To be annoyed by this note pushed through my door - photo

[catgirl1976]

I’ve recently moved to this street.

I know it’s politely written but it’s so passive aggressive.

The “end of the road” in question has a primary school on it. There were no spaces there at 830am when I needed to park. And there was someone in the space outside my house so I parked about two door down from my house in the only possible space.

I also have a blue badge.

AIBU to be annoyed? No house number on it so not sure which neighbour sent it

How ridiculous, I can’t believe someone would go out their way to write something like that. It’s hilarious how it’s worded so politely and thanking you in advance! It also clearly isn’t true as someone else parked outside yours. I’d def continue to park in that specific spot.

Clearly you are not being unreasonable. You pay your road tax, you can park where you bloody like! Just who do these people think they are? If they don’t like it they can purchase a house with a drive and then put up with people parking over it, which is what happens to me.

Putting a note like this through someone’s door is an aggressive and petty thing to do.

There is no democratic way to make sure everyone parks ‘fairly’ on a council-owned road. Nor is anyone entitled to park outside their own home. You must be able to see that this is nonsense? And people will drive in from other areas and park there, too.

Stick it in the bin, ignore, forget!

I’m not sure it’s a game of top trumps. Besides, who are we to know what blue badge top trump cards others on the street may also be holding…it might be they’re all blue badge holders and that’s the system they’ve found that works for all?

…. I think it’s purely about trying to work together as neighbours recognising that’s how society functions. Not by being entitled, opting for a free for all as that’s what we’re entitled to do, and trying to out do others because of one reason or another.

It says in the note what you’re expected to do if someone has parked outside your house - park at the end of the road.

I mean, the same applies to OP. If they don’t like not having their own dedicated space and having to deal with on street parking issues as they’re unwilling to work with their neighbours they could always…. Rent or buy a house with dedicated parking?

Apologies you must have misread my post as I already stated no-one is entitled to park outside their own home. (Nor close to it, the same of course applies to OP)

My point is purely that individuals in society can of course work together in a way that works best for most, if not all. And the approach the neighbours have seems to be that. I mean, it even takes into account your point of people from outside the area parking on the street: they opt to park elsewhere until the car moves and they can park at home. Thus meaning one person’s inconvenience remains at just that and doesn’t result in consequential inconveniences. That’s a neat solution: but I guess that’s only the case if you’re willing to consider it from the point of view of all rather than just one (as of course in that one case, the individual choosing to park at the end of the street is sacrificing their own needs for the benefit of all).

Aggressive note? Seriously? If you think that note is in anyway aggressive you’ve lived in a very well protected bubble. @semisober

I’d send a note to all the neighbours telling them as a blue badge holder you’ve been receiving discriminatory letters from an anonymous neighbour. Including a sample of the writing and ask for people to identify them.

That will shut the curtain twitcher up. 🤣

I feel this! With two tiny children and the associated equipment, it’s a nightmare when I can’t park close to my house. So yes I do get annoyed. But also, it’s a public road and I can’t afford a house with a drive, so I just have to deal with it. I will park in the space I can find closest to my house and I assume everyone else will do the same. It does annoy me that neighbours a few doors down frequently put out no parking cones in front of their house for no good reason.

We also have lots of extra cars parking in our road (nearby school and we’re one of the few roads nearish the town centre that don’t have parking restrictions) so it’s not that easy to just park at the end, as suggested by the silly note.

This . It’s a cowardly and passive aggressive way of communicating. I can understand there are probably unwritten rules about where people park but this note is just rude and it has a condescending tone

They live right by a school. There is no way they are going to be able to dictate to anyone where they can park and if it troubles them so much, they have too much time on their hands.

We got one like this years ago. I filed it in the bin.

Wow.
worth remembering we are all just one accident or illness from disability.
Compassion is free.

Urgh I hate this passive aggressive bullshit.

Also- if you're being so "polite" then have the balls the sign your damn name but they never do. I once had an anonymous note through my door about something similar and I decided that until they had the decency to speak to me in person like a grown up they could fuck off.

Ignore and carry on as you are.

Ridiculous. I live in London and my immediate neighbour gets upset they can’t park outside their own house, they’d probably have the understanding as per your letter, but it wouldn’t be true. Be polite but ignore

The note-writing arse should compromise on their unreasonable expectations. Especially as the OP has a blue badge and parking further away from their house shouldn’t be a compromise someone with a disability should have to make.

Be careful assuming it's the house you parked out directly in front of. We used to live in a similar road but one of the few houses with our own drive. I once opened the door to a livid husband of someone who'd been upset by a similar note left on her car. It never bothered us at all but it was our opposite neighbour (with no drive) who actually left the note.

I live in a mews square with parking outside the house and visitor parking across. It does my head in when strangers park outside my house. Not neighbours, they don't, but randoms visiting. I have left notes on these cars reminding them there's a visitor's parking area, because they probably don't know. And it's not anonymous.

I once had to park down the road because of this and about half an inch of my front was on a dipped kerb and in front of someone's driveway (because others had parked there) but you could get a minibus off the drive. I moved it as soon as the car in front of my house left.

On my windscreen was a rude note threatening me with the police. I contacted the police myself and was told it wasn't a problem and to ignore it. I wrote the incident number on the note and went to the house.

A very short 60-something guy was sitting astride a motorcycle like Easy Rider. He said he'd left it and proceeded to ask me if I'd passed my test, if I could read and if I got my driver's licence from a Lucky Bag.

I told him I'd got an incident number for him, and to be my guest and call them himself. He was pathetic.

I see no problem with what you did OP.

This batshit arsehole is hiding behind anonymity but I’d bet it was written by the occupant of the house where you’d parked.
They admit that anyone can park outside any property but clearly, whoever had parked outside your house wasn’t being ‘neighbourly’ were they?!
Ignore the note OP, park where ever you need to park but as a pp has suggested, consider approaching the council for Blue Badge road markings.

I am this level petty too

Id write fuck off across it, wait till its raining and deliberately leave the note out on the pavement in full view of anyone passing ( the rain will stick it to the pavement)

😂😂

🤣👏 love this