Adult daughter cannot have an Easter egg because she needs to lose weight.

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Daughters mother in law bought Easter eggs for her son and each of the children , but not for my daughter, because she needs to lose weight. Her mother in law told the oldest Grandchild this in confidence , who then told me.
My daughter is not overweight by much , maybe a stone.
I am absolutely fuming .
Should I say something ?

MIL is rude. But stay out of it. Not your battle. It’s your adult daughter’s battle.

Hopefully your daughter’s husband will be stepping up and saying something.

Shocking behaviour but you need to stay out of it. If anyone should say anything it’s your DD or your SIL.

I think saying something might make things worse.
Does your daughter know what was said?

Who told you this? Your grandchild? If so, then reassure him/her that their mum is perfect as she is and that it's not polite to comment on how people look, reassure them that they've 100% done the right thing in telling you and that it's not something their other grandmother should have put on their shoulders. Tell your son in law what his mother has done and that he needs to speak to his mother.

Then go buy your daughter her favourite egg.

I would certainly be telling my daughter that her MIL is speaking inappropriately to a her child. She’s talking about her mother’s weight being too high? She’s asked her to keep secrets about that? “Don’t tell anyone but mummy needs to lose weight”?? Completely unacceptable.

Tread carefully. Eldest grandchild may have got wrong end of stick. Your daughter may have even asked not to get one.
But if mil is just being nasty then you'll cause the hurt by telling your daughter.

YWBU to drop your grandchild in it.

Shes rude but thats your daughter and son in laws battle. Stay well out of it

This 100% 👏

Your daughter may have told her MIL she doesn’t want any Easter eggs as she wants to lose weight.

I wouldn't be keeping my mouth shut. How dare she?!

Yes my Grandchild told me when I took Easter eggs over and gave my daughter and husband a huge egg each.
Son in law is going round there to tell her that nobody talks about his wife like that and not to discuss things like that with her Grandchildren .

Poor grandchild caught in the middle of 2 fuming grannies.

I wouldn't go quite that far. It's a rude remark about an Easter egg, hardly evidence of someone being an "evil cunt."

Why would you speak up for your adult daughter? If she was offended surely she would have said at the time where's mine?

Not your place to get involved, but hopefully your son in law will. Why buy eggs for any of the adults, they could have just bought for the kids and saved any offence.

Is you DD on a diet though? I’m trying to loose a couple of stones and wouldn't be thrilled if someone that knew that gave me an Easter egg! Maybe MIL knows she’s dieting and just explained to the grandchild why she hadn’t bought her DIL one? Not everything has to be a row inducing insult…

If DD told her MiL she didn’t want one for this reason, then it’s not a problem, and presumably she has bought her something else instead? If not, then it’s not just the Easter egg, it’s about point scoring and being nasty.
And it’s not OK to speak to the GC about their mother like that. What does the DH say?

Did she buy her something else? I have a daughter who "eats clean" so I buy her toiletries, perfume, a book or something in lieu of an Easter egg.

Yes, I’d be furious in your shoes.

Your daughter needs to know that her MIL is saying spiteful things about her to her children and asking them to keep it a secret.

Neither of these things should be allowed to go unchallenged.

Keep out of it, show your grandchildren that you can keep your head even when you disagree with someone’s actions.

You spilled the beans!!

Mother of god why?

Yes consider this and tread lightly