To be annoyed by this note pushed through my door - photo

[catgirl1976]

I’ve recently moved to this street.

I know it’s politely written but it’s so passive aggressive.

The “end of the road” in question has a primary school on it. There were no spaces there at 830am when I needed to park. And there was someone in the space outside my house so I parked about two door down from my house in the only possible space.

I also have a blue badge.

AIBU to be annoyed? No house number on it so not sure which neighbour sent it

Well, obviously, if you don't have a school at the end of your road Treadcarefully11, and if none of your neighbours ever have visitors, then it must be quite simple for you all to not park outside each others houses!

However, @catgirl1976, does not seem to live on a road like that, she appears to live within a much more common community set up, where neighbours - and probably the OP herslf - have friends to visit, and maybe even have utility workers, or gardeners, or plumbers etc, calling in throughout the day.

Some of the households may even have 2 or 3 cars belonging to members of any of those homes. Sometimes, schools themselves have the parents of their students driving to the school, and therefore needing/wanting somewhere easy to park as well?

😂

My thoughts also.

My other thought is that the person writing the 'polite note' is a self-entitled twat

IGNORE!

she is an idiot.
obviously everybody wants to park outside their own house
you didnt want to park outside her house, but you had no choice!

I would do this in your position OP. With my response in a breezy, friendly tone.

It would help clarify the situation and probably build some nice relationships with your new neighbours. If you sent a copy of that through my door with a note explaining, I would pop round telling you it wasn’t me! Probably with some cake to welcome you to the street, with a post-it with my number on in the event you needed help (as blue badge-holder).

The smiley face! 😂😬

Bonkers.

A note like that would make me park outside his/her house even more often, but I'm petty like that.

Ignore them.

This. I hate this sort of thing. If you have something to say come and say it! Its so condescending. Good luck with these neighbours !

How rude, the note obviously belongs to the persons house you parked in front of. I’d be tempted to knock on their door and ask them what they thought you should have done when there was no parking “down the end of the road” or “outside your own house”.

The smiley at the end goves me the rage.

The person who wrote this note knows full well that she has absolutely no leg to stand on, no right to police who parks outside her house and less than zero right to comment where a disabled person with a blue badge finds to park that is safe and legal.

Ignore it and park your car in whichever space you can that is closest to your house no matter whose house that puts you in front of. I would be tempted to tape a reply to the inside of my windscreen telling her what I think of her passive-agressive batshittery but ignoring itis probably better.

I think it absolutely depends on the street. I've lived in my house for 10 years and everyone here has a usual parking space and sticks to it. If I can't park where I usually would I don't put notes through people's door but I might quietly seethe.

We had new neighbours move in and a regular visitor seemed to want to make a point that he could park wherever he wanted. We never said anything, because he was right, he could. The neighbour soon realised the weird system themselves and obviously asked him not to as he soon stopped.

Our unwritten system works for us so I can see where the note writer is coming from, even if I wouldn't have sent it.

I'd have to knock on their door and ask if it was them.

We had someone in our old street doing this when I was growing up. It went on DECADES and in the end cars started being damaged so police installed CCTV. We all knew who it was - a man who had his own car, his wife had a car and his two daughters each had a car too, pure insanity When we had a visitor (as a non-car household) they'd get a note under the windshield with complaints they don't live there. The worst was when it was my nans funeral (she lived a few doors away) and we obviously had a few people visiting from away and staying at her house overnight for the service and they all got notes. It wasn't just our house but everyone on the street who would get these notes, it caused quite a stir but when CCTV went up the damage and notes disappeared and we could never prove who it was.

This 💯!

Ignore that shitty so called ‘polite notice’ OP and park where you want to. The author can just fuck right off. Who the fuck do they think they are?! They need to find something better to do with their time instead of sending anonymous notes signed with a stupid childish smiley face.

I would be tempted to do the same, especially as OP has a blue badge. The note writer is incredibly fucking rude and inconsiderate.

Not to derail OP’s thread but this actually happened to our NDN. She’s notoriously difficult about people parking in front of her house. She’s a massive curtain twitcher, basically unelected neighbourhood watch but yeah, she HATES people parking in front of her house. The guy over the road got a shit banger and parked it in front of her house, left it for as long as he could get away with it legally then got a fresh banger and parked that there! She subsequently bought a second car for no reason other than to put it in front of her house.

People are honestly NUTS about parking spots. I’m sure someone was murdered over one down south a few years ago… It’s insane! Ignore OP and just be grateful you have a life.

100%. Don't engage with these selfish arses at all, but definitely do this. It makes me so angry on your behalf. You're expected to park further away and struggle because they get jittery when someone parks near their house? It's absolutely ridiculous. And if they were properly paying attention instead of just nebbing they would have seen your blue badge and hopefully realised that in this case they were being even more unreasonable than if you didn't have a blue badge. Obviously they would still be unreasonable either way. Some people have far too much time on their hands. If they invested their time and energy in something useful instead of policing their passive-aggressive and ridiculous definition of 'neighbourly' they might actually achieve something useful. Selfish fuckwits.

I guess you’re as annoyed about it as they are about your parking.

looking at it objectively, they’re recognising they’ve no legal right but are sharing how they’ve made it work by being neighbourly with one another in the hope you’re neighbourly in return.

That seems sensible, much better than a free for all (which yes I know everyone is entitled to do but being entitled to do something and it being the right thing to do are sometimes very different), a sign you will likely have neighbourly neighbours, and a good opportunity for you to reciprocate and show you’re willing to integrate with the community.

on the topic of the anonymous note. Not everyone likes the possibility of confrontation for various reasons, particularly if they’re not sure who it’s with, so whilst it’d be better to have left a no., there’s no harm done

Besides, who are we of Mumsnet with our anonymous names and perpetual fear of being outed to criticise someone for sharing their opinion anonymously 🤔

Tell that neighbour to stick that note up their a%£e.

Or order some skips and sit them on the road.

How does parking outside someone’s else house (assuming you’re not blocking their drive) ‘inconvenience’ them? Surely it’s more inconvenient to haul 4 bags of shopping and a hungry toddler from the end of the road to your house? Honestly, some people are bizarre.

I’d definitely post on street/community WhatsApp or Facebook group. 😂

Me as well!

Write a note saying ‘Blue badge user here, will park wherever I deem necessary, thanks in advance for your cooperation’

and plaster it to your front door

Yeah.. convenience doesn’t trump disability, unfortunately for them lol

Another vote for applying to the council for a dedicated blue badge disabled space right in front of your house. I would pay good money to see the reaction of the note-writer.

you could even use the note as evidence of need 😆