Do I ring him? Or sack him off?

[MissNameChage3000]

Supposed to be going on a date tonight. The man confirmed the restaurant last night (he booked the table) but didn’t specify the time. I messaged him saying let me know the plans tomorrow.

I have not heard from him all day. I messaged an hour ago asking whats the plan. He hasn’t been online for a few hours.

Shall I ring him? If we’re still going I need to start getting ready soon. (Shower makeup etc) but don’t want to come across as needy.

I absolutely would not contact him again. I'm not even sure I'd go if he texted now, since he's been ignoring you all day. Actually, I'm sure I WOULDN'T go.

I would try ringing him once but I wouldn’t keep trying if I didn’t get through. There’s no way of knowing if there’s a genuine emergency or he’s being a twat so I wouldn’t spend all night chasing him. I hope there’s a reasonable explanation.

I would send one last message saying as he didn’t get back to you, you have made other plans

Early dates should be easy. There was no need for him to not tell you the details yesterday, it's either incompetence or a power play and neither is attractive.

Do NOT contact him. I wouldn't bother going now anyway if he's left you hanging all afternoon

How weird does someone have to be that they book a table but don’t tell you the time?! I would avoid an odd bod like that to be honest.

Do u know the restaurant name and his name? Id ring restaurant and see if he's actually booked and the time. But I wouldn't contact him

Yeah write that one off - what a weirdo

Bet he calls you from the restaurant to ask where you are.

Yeah weird power play. Move on

Since you have no idea what time you’re going, and he hasn’t been in touch, I’d assume it’s not happening.

You could have a shower just in case though- if you like him.

No, I'm all for communication and not playing silly games but you've done enough.

If I were you I'd get ready and go out with friends if you can.

Totally had this when I was dating. Hes either nervous with cold feet or is incompetent and rude. Neither worth bothering with. Block and delete so no chance of breadcrumbing.

I'm not sure the restaurant would give out that information.

Yes or a power play and ick to that.

I saw a good thing online recently that said to say something like: Since I haven’t heard from you to confirm arrangements I’ve made other plans for my night. If this is a miscommunication between us we can reschedule for another time.

He might be genuinely busy at work.
Dont write him off but also don’t contact him again. Can you go out with someone else if you don’t hear from him?

Absolutely do not have a shower and then leg it out the door at the last minute! If it was a power play you would then be very much on the back foot. No this is not how you should be treated at all in the early stages of dating and don't entertain it for a second.

He didn't book anything and you've been ghosted or blocked.
Get ready for either not hearing from him again ir "family / child emergency" or taken to hospital.

It could just be an oversight. Odd to bin off what could be a great relationship over a small error. If you can’t tell, I’m a big believer in second chances.

Who books a table but doesn't tell you the time once they've booked it?

He's either impossibly scatty or playing power games. Either way I wouldn't want to see him.

I agree with @JanBlues2026 - send him a brief text saying that as you haven’t heard from him you have made other plans.

People treat you how you allow them to. I'm shocked at some of these responses. He was online for hours, he totally ghosted you, it's a first date.

No man on this earth is worth being such a doormat for!

First date or have you seen/ met him before?

He might not check messages during his work day, what does he do OP and do you know when he finishes work?

I like PP idea of calling the restaurant to check if he booked / what time. Is it local to you or do you need to travel far to get there?

I'd start to get ready, minimal effort but not call him. If I hadn't heard by 7 I'd assume he was a time waster, put my PJs on and order pizza!

I wouldn't contact him again. I wouldn't bother sending him a message saying I assume you're not coming etc because if he is playing games, he'll love that.

If he contacts you, thats when you tell him you made other plans because he didn't get back to you.