To refuse Hs attempt at sex at 6.30 on a week day morning when High School DC about to wake in their nearby rooms

[NobodysGirl]

I get up at 6.30 and get breakfast and stuff for DC to leave at 7.30 (High school), their alarm goes at 6.30 too and rarely they do saunter in if the door were unlocked- but even otherwise the rooms are all close by and they would be up and about and this is more embarrassing now that they are grown and would easily have guessed.

Found it disgusting and a turn off and annoyed with H

Especially as he knew I would have been willing after they had left for a lie in as we both wfh and have the whole place to ourselves and full privacy till late evening when they are back.

Is this a fetish that emerges in couples in 40s and 50s to pounce and try it on at inappropriate times? Does it keep men from getting bored to be risque than safe.

Not having it.

Yeah sometimes it is but that is okay as long as I am not ill or kids not about etc

Also to the PP who mentioned cucumber on the back during sleep, OMG yes! I have a pillow always these days to avoid this

He did not used to be like this

From reading a bunch of posts it seems like the issue some people would have with sex in the morning while kids are awake is that they would have to get up and close/lock the door first, and couldn't be sure their kids wouldn't burst in. My husband and I have always slept with our bedroom door closed, and we kept it locked until we knew for sure that our kids understood the rule about not walking in to a room with a closed door. Things might have been different if we had an open door policy in our room. Thank goodness we never did!

The other issue is the noise. Surely you can all manage to do it quietly when necessary?

Thank you !

Although the cuddle was before it all.

On your thread you said 17 and 17Plus

you have been together 25 years
you said you had 6 years of child free sex

So… 17 and 19?

either way… tpu talk about them like they’re 7 and 9. What kind of partners are your son going to make… ask yourself that!!

I cheer myself up thinking there will be grandkids to help take care of in 10 years @rokabe .....I know , I know ......

Be like what?

Yep met 24+ years go

Married 22 years ago

one year of pregnancy after the child free years where he said lets not have kids, lets just have fun and also make lots of money

A guy who presses his dick against his wife's back or hip when she is sleeping

You're not unreasonable to not feel like sex first thing in the morning when kids are up and about. You are unreasonable to accuse him of having a fetish!

But your sons will know all too well how unhappy the home is and will be unlikely to want to visit often and certainly not leave Kids there. Would you leave the children in the company as you describe your husband…. Constantly grumpy, moody, verbally abusive?

No.....

ok so both mid and older teens

Well there we go.

You need to start thinking about the two of you alone.

Lol, something that also happens because they have a full bladder?! It's biology, that's all.

I just read the other thread , lady with cancer and untouchable infection and feel so sad and am like whatever on this now. Should have just let him get it over with and be done with it, who knows how long I still have but, he did not even go make sure the door was locked first, damn him !

That poor lady has absolutely nothing to do with your very unhappy and verbally abusive marriage

So it was before the alarm and before your “teens” alarm?

Earlier you said the issue was the teens alarm was also going off?

The story is changing.

In all honesty, I haven't read your other thread. But the way you say you spoke to him, and the way you talk about him. I imagine his side of this relationship doesn't feel that great either.

It's not about him being in the mood and you not being in the mood. But you treating him like he's some kind of disgusting sex pest with a creepy fetish is really unreasonable and abit cruel. He attempted to initiate consensual sex with his conscious wife, in their bed, with no one else in the room. That's perfectly reasonable to do. You didn't want to have sex at that moment. Also fine. Treating him like he's disgusting is absolutely not fine.

I can't imagine liking someone who treated me the way you say you've treated him today.

Dick pressing in sleep was other times Boogie

Do not compare a very poorly woman being raped to you being asked for consual sex while you were awake in bed.

OMG she was raped as well !? Reading her threads from the start now

Thanks everyone, this was useful as always

I think you’re being a bit OTT thinking it’s some pervy fetish involving your children effectively!

I think he just woke up horny as many of us do and fancied a bit before the DC fully got up. I don’t think this warranted a Mumsnet thread…

I mean, it was a man doing something a woman didn’t approve of. That always warrants a Mumsnet thread.

Maybe I read a different thread then. My apologies.

Does your husband ever get up to do them breakfast?