Adult daughter cannot have an Easter egg because she needs to lose weight.

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Daughters mother in law bought Easter eggs for her son and each of the children , but not for my daughter, because she needs to lose weight. Her mother in law told the oldest Grandchild this in confidence , who then told me.
My daughter is not overweight by much , maybe a stone.
I am absolutely fuming .
Should I say something ?

I have a very short fuse and absolutely no filter so I’d be giving her an absolute earful and not giving a shit about any future relationship.

What if your daughter said she didn't want one as she was trying to lose weight? You have no idea what private conversations have taken place about the eggs and it's none of your business. If you really must raise it then the correct person to raise it with is your daughter.

There is also the possibility that the egg for dad was actually for them both and the kids misunderstood e.g. I got mum and dad an egg to share as I know mum is dieting.
This could easily be switched in wording by a child to grandma didn't get mum an egg as she needs to lose weight.

Definitely!

its such an annoying miserable attitude to life!!

Say something to who?

This is disgusting if you’re certain.
if you want to raise it with mil do it quietly in person not over message.
is there a chance that your daughter has put the message out along the lines of ‘stop buying me chocolate everyone I’m trying to lose weight and you’re all sabotaging me’
as if that’s the case MIL might have said ‘mummy doesn’t want choc egg as she’s trying to lose weight’ to explain that she hadn’t snubbed their mum

This!
But it sounds like you've already stirred the pot by telling (at least) your SIL.

If your daughter told her no eggs for me as I’m on a diet then fine. Otherwise it’s terrible.

Its a huge problem that the MIL has spoken to the child like that behind the mother's back.

That is the issue here, and yes, I would have words with the MIL and the H. I would speak privately with the child to ensure that they henceforth be very careful in their dealings with other gran.

Tell the H to buy his wife a nice big Easter egg or buy her one yourself.

Shaming a woman for her weight in front of her children is despicable.

Take the b*tch to the cleaners. Don't enable her to get away with that. It's narcissistic behaviour around the children, manipulative, and causes risky eating behaviours. Your daughter also needs to be told. No way would I let this woman anywhere near my children again.

First part of this is correct and everyone else who is giving advice needs to remember this before they gleefully tell the o.p to ruin several relationships

Yip, but some people on here love to roleplay John Wayne without thinking of the reality of a situation

I don't know which is sillier - the fuss over an adult daughter's Easter egg, or the idea that one Easter egg would make a difference in someone's weight.

No, you shouldn't say anything. The biggest problem is that you will betray the trust for someone who said/heard something in confidence. However, if you happen to converse with the MIL in question and she mentions it, you could point out the obvious - that the adult daughter probably isn't even aware of what went on, so it made no impression. You also need to face the reality of life - if a person is overweight, someone - probably an older female relative - is probably going to make an annoying remark at some point.

What a great first sentence. What an unhelpful second one

What good can staying out of it do? All the good because otherwise she is creating drama based on an offhand remark from a child. Don't try and create drama about people you don't know

Nothing said here is something to be proud of

And at no point in your campaign of wrath would you want anyone to have a conversation with the mil to establish what was said?

You're a chavvy fishwife type I presume.

Hopefully the op is not. She did not hear what was said or the context. No doubt daughter had made it known she wanted to lose a bit of weight and may even have asked not to receive any Easter eggs this year.

Shouting and hollering in an uncontrolled way will not reveal the truth.

Not sure you should jump straight in on information you’ve got second hand. What if you Dgc got it wrong, or lied?

I would presume an adult child is capable of speaking for themself?

It’s fine not to buy adults Easter eggs but it’s not fine to discuss weight with a child. If flowers were brought instead it’s completely acceptable too

Your dd can buy an egg for her FIL but not her MIL. Good way of getting her own back without saying a word.

This! No need to get involved at all. It’s a non issue that you may not know the full details of .

You know your daughter and son in law have it in hand. Why on earth would you get involved?

This possibly relates to a private conversation between Dd and MIL. You don't know how it went. Maybe DD said she is desperate to lose weight but her family keep sabotaging her efforts and buying her junk food and telling her she is fine as she is. Or maybe this is all on MIL, you don't know. Either way don't get involved but it might be worth trying to figure out where this all came from. So you can support DD in future.

Fwiw my MIL on occasion would offer the kids a biscuit then quickly move the box away and put the lid on before I could take one. It only happened a few times but I became convinced it was because she believed I need to lose weight. She wasn't wrong. It annoyed me but I'd be absolutely furious if my mum or dh had gone in all guns blazing making a thing of it. She's entitled to her opinion, you are all entitled to disagree with it. No need to act like you are on Eastenders.