AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

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Prepared to be told otherwise and of course I know I have had some degree of privilege. As a child I had a good education and opportunities and I accept that is probably classed as ‘privileged.’ But I don’t think that overall my adult life is, I think it’s pretty standard.

Had 50k towards house deposit (everyone I know had had financial support to buy a house)

Gifted 2k to 3k a year (again over birthday and Christmas etc this would seem usual to my friends)

DD has (small) house on trust from grandparents. I only know one other family who haven’t been in a position to make some provision for their grandchildren, not necessarily a house but cash etc

Earnings 71k, again this is of course not a low amount but in terms of household income it’s not a lot these days.

I know nobody that has been gifted a house or anymore than 10k towards a deposit.
I am from a fairly average background.
You are a privileged person that knows privileged people.

You are extremely privileged and by the sounds of it only know other very privileged people.
have you ever considered trying to broaden your horizons by doing some volunteer work or something? I work with disadvantaged children. Families genuinely struggle to put food on the table and children are exploited into crime. It’s horrifying that you think you’re average

You gotta love a trainee bot.

We didn't magically have a house deposit. We worked and saved for years.

You are very privileged, more so than some other people I'd consider privileged. I suspect you are moving in circles where you don't know the level of privilege compared to your average Joe.

No one I know had a house deposit, no one I know had GPs put down money for a house for their GC.

Try visiting some houses/ flats/ rooms in the inner cities, where people have absolutely nothing - you will then understand why your post is goading and unnecessary.

Average in as much as there are thousands of other people with a similar backstory in the country, so not 'unique' or 'the most privileged' - yes.

Average as in the mean, mode or median wealth in the country or the world - no. What you have described is above average.

Good grief and I thought I lived in a privileged bubble. Well tbh, I do live in a privileged bubble but I'm not so utterly clueless to realise everyone, indeed the vast majority of people aren't in that bubble.

I grew up in a council house with no contribution towards first (and current) home.

I feel privileged to wake up in a country where there isnt active war going on, I have a roof over my head and I dont have to worry about where my next meal is coming from. I consider myself incredibly privileged because of this alone. I am grateful for the abundance of privilege I enjoy on top of that. You and I are not the same.

Like I tell my children, you are already in the top 5% just by the luck of being born where you were, when you were. You are probably top 2%, and the fact you don't acknowledge this makes it even more apparent how spoilt you actually are.

Travel.

I can’t decide if the OP really is this clueless about how the majority of people live in the UK or this is a wind up.

If you are genuinely serious, spend some time understanding how some of the poorest people live. I work for a charity that supports families living in poverty where kids go to school with shoes two sizes too small and no cost in winter. Where a mum might have fled domestic violence and the whole family only have the clothes they’re wearing. In some parts of my city, 45% of the kids there are living in poverty and you don’t think you’re privileged!

Are you really that naive? This cannot be real - do you not see homeless people on the streets? watch the news?

I visit homeless families all the time - often a family of 4 living in 1 x cheap hotel room while they try and get council housing - often where there are waits of 4-5 years.

People fleeing DV having to rent a tiny room with shared kitchen and toilet.

No one is giving those kids 2k at christmas. of skiing holidays or deposits for houses!

You may have more financially than a lot of people, but you have absolutely zero class to post this.

I don't think travel will broaden the OP's horizons.

The OP is a wind up but that doesn't foreclose discussion. There are plenty of clueless people out there.

Agree with pp, you only have to hear the news to feel like none of this is a given (safety as a nation, democracy, healthcare, etc) there's a war in Europe. There's the US and everything that teeters on a knife edge.

Just being here is lucky, anything else is a bonus.

It will if they go outside of the hotels to other countries and actually experience countries. If they go to a 5* hotel and say they’ve seen Mexico then no that’s probably not going to help.

Blimey!!
I know plenty of people like you - constantly receiving help from parents and/or receiving inheritances. This is privilege.
I also know plenty of people who don’t have such privileges.

I earn twice what you do but received only £1k help towards my first house from my parents which I was very grateful for (especially as I was earning much much less at the time) and I receive a £20 present at Christmas and birthdays from them.

• Average salary is 35k
• Average first time buyer is aged 35
• Roughly 60% own their home / 40 rent (half of that is privately and half is social housing)

Yes, you are but you know that aleady.

No help whatsoever for anything. Worked all hours, saved for years and lived in squalor to build up enough for a deposit. Then bought tiny flat with a mortgage, got promoted, earned more and bought small house. I thought this was the normal way of doing things!

tbf i think there's a difference between being aware you're rich/privileged/well off but indifferent to that fact and being privileged and denying it.

In a certain sense I get where the OP is coming from in that i am definitely the "poor" friend of my social circle and classmates, but like the op I'm still in the top 10 or 5 or whatever percent so i know to keep my mouth shut in public debate rather than try to claim that "actually things are quite hard" for me too.

the fact that the people you went to school and college with make 200-500Ka year and their parents can sub them half a mill does not mean that I get to claim man of the people status because you're on 80K a year and only get bumper payments for weddings or houses and a yearly stipend of 3k tax free

just accept you're privileged but that doesn't necessarily mean you're fucking minted, count your blessings and move on

No part of what I said could possibly be construed as ' so aggressive'!

Household income - not privileged.

House deposit and regular gifts - definitely more than most people receive, so yes privileged.

Dd house in trust - very much privileged.