To be annoyed by this note pushed through my door - photo

[catgirl1976]

I’ve recently moved to this street.

I know it’s politely written but it’s so passive aggressive.

The “end of the road” in question has a primary school on it. There were no spaces there at 830am when I needed to park. And there was someone in the space outside my house so I parked about two door down from my house in the only possible space.

I also have a blue badge.

AIBU to be annoyed? No house number on it so not sure which neighbour sent it

Yes it would get my back up too

Apply for a disabled space in front of their house….

Surely it would be the house you parked in front of who sent it?

This would piss me off. I don’t even drive: but even I know that you don’t know own the parking spaces on a road

The little smiley face.

I hate it too - but I accept that there's absolutely nothing I can do about it.. as we all have to!

See in theory I agree it's better to do these things nicely and directly so you're giving the other person a chance to explain themselves, but the reality is that unless you know all your neighbours well which a lot of people don't now, you have no idea how someone could react to that. People can be awful to neighbours who confront them even when done as politely and reasonably as possible. The person who wrote the note has no way of knowing that op is a reasonable person or not so tbh I totally can see why they've done it anonymously and that aspect wouldn't bother me personally.

That being said, given that op has a blue badge and it was a one off I think it's a bit much for them to be bringing it up at all. Different if op was outside theirs every day when their own space was laying empty.

Perhaps you could pop notes in all the houses asking to join the street WhatsApp group (or set one up) and would like to chat about parking as you are disabled and are considering asking for a disabled bay as you have a blue badge and need to park near your home.

Why would any of the neighbours be arsed about that if they all try to park in front of their own home?

Public road for any member of the public.

My friends with blue badges only put them on display when they are actually using them, so the arsehole neighbour may well not know that the OP has one.

Because it confirms that it is actually the norm on the street and alerts them why you can't park at the end if outside of your house is taken.

The only time I got a PA note from a neighbour I ripped it up into small pieces and posted it back. Never heard anything more. But then I hate neighbours and have as little to do with the creatures as possible.

Yes definitely get the disabled bay sorted pronto. But I would also ask around the neighbours and see if you can find out who wrote it - not in an aggressive way but just to get the word out that you have a blue badge and do need to park as close as possible to your house. Hopefully you will shame them into winding their necks back in.

Euch I hate this. Just because it says "polite" doesn't mean it is. In fact, it comes across as the opposite. It's like starting an email "with respect" meaning with absolutely no respect whatsoever.

People are mad about parking. I once parked outside my own house because we had a skip in the driveway and a neighbour repeatedly egged it and left banana skins on it rather than speak to me because they didn't think we should be parking there. Another neighbour came running out his house one day to shout and swear at our cleaner for parking outside his house. Poor woman was completely shaken then, forever more, he'd move his car onto the street every Thursday then back again once she'd parked elsewhere.

If I felt able, I'd knock the door of houses near where you parked and try to figure out who it is. Given they've not signed their name or house number, I don't imagine the writer will admit to it and you probably won't hear from them again if you happen to stumble across them. You have a blue badge, they should be suitably embarrassed and ashamed.

I actually think it’s reasonable. We live in a road where there is only houses and parking on one side as the other side is a farm.

There are 8 houses. Most of use have been here for quite a while, 10 years or more. We never park outside each other’s houses and it makes life so much easier for everyone. Nobody has to struggle carrying the food shop up the road or anything like that.

For it to work you need everyone bought into it but if you can achieve that it benefits everyone.

What bellends.
As if you would try abd ask your actual neighbours not to park outside your house? I live on a street in a tourist attraction town where we are one of the only streets without permit parking and so good bloody luck parking outside your own house. Its first come first serve to the people that live there. Id never in a million years dream of picking on someone I knew actually lived on that street for parking in front of my house.
They have more right to be near their home and its the fault of randoms who come and use the free parking but dont live there.
Its not neighbours fault.

Id ignore the note. They are twats

Yanbu!! The absolute cowards. I would stick it on your windscreen with a big note of your own next to it saying "WHO WROTE THIS?" so that it's visible to everyone on the street.

Fucking cowards. We had an anonymous letter last year (posted, typed).

Sorry climbintheback, but I disagree. I don't think that many young ladies of the ages you have proferred in your quote above, behave in such an entitled manner. It sounds much more like a woman anywhere older than about 47 years old to me - for reference, I am in my late 60's! 😉

Not very neighbourly to send anonymous notes to people.

id be as neighbourly as the note is in this instance and continue to park legally where you can when someone is parked in front of your house

apply for a disability box outside your house

keep the note, if they send 2 then you can take action over harassment

pop a ring doorbell in for security

Definitely get your own disabled space outside, you NEED it

It’s a public road so anybody can park where they like along there.

Just write in big letters speak to me directly twat
and leave it on your dashboard

Nice in theory but op said there's a school, you often get parents parking down roads and in my town, even with permits, we often get people from other streets parking on ours. Not ideal when you're lumping a weekly shop but that's what I signed up for buying a house without a drive.