Do I ring him? Or sack him off?

[MissNameChage3000]

Supposed to be going on a date tonight. The man confirmed the restaurant last night (he booked the table) but didn’t specify the time. I messaged him saying let me know the plans tomorrow.

I have not heard from him all day. I messaged an hour ago asking whats the plan. He hasn’t been online for a few hours.

Shall I ring him? If we’re still going I need to start getting ready soon. (Shower makeup etc) but don’t want to come across as needy.

My money is on him getting in touch in 3-5 days with…

”I lost my phone”
”my Nan died”
“I got rushed into hospital with >insert emergency here<“

Absolutely do not chase that man. You left the ball in his court so it's his blunder.

If he gets in touch now charmingly tell him you hadn't heard from him so have made alternative plans. Invent an alternative plan if he asks. "Seeing my friend." will do.
Invite him to try another time with a follow up confirmation. Be sweet and lovely but leave him under no illusion that you are not a last minute kind of woman and your time has value.

Sack him off tonight.

A lot of them have been recently dumped by exasperated partners. This one's a bullet dodged!

I've never lost a phone in my life and I've had one for 25 years. Amazing how prone to this men are isn't it!

I wouldn’t want to play his games or come across as needy. I would call as scary as it seems. It’s ridiculous in this day and age we have to tiptoe around each others communication styles. You need to know the time or you can make other plans! Please do btw don’t wait around for him. In future tell the dater the only time you can meet so you don’t have this issue.

Did you not speak about a rough time yesterday?

I find that really odd in itself.

Surely there was a conversation about what time you both finish etc and then what time did he book it for?

Is this the first time you’ve met him?

Binned so far he’d be landfill.

Blimey, God forbid that he had a brain fart and thought that they had agreed (say) 7 and booked assuming the OP knew.

I did that to my sister once, we agreed to meet for coffee and I rang her with a cob on asking where she was. She said that we hadnt agreed a time and she assumed I had changed my mind. I had, for whatever reason, it my head that we were meeting at 2pm but hadnt bothered to communicate to Dsis, cos she would know that, right?!

I wouldnt jump straight to power play, ghosting or anything else. At least give him a chance to explain himself. I would imagine a message along the lines of "Oh shit, didnt I say? I booked it for 7, sorry!"

I suppose if she just said "I've a table for two tonight under (his name) can you remind me of the time?" They might. I'd not be going, but I'd be curious to know if he'd actually booked it or not just to know what level of weird he was.

It's odd then that he hasn't replied to OP's message last night or her message an hour ago. 99% of people would check the message thread once in 24 hours if there was a notification in case it was a cancellation.

Just seen update!

Sacked it off.

Unfortunately all my friends have young children so they can’t make spontaneous plans on a Fri evening.

Feel a bit disappointed but I’ll be fine :)

Excuse Me????

Ive seen your edit.

Own the shit you say.

Ring the restaurant and see if ever a booking under his name

I CBA going to that trouble. Won’t give me any satisfaction.

Well yeah… ok

calm down

before you updated, I made a jokey post about perhaps you being suited to each other because you had not messaged your thread again

I thought it was pretty funny!

Fair enough.

it would just be confirming he hasn’t
twat

Good for you! Completely not worth it.

Has he contacted you yet? What a mean thing to do if he has ghosted you now!

I thought it was a bit rude.

Maybe you’re the one who’s more suited to this guy.

Anyway thanks all most of you. Nothing more to update unless I hear a crazy excuse! :)

Oh chill

order yourself a takeaway and watch your fave film

Extremely poor treatment. Only excuse was run over by a bus and in hospital. Please, if he comes back with a lame excuse, don't respond. What a twerp

Sorry for being upset and disappointed over being
messed around by a guy I really liked.

So many rude people on here!

Don't ring and don't go is my advice. If he's genuine and something has happened meaning has not been able to contact you he will be in touch, but to be honest you don't book a table but not specify a time. Very odd

Relax about my jokey message!

as for him, twat and and saved yourself wasted effort and money. Treat yourself tonight!