£30 Easter budget

[Okayfolks]

My friend just told me her and her husband spend £30 each on each other on Easter eggs.

She’d prefer a nicer one and some small bits and he’d prefer lots of mid sized ones so he had about 8 eggs.

AIBU to think this is insane?

They have no kids.

Same here, and a similar conversation for Valentines and our wedding anniversary

You sound jealous OP.

How is it any of your concerns though?

I love curvy chocolate. Maybe they do too?

My OH & I used to do stuff like this pre kids and now we do similar with our kids. My brother and his wife used to join in with us as did my parents (I mean they still do but now it’s aimed primarily at the kids)
I also fondly recall the Christmas we went for a walk and were spotted by a family of all adults doing a silly hat competition who asked if we would come in, have a drink, & judge a winner.
Sometimes it’s just nice to be a bit silly or to enjoy the kind of stuff you did as a kid in the holidays. I very much doubt she’s doing it to show anyone anything. It will just be something that gives her joy

I got one for my mom, my elderly cousin (I am the only family member who still sees her for various reasons) and my partner.

I have been given one by my mom and my brother.

I don't think it's that unusual for adults to buy each other eggs, and there are certainly several in the shops that seem to me to be marketed towards adults.

YABU now I need to go eat the chocolate my sister gave me.

Some of the posher eggs (hotel chocolat for example) are around £30 so I can see that. £30 worth of cheap eggs is basically just a lot of packaging. Very inefficient chocolate to cardboard ratio. Though with the state of Cadburys these days it might be hard to tell the difference.

This is THEIR real world and it's nothing to do with you. You don't sound like you like her much so I suggest you distance yourself. For their sake.

So jealous of people who have more than you in every way. More personality, more money, more sense of fun, more love in their hearts. You sound like a mean spirited envious woman. You're lucky she's still your friend - if she reads this post she may not be anymore.

I mean, I agree the cookies thing is weird, but each to their own - it's not hurting anyone. If I suggested to my boyfriend that we decorate Easter cookies together he would think I had gone insane, but different strokes for different folks....

You say 'performative" - who do you feel they are performing this for? Do they stock it on social media?

Surely if they do, most people would just think, that's weird, grown adults doing an Easter activity aimed at kids. It's not like everyone will be seeing it and jealously envying them their sexy glamorous lifestyle....

I just don't know why it gets to you that much! And yeah, I wouldn't spend £60 on eggs myself, but it's not the worst extravagance ever. Pretty sure there are some lush looking ones in Hotel Chocolat that cost that much just for one, and some people must buy them.

My boyfriend is far from an extravagant spender, and he told me that last year the egg he got his mom was £30. It's just not that much to spend on an occasional treat. If you had said they spent £600, then I would hear you.....

It’s their life. If that’s what makes them happy it’s not for you to judge them.

You sound quite judgey @Okayfolks about them spending money "when they don't have kids."

It's a revolutionary idea, I know, but people without children are allowed to eat Easter eggs.

Wow. You really need to chill about how other people spend their money.
Good chocolate is expensive these days. I spent around the £50 mark on two small boxes of chocolates and a chocolate duck. It wasn't even the most expensive chocolatier around, but it's the one that has the best chocolate for novelty shapes. Didn't tell all my pals about it, right enough, but I don't think they'd stoop to slagging me off on a public forum.

Isn't all food 'just sitting there' until we eat it?! I've got a bag of potatoes currently just sitting there in the kitchen, but I'd hope that wasn't a reason for any of my 'friends' to take to MN to slag me off, while claiming to love me dearly, but.
They chose to spend £30 each of their own money to treat the other to a seasonally appropriate present. It's hardly the last days of Rome.

How is she making a performance out of it though? She didn’t message you out of the blue it sure off their Easter fun. You asked her what she was doing today, and she answered you.

My boyfriend is 45, I’m 36. We do stuff like that. Why are you so miserable?

Why is it wasteful? Do you think they’ll end up in the bin? I doubt it. Even if it takes a good few weeks to eat them, why does it matter? Why shouldn’t the eggs just be “sat there,” knowing they’ll be eaten soon?

Im a teacher and always get a LOT of chocolate at Christmas and when we break up for summer. I love it. Some of it can be “sat there” for a couple of weeks but it always gets eaten and enjoyed. It’s never wasted.

Think it’s up to them really. I think most people likely spend money on things others would think is a bit mad. You do you and leave others to how they want to do things. Don’t let this kind of thing take up your headspace, life is too short! Best wishes.

I refuse to believe most normal adults without children are sat there decorating Easter themed cookies amongst piles of Easter eggs with their husband

Why do you “refuse” to believe it?
I have a baby, he’s not arsed about Easter. For the last few Easter’s my boyfriend and I have enjoyed making Easter egg cheesecake where you put the cheesecake filling inside half an Easter egg. We decorate them with mini eggs and malteaser bunnies and then gobble them up. Are we also not “normal adults” like your friend?

I know what you mean, Op. Of course people can choose to spend thousands if they want and everyone on MN can go “well they earned it, if they want to buy chocolate eggs instead of going on holiday, what’s it to you?” but I will privately be thinking that those people and all who agree with it are insane.

Just to add, maybe reflect on why they may do this. Maybe they just genuinely enjoy it. Might not be your cup of tea but their choice. Maybe it is ‘performative’ and if so why might they do that? It’s likely to be a lot more deep rooted than just showing off. I say this kindly but unless there is some other context to this there no reason for you to be bothered about this at all. Best wishes.

Come back, OP.

I want to know where she's buying eight mid-sized Easter eggs for under £30 in total.

Your friend spent her own money on her partner and he did the same, and you, as her friend, took to MN to basically bitch about it - after you had asked her!!

I would have a look at why you feel this level of unpleasantness towards your friend. You seem envious of something. I think most people wouldn't even register something like this.

my advice to you is to stay off social media

I think couples in a relationship without children are probably more likely to treat each other (or themselves maybe?). It’s just when you’ve got kids, a limited budget and limited time, these things tend to go out of the window. I guess if they weren’t big chocolate fans they would have bought each other different gifts.

You are sounding rather joyless and miserable, OP. It's their income, and if they want to spend it on things that they find frivolous and fun, then good for them.