To be annoyed by this note pushed through my door - photo

[catgirl1976]

I’ve recently moved to this street.

I know it’s politely written but it’s so passive aggressive.

The “end of the road” in question has a primary school on it. There were no spaces there at 830am when I needed to park. And there was someone in the space outside my house so I parked about two door down from my house in the only possible space.

I also have a blue badge.

AIBU to be annoyed? No house number on it so not sure which neighbour sent it

I'd be tempted to put an arrow and FUCK OFF in red crayon and stick it back on the windscreen, while leaving the car there for as long as possible.

What I'd really do in join the street Whatsapp if there was one and tell them to fuck off more politely.

Yes, worth asking if it's a pain to park.

👏👏

Not necessarily. One of my neighbours phoned me to complain about me parking, for one day, in front of a different neighbour's house. Different neighbour has a drive which we weren't blocking or anything. Apparently '[different neighbour]'s son sometimes visits and he might want to park there' and I 'wasn't being very neighbourly'. Some people just have too much time on their hands.

I agree.

I think they’re trying to be polite contents wise, but they needed to put their name and house number for you to politely reply.

Then you could say “I have a blue badge, if someone parks outside my house I’m afraid I need to park as near as possible, sure you’ll understand” etc

It’s not awful if the neighbours have that convention - you don’t have to go along with it but if not for your disability it would be nice to try to fit in with them. You need to be able to communicate the fact that you won’t be able to do that through no fault of your own.

ExpectMore · Yesterday 06:22

I guess you’re as annoyed about it as they are about your parking.
looking at it objectively, they’re recognising they’ve no legal right but are sharing how they’ve made it work by being neighbourly with one another in the hope you’re neighbourly in return.
That seems sensible, much better than a free for all

Except someone wasn't being neighbourly were they.... someone was parked in front of OPs house. And the note writer certainly wasn't being neighbourly by writing an anonymous note. OP, Definitely look at the possibility of disabled parking spot. You'll eventually find out one way or another who the arse is. I can't stand people like that.

It’s not polite at all to write a note without signing it!

Unsigned notes are cowardly and belong in a bin

OP, if you have a blue badge, apply to the council for disabled parking outside your house, pronto.
That will both solve your problems and piss them off ☺️

Your neighbours have been very lucky if they could all keep ‘their’ space on a road with no allocated parking, but unfortunately for them they can’t insist on it. Years ago I lived on a road where we all parked outside our own houses. It worked because it was an out of the way cul de sac where half of the residents didn’t drive. When we were selling we were grilled by one bloke who wanted assurances about the parking situation, insisting that it was reasonable to expect to park outside your own house. Fair enough, but unfortunately not something we could guarantee!

Unsigned notes alwasy get my back up - ignore. If its that much of an issue then this passive aggressive person will stop hiding behind 'polite notes' and ask you courteously in person.

As long as where you park doesn't obstruct the highway and make it impossible for emergency vehicles to get through, or you are not parked across a dropped kerb, you can park where you like (obviously not on a yellow line!). I live in a cul-de-sac and often parents use it as a drop off point for their darling (secondary school) children, which causes a degree of congestion, but the school are usually very good about reminding parents to be considerate. However, many of our neighbours have more than one vehicle (our immediate neighbour has 5!) and everyone (apart from one guy, who parks his works van as if he owns the entire stretch of tarmac!!) is mindful of other residents' access to and exit from their properties. No sure that a note left on the errant vehicle would be fully read, or, quite possibly, understood!! 😂

It's cowardly to not include a name and house number, but the sender is trying to alert you to an (alleged) understanding the neighbours have about parking. You can decide what you want to do with that information, but you need to be clear about the problem:

1. The contents of the information - you think the rule is daft AND/OR
2. The presentation of the information.

I myself would not write 'polite notice' at the top, but it's a convention seen in lots of communications (how many 'gentle reminders' do we see at work, for example).

That would wind me up too!
It's the 'we' this and 'we' that, hardly welcoming and, yes, definitely passive agressive - nutters!

It is very polite.

It’s passive aggressive

Park again in the exact same spot. Put back the message in the exact spot. Write an extra note and say „you’re welcome to phone me about this or knock on the door and we can be introduced as we are neighbours, with best regards „

Can you get the local council to paint a disbaled bay out side your house, we have one it's a god send now they installed a CPZ in the next street and it's a bloody free for all everyone trying to park in my street that is still free parking

Hahaha genius

Ignore them - arseholes

It sounds like there's been carparking wars previously on the street. Given the number of MN threads on the subject (of parking outside other people's houses) it's obviously a touchy subject.
It would carry more weight if she'd actually signed the note but now you know for next time as you can guarantee there will be one.

Btw, if you're on a terrace with no drive, apply for a painted disabled space from the council.

I mean there's no door number or name but it's clearly going to be the house you parked outside of 😂 can't imagine the outrage they must have felt to have penned this 😂

Snap. We all have drives but we had a workman in so I parked opposite a neighbours house not opposite his drive though. He came round an hour after the workman left to tell me that I needed to put my car back on my drive as he’d noted that the workman had been left an hour and my car had not been moved and that he had struggled to get out of his drive. I suggested that was more to do with his driving ability than my parking ( I have not the best spatial awareness and therefore drive a fiat 500 and I could have got his big car off his big drive). I then went back k in the house and left my car there for quite a few more hours.

he never spoke to me or husband again which was a massive win as he used to corner neighbours and talk at them for half an hour.

This is brilliant!! 😆

I had a neighbour to my office who despite having TWO of his own parking spots kept parking in our limited/busy work spaces in our private carpark. He parked his Porsche in one of our spots one day, leaving no where for me to park, so I parked behind him in my VW Golf. Soon enough he was banging on the office door demanding I move my car. I told him (via intercom) I'd be down when I had finished my call - there was no call. A few minutes later he's pounding the door making a massive scene & tit of himself.

I went down & he started screaming at me & abusing me right up in my face on the street. I stood my ground and didn't move. He was a proper misogynist this guy, super entitled, really really annoying. Anyhoo he was screaming at me so much, a load of police in a van going slowly by in traffic (it was on a busy London road) pulled over and came to investigate. He screamed & ranted - proper mouth foaming giant mantrum. I very calmly said I would move my car when he apologised & assured me he would stick to his own park in the future. The police advised him to apologise to me. He didn't. I told him I'll be leaving work at 6.30 see ya later and went back to work. Police told him to do one & to leave me alone.

He didn't park in my spot again.

It was all very satisfying. He really was a proper cnut that guy. I cheered when his wife left him.