OMG, you have no idea! 😅 but also thank you for acknowledging that some of it is shocking 
That would be a reasonable expectation, tbf, and I think this is part of the problem.
Parents reasonably assume that teaching is family friendly because most people's experience of it is that we support children and their families in a multitude of ways. So why wouldn't that be extended to teachers and their families? After all, most schools will promote the idea that we are a family and a community. And the teachers are always (usually) so caring and lovely and wonderful and speak so positively about the school and the children we teach... it's only be the workshy few who only went into it for the holidays who complain! Or the idiots who don't have the common sense to just request an evening GP appointment...
Teaching terms and conditions have recently changed in Scotland and it is a very different job to it is in England at the moment with no sense of this being replicated down here.
Part of the problem is that the role and the environment of teaching have changed so much since I entered it 20+ years ago.
There is a lot.of inconsistency that goes along with the micromanagement. The best example I have of it is this.
I had a child in my class with ADHD. I made a simple reasonable adjustment that allowed him to concentrate during teaching input. He listened to everything I said and, when I asked a question to check understanding, he could give me a really detailed answer. He remained regulated, engaged and focused for a whole time doing this. Brilliant.
We had a learning walk where the focus was Inclusion.
This child was positively acknowledged to me in my feedback. I was told it was great and that I'd shown a great understanding of his needs and adaptability. They liked the way I'd responded to his needs and how I'd 'thought outside the box' by allowing this small reasonable adjustment. Fairly standard stuff but positive so that's great 👍🏻
The following week, the same person did a learning walk focused on Expectations.
Guess what? The same child was highlighted as an example of how my expectations weren't high enough. The same reasonable adjustment was now an example of my poor behaviour management, and that he appeared disengaged and I should manage his behaviour appropriately instead. All the things that had looked great through the lens of Inclusion were seen as me failing through the lens of Expectations.
How can anyone exercise professional autonomy under those conditions?