Do I ring him? Or sack him off?

[MissNameChage3000]

Supposed to be going on a date tonight. The man confirmed the restaurant last night (he booked the table) but didn’t specify the time. I messaged him saying let me know the plans tomorrow.

I have not heard from him all day. I messaged an hour ago asking whats the plan. He hasn’t been online for a few hours.

Shall I ring him? If we’re still going I need to start getting ready soon. (Shower makeup etc) but don’t want to come across as needy.

Ha yes! I agree. I think the responses on this thread are split between those who are seasoned online daters and can recognise these type of men from a mile off, and those who have never needed to venture into the OLD world and genuinely can't see this is a typical response from a man who can't be bothered/ is ambivalent about the OP or dating in general. This has happened to me so many times I just rolled my eyes when I saw the post (towards the man, not the OP). Not one of them ever came back with a decent excuse.

Meanwhile, in the real world........

Experience tells them he was a chancer. All he he had to do was give a time and place to meet. He didn't because there probably wasn't a place. He's done, move on

@RealReginaPhalange I can't see what she says that was rude although I've not read every single word of her posts.

Maybe you can elaborate?

I read her first post and the updates.

I don't think she was rude, but more exasperated (and venting here) that a man should be so flaky and not set up a date properly.

Do you not see it like that?

Hopefully as it was yesterday you are feeling a bit better OP, totally understand the disappointment and definitely the right call to say let's leave it. He's not who you thought he was.

If a man likes you, you know about it! They make it obvious! It's as simple as that!

I would have said - Oh that's sad I've been dressed and waiting for ages

So you would have lied @user1492757084
the op hasn’t dressed up.

Well it would be a lie for a start because the op wasn’t all dressed up and waiting.

Added to which, you are imaging that he would give a flying fig what the op thought of him, when he’s made it abundantly clear he cares so very little what she thinks of him by his actions @EvieBB

I agree he probably wouldn't give a stuff (whether it was true or not), but I'm imagining that that is why op would've said that she was all dressed up/waiting - she probably thinks it might make him feel guilty (and that's why she thought about saying it)

But the op didn’t say that to him.

you suggested she go back to him with a lie in an attempt to make him guilty

When he phoned you and said he's booked a table, why didn't You ask him what time for ? I would have asked that straight away. As a man he probably doesn't even realize that he didn't give you the time

The table was booked for 7.
He was still at work after 8.
He didn’t even apologise.

So yeah.

No misunderstanding on my side.

The table had never been booked I would bet

Excuse me?

I thought that, too… he said it was booked, but not what time? He’s fibbing.

Then no apology? What a prince!

You dodged a loser.
He'll be back.
I would leave him on unread if he does try to contact you again.

Did you actually RTFT? If you did, and still made that comment, please return to the 1950’s. Nowhere has OP come across as rude. The man she was meant to go on a date with was the rude one, and she herself has dodged a bullet. What you’re saying about OP in this situation sounds very misogynistic. Not sure anyone else reading this thread would
agree with you I’m afraid.

OP, read your post this morning and popped back on to check in. Sorry this has happened to you. It’s his loss. I hope you find someone decent soon. Stay true to yourself. X

So many deranged responses on here OP. He's a low energy loser and you're absolutely right to have sacked him off. Hope you're having a nice Saturday and not too disappointed x

Not attractive in a man, this low energy nonsense. I’d say I’d made other plans then, be strong.

I know this is a very late response, as 24 hours have passed since you posted. Just wanted to say, for a first date, if he is not courteous enough to answer your messages, he isn't someone that is going to be reliable. I hope you didn't message him, & l hope you pissed him off....Goid luck for finding someone honest and decent

@MissNameChage3000
So he's "changed" his plans/mind
Leaving you in the lurch
And so
Are you sure he actually booked?
You've only his word for it

Is his name Aaron btw?

welldone op, sacking this man off was definitely the right thing to do. so many desperate pick me women on here willing to accept all kinds of behaviours from men, explains why theres so many useless men around.