AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

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Prepared to be told otherwise and of course I know I have had some degree of privilege. As a child I had a good education and opportunities and I accept that is probably classed as ‘privileged.’ But I don’t think that overall my adult life is, I think it’s pretty standard.

Had 50k towards house deposit (everyone I know had had financial support to buy a house)

Gifted 2k to 3k a year (again over birthday and Christmas etc this would seem usual to my friends)

DD has (small) house on trust from grandparents. I only know one other family who haven’t been in a position to make some provision for their grandchildren, not necessarily a house but cash etc

Earnings 71k, again this is of course not a low amount but in terms of household income it’s not a lot these days.

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@BendingSpoons thank you, you’re one of the few posters who has actually educated me on this thread! I will look it up

Average wait for a council house is measured in years.

What job pays you £71k? Always interested to hear about career paths.

I honestly think OP is just trolling now - next they’ll say “why can’t homeless people just go to the council and get given a house” - nobody who is reasonably well educated as OP implied they are can be that blind to the world they live in.

This. Even if you claim you don’t know a single person who wasn’t gifted at least one of the above don’t you read or listen to the news?

Come on, nobody is this dumb

@thisist i work in finance (mid size)

Are you for real OP? 🙄

Hi from my council house. I got my tenancy after 6 months on the list due to fleeing domestic violence - this is incredible unusual. Waiting lists in many areas are 10 years +.
I have two degrees but can't earn anything like 71k.
Youre incredibly privileged.

The UK is not even in the top 10. 😬

Are you joking? I dont earn anything like you. Im a teacher. I have never received more than about £150 in a year as gifts from family (combined). I have no trust funds or property to pass on to anyone. Your responses to people are 100% princess. Totally clueless and perhaps a bit spoiled. Oh, and totally clueless as to how many people in THIS COUNTRY survive. Do you have any idea about the private rental market?!?!?

Thought you had a degree.

Christ on a bike.

I consider myself privileged. No one gave me £50k for a house. There is no house waiting in trust for my son. No one gives me thousands a year - I earn it.

You are DEFINITELY privileged. The definition of it. And you need to check it.

This reminds me of a scene from the film The Man Who Invented Christmas, someone is complaining to Dickens that WC people dont belong in books, he is a self made man blah blah blah and his wife meekly says 'well papa did gift us a very small paper mill'.

I am firmly middle class and our household income is £150ishk and we along with literally no one else in my MC circles were gifted a house, nor their kids.

Goady stealth boast post.

Omg, you’re unreal. Of course people are homeless, inc families with kids. Many more are in totally unsuitable accommodation so a family in a one bed flat.

Im 100% certain the answer is "no"

Either you are being a goady fucker or are just completely detached from the reality of most people's lives in the uk,

Yes, you are privileged. No, most people in the country don't get a shitload of help from mummy and daddy to buy a house, thousands of pounds of gifts each yeah and fully funded education, not to mention the help your dd has got.

If the OP isn't just trolling then she's above average in privilege but below average in intelligence - so swings and roundabouts.

Nah, we know too

I cannot believe you are this dim

You know this is not ‘average’.

Are you actually serious? My friend group are all university educated professionals, not one was gifted a house deposit.

However, most of us were privileged to be able to live with our parents during our twenties to be able to save for a deposit - I imagine that is the way most people manage to save a deposit. Only one of my friend group were able to go from renting to buying and that was due to inheritance from losing a parent.

Think she’s pretty much said this.

When do the kids go back from Easter holidays? These posts are getting more and more ridiculous. Just in case it’s real: most people will be lucky if they ever see £50K at once in their lives, nor does a magical money tree grow in their yard and give them an extra 2-3K a year when they’re already earning £40K+ over the average UK salary. And if EVERYONE you know had help buying a house, then no, your friends are not a varied bunch. Make friends with someone who rents or even flat shares; it’ll be your good deed for the year 😇

These threads should be blocked for being tedious.

The waiting list for council housing in my area is 3 years.

So yeah, sucks, doesn't it.