What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

Yeah, 50. When my eldest daughter left home, I missed her so much yet what was left felt manageable.

I worked 3 days, looked after the two cats. My youngest didn't need much input by then (aged 18) and so I felt like I had time, space and permission to get my act together.

Sadly, that was about when I realised that the intermittent bouts of pain were due to a chronic pain condition rather than peri-menopause. So that was a blow. But at least life wasn't also chaos by then. In fact maybe that's why I was finally able to pursue medical help instead of lurching from crisis to crisis. 🤔

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Probably around 38. Finally a house we’re happy with and proud of. Own more of it than is mortgaged. Nice holidays each year. And most importantly DC happy with school and doing well.

Doesn’t mean we don’t have family we wish we hadn’t lost, or others were not worried about, or that jobs aren’t stressful. But things that are within our control are good, which means the things outside of our control don’t feel quite as stressful.

Yeah I felt like that then my husband came off his bike and was in intensive care with a brain injury, we are slowly rebuilding our lives. So don't take it for granted 😉

Yes I think that’s exactly it, for now!

60 here. Yeah, in the last year or so.

Never? What sort of question is that? LOL!

I hope it might come one day but I don't think that's the human condition. We're primed to always want more of something.

63 and not there yet.

50 and waiting. I’ve watched too much neoliberalist destruction.

I keep my eye on a podcast, ‘Fall of Civilizations’. Every episode starts the same, ‘imagine how it feels to watch your world collapse around you’. I don’t need to imagine it.

Any day now!

This sounds similar to DH and me. We had children young, I did my degree in my 40's and we just got on with earning and with life to hold it all together for ourselves and our four children.

As for being sorted, it comes and goes doesn't it? I'm in my 70's, have downsized and simplified my life, have someone to look after my finances, but like most of us I can find something to fret about at 3 in the morning.

I also have a self-destruct button - I was very happy in my late thirties and early 40's but became complacent and started making mistakes. Hopefully I can resist this now!

Ha, hate it when it’s calm and quiet, because inevitably there’s another storm coming! Think I'm now so used to stress it’s our normal. Maybe when we sell our business and retire!

About 51 when the mortgage got paid off. That relieved a pressure I didn’t really know was there. That said, teenage and young adult dramas as they adapt to new chapters is ongoing and surprisingly stressful as is now trying to save for retirement so I think thinks just shift rather than resolve.

Still waiting at 52, had my family later in life though so they are still in school. Been a nurse for 32 years but I am going into aesthetics to see if I can get a better work life balance. Not full time just enough so I don't need to work crazy hours like I have been doing lately.

Unfortunately I’ve experienced many false starts on the sorted front… just when u think… ahhhhh some cretin ruins it!

Different aspects of life settle at different times really. Financially, I felt 'settled in early fifties - mortgage almost paid, no more money struggles, a little bit put by in savings at last. But emotionally, if you have kids, I wonder if you ever feel settled. There's always something. I'm a grandma now but it never ends.

At (roughly) your age… and my life has never felt less sorted than the last couple of years.

Sick kids, sick parents, no time to see friends, house barely holding together, job situation precarious.

I’m hoping it gets better but also trying to keep finding the glimmers…

Felt like that most at 41 ish too then the peri witch clocked the progress and said not today bitch try a hormonal fuckfest n see me to report back how grounded and stble you are then ....47 and still trying hahahahhahah

This completely….ive had pockets of feeling sorted since my late teens, then something bastard like comes along and ruins things…..then things settle for a bit, then something bastard like rears its ugly head…..rinse nd repeat…I’m 54 now and just coming out of the second most awful time of my life so I’m hoping the settled bit will stay for a good while….best wishes to all x

Same bruv

I’m 50 and no where need it. Fucking cancer and Covid double whammy blew us up and I doubt we’ll recover

Age 56-still chasing that dream!

It hasn't happened yet - I'm 53. I always feel like I'm still beginning and don't know where I'm headed!

My forties were absolute carnage.

50 now and feel like I know who I am and what I want more but still some way from achieving it.

35-45 were generally good but teenagers in my life now, two lots of aging parents, world politics and economics mean that feeling of stability, possibility and potential seem far out of my reach.