Adult daughter cannot have an Easter egg because she needs to lose weight.

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Daughters mother in law bought Easter eggs for her son and each of the children , but not for my daughter, because she needs to lose weight. Her mother in law told the oldest Grandchild this in confidence , who then told me.
My daughter is not overweight by much , maybe a stone.
I am absolutely fuming .
Should I say something ?

Glad to hear SIL has gone to tell his mum off

but then a bit weird to buy Easter Eggs for your adult kids. Aren’t those for actual children? So the husband shouldn’t have an egg either!

My mother bought me non chocolate gifts at Easter from when I was in my late teens because I was trying to watch my weight.

She'd put effort to giving me personal things (which usually cost more than an egg) instead. I think back and really appreciate the effort she went to.

I would be really angry but let her husband deal with it.

Is her mother in law usually so awful?

Why are they just for children?

Not everyone's automatic go-to is thinking of physically assaulting someone, nothing to do with being 'pious'. And nothing to do with gender either.

Has your daughter already agreed no egg with her MIL for any reason?
Why can she not speak up for herself?

This is a weird conversation because you seem to working from the promises that total strangers could care less what you or anyone else’s “automatic go to” is.

My adult children (& partners) all get easter eggs & advent calendars from us. (Dd's are 37, 33 & 27) I always tell my eldest dd that I'm not buying her an advent calendar & she always says if I don't she'll phone childline! 😂

I expect your daughter told her she wants to lose some weight and specifically asked for no Easter egg. That sounds most likely to me.

Son in law is going round there to tell her that nobody talks about his wife like that and not to discuss things like that with her Grandchildren

Why do you need to say anything then? It is a non event as it is already being dealt with.

Good for SIL, sounds like he’s got your DD’s corner. Let us know how it goes, I’m a bit invested now! What an utter cow.

She's got a good man, but we know we're a bit over so my wife and I will have little ones, I'd be giving adults something small, not huge, big ones to people already overweight aren't the kindness you think.

Absolutely agree! She’s probably overweight and trying to do something about it. We all know hard that is without people tempting us with chocolate

My mil just didn’t like me and took both my kids (very young like 4 and 5) to get Easter eggs. And didn’t get me one. Both my kids noticed on Easter Sunday and said why’s mum not got one. Ironically I’d have been kindest person to her when she was dying. I didn’t get the chance though.

What's weird is you commenting on a total strangers post even though you don't believe they'll care what you think. Then continue to reply to me.

The first PP who called you out was correct...you sound nice.

Bollocks to that. My mother used to send me money to buy an Easter egg. When I was still working I used to buy foil-covered eggs for my colleagues. It's a little kindness, a bit of fun in a grey world.

That's going to end well 😬

I wouldn't have expected one, surely it was just for the kids?

Kids and her son. Basically everyone but me. I didn’t notice until the kids pointed it out and yes, i didn’t want an egg!

😳

I’d do most of this. I wouldn’t tell the son in law what to do with the information, just observe and file. Issuing instructions would be interfering, but how he acted would tell me a lot about how strong the marriage was and what support my daughter might need in the future.

Sounds like a lot of fuss over a quite trivial comment. I'm still confused why your daughter couldn't just talk to her if she was offended?

⬆️exactly this

This was what I thought too, if she’s upset that she hasn’t been bought an Easter egg why can’t she speak for herself?

But also I can’t believe op passed this info on either, could be any number of reasons for this. Talk about mountain/molehill, sounds like op was stirring the pot .