Think this isn’t bad idea. But this really is the last communication from you.
i went out with a guy for a few weeks and he misunderstood something I texted and stonewalled me for 3 days. In the beginning he’d been intense, huge displays of affection and stuff, sweeping me off my feet etc.
i was a lot more fragile then and it freaked me out. When he spoke to me again, I said to him how that made me feel, how it’s unacceptable and that if he did it again, that would be it. Game over.
i can’t even remember what I supposedly did but he stonewalled me again. So that was it. When he got back in contact I told him that the relationship wasn’t working and I wasn’t going to see him anymore
so as I say, I ended it.
there were loads of messages sporadically saying “Thinking of you” they eventually dwindled to once a week. Every week.
he sent messages saying “HELP” late at night, hoping I’d bundle my small child into a car and come over to see him. Hard pass… never going to happen. So I called 999 and told them truthfully what was going on, but that he’d asked for help and perhaps if a car was passing they could pop in and do a welfare check.
note that I didn’t at any point reply to any of his messages, not even the help one. I just called the police.
i then got a message “police have just been, sorry to bother you”
the tipping point for me was that he returned a gift to my car, parked outside my house despite never having been to my home, never was invited and I never shared my address. He drove round my village until he found my car.
i. Called the police again, they were fab. Told him to back off and leave me alone
I still got weekly messages (ignored) for a good few months. I also had the odd email for years afterwards until I got one that said “you’ll be delighted to know I’m moving to Australia so you don’t need to worry about bumping into me in the village any more”
think that was it, but it was a long time after I’d dumped him. He did escalate a bit, but the police were there for me and he never came back to the house.
for now @Theopdore maintain silence, log and keep everything. Send that message and then nothing more. Then if he comes anywhere near you don’t hesitate to call the police. You probably are not at great risk, but you do need to be on your guard for now. Get a ring camera etc.
hope you’re not too freaked out by all this.