Do I ring him? Or sack him off?

[MissNameChage3000]

Supposed to be going on a date tonight. The man confirmed the restaurant last night (he booked the table) but didn’t specify the time. I messaged him saying let me know the plans tomorrow.

I have not heard from him all day. I messaged an hour ago asking whats the plan. He hasn’t been online for a few hours.

Shall I ring him? If we’re still going I need to start getting ready soon. (Shower makeup etc) but don’t want to come across as needy.

As it is a man thing involved here , he is obviously not simply forgetful or slightly scatty ... but demonic , manipulating and perhaps a maniac .
You can't assume he made a silly mistake and allow for this , as you might with a woman ...... He is one of them , the enemy .... and evil ....

He must be pretty bloody "forgetful" if he "forgot" to tell the OP the time of the booking, "forgot" to reply to her first and second message and "forgot" that he was still at work at 8pm when he'd arranged a date and not bothered to let her know.

OP - have you heard any more from him?

I agree. Confirm the restaurant with you but not the time? Power play is right! He's seeing what you'll put up with - so don't put up with it.

But btw; why didn't you ask at the time?

Well done on not lowering your bar to accommodate this man OP. You deserve more and it’s clear you expect more, which is great. So many posters on this thread are clearly prepared to take any bit of crumb they’re given which is so sad. Keep your standards up.

Yes, all those posters calling this man demonic and a maniac.🙄

Don’t forget “evil”!! 😱

It isn't power play or manipulating ... no man in today's man-hate anti-man culture will do that , as they know that a man - by definition - has no power ... He probably got overwhelmed by something else or mental collapse . Power-play it is not , because man arranging a date and then cocking up would be slaughtered and lose out for any mistake, however minor that he makes .. To assume that it is a power gambit is female paranoia / misandry .

For your own wellbeing: you do not "really like" someone you haven't even been on a first date with. Create some distance between yourself and the person you don't know yet. Or else this is going to consume you.

You okay dude? Sounds like a touch of the incel…

Aww, you having a tough time leaving your bedroom.

Mental collapse?! Seriously????

It isn't power play or manipulating ... no man in today's man-hate anti-man culture will do that , as they know that a man - by definition - has no power ...

I just burst out laughing so hard I woke up the cat and the kids dropped their colouring pencils.

That is absolutely superb. Thank you. I needed that. The comedy circuit is a bit depressed at the moment, you should look into it.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yeah. Poor, poor men.

I had a similar thing, we were supposed to be meeting at a nice bar but it felt off, so I didn't leave the house (only ten mins away). Five minutes before we were supposed to meet he said his car had broken down and he couldn't make it. Only time I've been stood up to be fair, but I just knew

“Mental collapse” certainly doesn’t apply here with the OP’s date. The OP’s date is actually someone she knows, not from OLD and it is basic courtesy to let somebody know in advance that they won’t be able to make it after all. Not hang around until the evening is well underway and then send a half-arsed text that bears no responsibility and with no respect for the other person’s time or their life. A text takes seconds. The OP was right to dismiss this man and to conclude that his intentions weren’t genuine.

I have a feeling that you are pretty bloody terrifying in RL @Heroyamslava

What a surprise… @Heroyamslava is a man

. "No mobiles at work " is common at work ...very many , if not most jobs in retail and other hospitality would have carrying a mobile in customer-facing role as sackable

@Heroyamslava What are you doing here?