AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

[AliceNotInChains]

Last Easter I went away with DH, Sister and BIL. We stayed in an castle apartment.
As I have IBS and other gut issues I insisted on having a bedroom with an en suit for my benefit and everyone else’s. This was fine, DH and I got the room with the little en-suite. On the first night we were watching a film in the living room and I got up to pop to toilet, I went into the main bathroom and they all started shouting that I should use my own bathroom. I laughed and said I’m only going for a wee and this was met with more shouting of “you have your own toilet”, DH then said “she does this at home too, claims ownership on one toilet then uses everyone else’s”

Anyway it went on and on, the whole 3 nights were spent with them trying to stop me using the main bathroom. I think it started as a joke but they were 100% being serious by the end of it.

Anyway we’re due to go back tomorrow, same place and already sister is dropping hints about whoever gets the en suite uses that exclusively.

Am I the one in the wrong here?? I’m only using main bathroom for peeing btw

Pack a torch in your holiday bag - and maybe some garlic, a crucifix and a bottle of holy water and an aspergil. Problem sorted. 😉

Agree. You're unreasonable.

Take a torch and some big girl pants. Put them on and use the bloody loo you've been allocated after making a big fuss already. I feel sorry for the poor sods having to put up with your childish antics.

It's pretty tragic that so much conversation and attention is focussed on who uses which toilet 🙄.

I honestly couldn't give a shit (😁) provided no one leaves a mess!

Presumably they know that as you have IBS a wee is likely to turn into a poo and then they'll all have to wait until the stench has gone. You are hugely unreasonable. And this is why if I go on holiday with anyone else in the family we stay in hotels with separate rooms and private bathrooms.

You’ve been given your own toilet, use it. I have my own en suite toilet and when my kids are back home I never use the other ones.

Why use the main bathroom when you have an en suite? If the ensuite was in use and you were crossing your legs, fair enough, but otherwise I see no point.

Oh God, why are people so weird? People need to go to the toilet and it really shouldn't be a big deal. If I was SiL I wouldn't use the ensuite because it would involve going through someone's private bedroom to get to it. But if the main bathroom was in use and I needed the loo then I'd ask the occupant if I could use their en suite.

Neither you nor your husband should be using the other bathroom. You should be leaving that for your Dsis & Bil to have exclusive use if.

I find an adult saying a hallway is creep/spooky ridiculous. I'd tell you to get a grip.

but why have you booked it again if you won't go along the corridor to 'your' bathroom?

This.

I can't believe you even have to ask @AliceNotInChains You demanded your own bathroom (en suite) which is fair enough as IBS is pretty unpleasant, but then go and use the main bathroom, when it suits YOU. Bit cheeky and entitled. (Even if it is only for a wee!) And as this poster says 'how would you feel if your relatives wanted to come and use YOUR en suite?!

YABU. 100%. As for 'oooh I can't use my en suite in the day, because it's at the end of a spooky corridor!' Come on! 😂 That is the worst defence/excuse I have ever heard - for ANYthing!

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You also need to factor in that they're probably not loving the fact that you will have bagged the master bedroom in order to get the en suite. If you're paying equally, they will already have the less good room and the lesser convenience of not having an en suite. To then argue with them when they ask you to stick to your own bathroom is unlikely to have landed well.

This seems such a ridiculous objection to me but I see there are plenty of people on the thread who agree.

To me, I understand that IBS means you need immediate access to the en suite at 2am but at 3 in the afternoon you are just a normal member of the group and can use whichever loo is nearest.

However, when we went in holiday with MIL (who has IBS) and she had the en suite bedroom, she was very clear she would only use that en suite loo and no other. We didn't argue.

I wonder if there's a correlation between the people who care who shares the communal bathroom in a holiday house and the insane people who hover above public toilets if they have to have a wee away from home because to them it's really important to know and control whose thighs have touched a surface that your own thighs might touch.

HNRTFT but cannot understand the mentality of someone moaning about a person having a piss in any loo anywhere !

I prefer him not to but I don’t stop him. It’s just easier for it to be a one person toilet

No, you have made it clear you want your own toilet - let them have theirs.
They don't want you using their clean hand towel or cleaning their toilet seat after your using it.
You're being really rude.
Your update is ridiculous - you don't really even want your own husband to use your personal toilet, but you should be free to use theirs? What if they've just pooped and they're worried about you going in.
Your husband is not banned from using it, because where should he go otherwise?

Yes exactly. They are probably feeling resentful and annoyed.

And I would be too.

The resentment won't end at the end of the holiday either. They will never let the OP forget it. And I am willing to bet that they won't go on holiday with her again!

OP - so two couples went away and there were two bathrooms. You and your dh had exclusive use of one bathroom as it was en suite to your bedroom, you are surprised the other couple would expect to have exclusive use of the other bathroom?

Particularly when you’d insisted on having the en suite room because you have gut issues?

YABU.

I would say on next trip, you let SIL and BIL have the room down the spooky corridor with the en suite and you and dh have the main bathroom.

Wow, so you secretly don't even want your husband using YOUR toilet?

But you are still using the one that is meant for everyone else?

Baffled!

You wanted your own bathroom, use it.

Spooky? 🤡 You're an adult.

Oh and OP as you are going back there tomorrow- you need to tell your SIL and BIL that as you had the better bedroom last time, it’s their turn to have the nice room.

The accommodation is not set up for you to have your own private toilet. You would need at least three bathrooms for that to work. Your understandable need for privacy does not trump everyone else’s. If I was your sister I would not want to be sharing a bathroom with your husband when there’s a perfectly good en suite that both you and DH can use.

So you are hugging two bathrooms! You clearly won't let the other couple use the en-suite. I can't believe you don't see how you're being unreasonable.

So, in a house with 2 toilets, you want to reserve one for your sole use whilst insisting that the 3 other people share the other toilet, that you are also free to use whenever you feel like it? You can't see how that would annoy the others?

Would you like them to wee in your ensuite if it happened to be nearer...I doubt it.

Or to put it another way, you've now claimed 1.25 bathrooms, where everyone else has 0.25. Very unreasonable.