So I met up with a relative today and we are both having a baby. During the conversation they said:
They are having a DD and they are delighted as wouldn't want to have a DS. I said I was pleased they were having a girl as that's what they wanted but what's wrong with a DS. They made it clear they very much would really not want one. I pointed out my sons are lovely. They again said they wouldnt want one and did not say anything nice about my sons. They said it's because of 'the men that boys become'.
I have two sons and a third boy on the way. They know my baby will be a boy.
They also said they didnt think it an issue if the children shared the same name. We are close family so this would be majorly insulting for me and disrespectful to the identity of my children. Also the babies are not even the same gender.
They also said repeatedly they dont know why I am having a 3rd and why would anyone have 3 children. They said they would have 1 child and dont think siblings are important.
They have previously said that I 'was very stressed' when had my first child and they have waited until ready.
All the above was said in a light conversation tone. Their partner was there and seemed to think this was all fine too.
I didn't think about it much in the moment but got home and was like....
What on earth was going on?Ä·