front of you

Yanbu.
Rude
Uncouth
Vulgar.

Certainly not a friend.

Depends how it was done.