Adult daughter cannot have an Easter egg because she needs to lose weight.

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Daughters mother in law bought Easter eggs for her son and each of the children , but not for my daughter, because she needs to lose weight. Her mother in law told the oldest Grandchild this in confidence , who then told me.
My daughter is not overweight by much , maybe a stone.
I am absolutely fuming .
Should I say something ?

On the surface with the info you have, it feels unkind and thoughtful. But I’d stay out of it. You’ve heard it second hand, we never know really what’s been said or with the time or intention unless we’re there ourselves.
its hard but I stay out of everything regarding my adult children. Things blow up so easily with families, very often over nothing and I just don’t think it’s worth it. I just always think you should tread carefully in adult kids and extended family.
take the high road and buy your DD the biggest and most beautiful egg.
also think of your granddaughter, you’ve broken her confidence and will she feel responsible if you all fall out

Yeah, I'm probably missing the point but why buy adults Easter eggs? They're treats for children surely.

And I agree you should keep out of the whole thing, you sound like you are too keen for drama. The whole thing is third-hand Chinese whispers

You’re never too old for an Easter egg! It’s just chocolate. What’s the harm?

It’s very common for adults to give each other Easter eggs

It’s very common for adults to give each other Easter eggs

Surely before jumping to conclusions that the MIL is a nasty cow, consider the more reasonable/logical explanation that your daughter knew she was bringing round eggs and told her MIL not to get one for her as she was trying hard to stick to a diet to lose weight. Then when your grandchild asked her why Mummy didn’t get one, she explained the reason why.

Well done to your SIL. He’s a keeper!
what a nasty MIL. Your poor DD.

No she isn't on a diet , she is a size 14 and has always been the same size and weight , except for pregnancy of course.

Maybe your DD told MIL not to buy her one this year as she needs to lose weight. GP told GC as she felt mean not buying her one and wanted to explain.

My children all adults always get an egg ,a tradition that my late mother started and I continued, they also have advent calendars too , I know that's a bit over the top , but work colleagues complain to their parents if they don't get one of those , so I obviously do that too.
My boss gives out Easter eggs to staff.
I think it is a nice treat.

Many Easter eggs are obviously designed for adults not children.
I buy them for my adult children and their partners.

Sure I'm happy to buy myself one but I wouldn't throw a strop if my kids got one and I didn't.

Just like I sometimes buy myself Lego. But if my ILs bought my kids a set of lego each (which happened recently) I wouldn't be like, hey MIL where's my lego?!

It's odd of her to buy one for her son and not her DIL when she could have just not bought one for either.

Ragebait

but work colleagues complain to their parents if they don't get one of those

Yep, that is bonkers and that is a hill I will die on. I'm an adult and if I want an advent calendar I'll buy my own

If your SiL is already round there saying "No one says that about my wife" you probably dont need to add "No one says that about my daughter" The more drama the more chance it will get back to your DD and hurt her.

Maybe your DD asked her not to buy her one?

Of course it's a nice gesture to buy people chocolate ! Adult or child !
Buying or not buying someone an Easter egg won't have any impact on their weight at all !it's incredibly mean and nasty yes.
And to say this to her own child is mean and spiteful.

I’d take what the grandchild said with a pinch of salt. Just stay out of it.

Looks like your SIL has it covered which is nice, MIL sounds like a horrible woman, who involves their grandchild in nasty things like this, absolutely not on.

Disagree about not getting involved if only to make sure that your SIL or daughter are aware of the vile attitude being shared with their children but it sounds like they know about that, so inappropriate to comment on a mother's weight to their child, puts the child in a horrible position and likely undermines values your daughter is teaching her child.

I’m the same I’m trying to lose weight and I’ve told my own mum for a few years that me and my husband don’t want an Easter egg as we’re trying to lose weight and to just get the grandkids Easter eggs, so it’s best to tread carefully. Also your DD may have told her in confidence to not get her an egg hence why she told her child a secret which is a bit weird tbh, you could just simply ask your daughter why she didn’t get one from her MIL

Regardless of whether OPs DD may have mentioned she doesn’t want an Easter egg, this is definitely not something a MIL should discuss with the grandchildren. If this is the case she should have just said because Mummy has said she doesn’t want one

Could this be a misinterpretation from DGC.. maybe DD said she didnt want any as shes on a diet?

She’s an awful person. I’m overweight. I bought myself a fancy Easter egg today. Life is too short to spend it freaking out about whether you can eat some chocolate.

Don't say anything. It's none of your business and you heard it third hand anyway, so the child might not have reported it accurately. Speak to your son in law. It's his mother. If she needs a talking to let him be the one to tell her she's been unkind and rude to his wife.