To refuse Hs attempt at sex at 6.30 on a week day morning when High School DC about to wake in their nearby rooms

[NobodysGirl]

I get up at 6.30 and get breakfast and stuff for DC to leave at 7.30 (High school), their alarm goes at 6.30 too and rarely they do saunter in if the door were unlocked- but even otherwise the rooms are all close by and they would be up and about and this is more embarrassing now that they are grown and would easily have guessed.

Found it disgusting and a turn off and annoyed with H

Especially as he knew I would have been willing after they had left for a lie in as we both wfh and have the whole place to ourselves and full privacy till late evening when they are back.

Is this a fetish that emerges in couples in 40s and 50s to pounce and try it on at inappropriate times? Does it keep men from getting bored to be risque than safe.

Not having it.

I tried not to be outing by altering the ages a bit, High school DSs

Morning sex aside, why do you need to sort breakfast for your teen sons? Surely they can ger thenselves ready for school without constant supervision?

@NobodysGirl can belittle her husband and act like he's disgusting for even thinking about 6:30am sex but you think she can't say she's not making breakfast for her almost adult sons every morning?

H says that is bad parenting and laziness

I would be okay with just letting get breakfast and sorted and getting up at 7.25 to say bye. Although I would have felt a bit guilty about that and assumed I was the only one doing that, many of you do? or are these mums without teen DC answering this

I am not convinced he would be wrong in saying that about the breakfast and lazy parenting

I am also not convinced I was right this morning, thats why I cam on here immortal snowman. Are you a man , am I allowed to ask? no offense I really did want the other mum's opinions though but thanks

The words Mummy/Daddy, over the age of around 8 too, in my family is immediately responded to with "What do you want?" Not a single one of us is subtle 😂

They don't ever call their dad - daddy

or give him affectionate hugs or kisses on the cheek anymore that I can remember in a while

Is that normal too in your house, snowman?

What absolute drivel.

I am offended. Just because I disagree with you, I must not be a mum or in fact even a woman.

Perhaps read my previous reply to you.

But did you say let’s wait half hour or did you just jump straight to fetish?

I personally quite like a quick one in the morning 😂

Where do you live? Why do your DS's have to wait until they're 18 before they can have sex?

And for god sake let them make their own breakfasts. It's not lazy parenting to teach them how to be fully functioning adults, quite the opposite in fact.

That’s what I thought, not creepy but I associated it with wealthy parents. But my BIL and SIL’s DC call them Mummy and Daddy and they’re all but one in their 20s and also very independent. I always thought that odd.

It isn’t the case with my DSis and BIL’s DC, though.

But now my DDs call us that, and it isn’t for lack of me trying to change it. We always sign cards ‘Mum’ and ‘Dad’.) I find it strange myself, but the names have stuck. (Despite serious problems in our relationship with DD2.). They are adopted, which might play a part in this.

I wouldn’t like to think it’s ‘creepy’, though.

She said that after I'd posted the comment you are quoting - and I did listen to her because I responded by advising her to speak to him about needing to teach them independence and if he was still insistent to tell him to do it himself!

We aren't a touchy feeley family, including extended. However on special occasions, all adults will hug and give a kiss. Men included.

I wouldn't call it a fetish to want early morning sex. Yes the children can hear, but I expect they have been hearing it for years. Op I think you are overreacting on this one

I am in the UK but BAME - does that change the hoped for age being 18 at the least? I have lots of white friends who want their kids to wait till 18 min too. And we only hope so rather than insist so ofc.

Do not know why I said 'but BAME'

Okay

OKay agree overreacting.

your kids have been overhearing morning sex for years?

sex between married couples is perfectly normal.

There’s nothing wrong with saying no to sex if it doesn’t feel like a good time in the day for you. There’s also nothing wrong with asking for morning sex.

I'm surprised he still wants sex with you after 50 (you, not him). And having sex with kids in the house is absolutely disgusting.

The thing is, it's NOT disrespectful for him to try it on with his wife at 6.30.

It didn't suit you, fine. It's perfectly reasonable for you to decline.

But the act of him asking was not disrespectful. Poorly timed? Yes. Ill-considered? Maybe. Disrespectful? No!

No not particularly wealthy. Now that you mention it, not regularly mummy in the way Prince (formerly) Andew did with HM.

More like laying it on thick when trying to get their way and be irresistible when asking for more allowance money etc

I can be dense with getting sarcasm sometimes :-), had to read this a few times