Wanting to have a ffm threesome with my boyfriend but worried I'll get jealous

[TinkyWinkyWonky]

As the title says, basically both me and my boyfriend want to spice things up a bit and want to introduce a third person into things.Neither of us want another man involved and we both find the idea a big turn on.Has anyone on here had any experience good or bad,and how do you deal with feelings of jealousy or are you just caught up in the moment and enjoy it for what it is?

Having a FFM threesome is indeed often pushed by the man in the relationship and the woman acquiesces because she's afraid he'll leave. The same is true for when the man pushes to open the marriage - it's nearly ALWAYS the man. I also heard about cases where the guy is pushing his reluctant wife to have sex with other men and tell him all about it (cuck fantasy). And sometimes I wonder whether some of the female subs in BDSM are trying to process rape or patriarchal abuse that was inflicted during her formative years. I also doubt that the heterosexual sex that many women are having is really the sex they want. There are many many women having unwanted consensual sex with their H because otherwise he gets grumpy and shitty and she's afraid he'll leave. Or she feels she has to engage in anal sex or kink play she doesn't really enjoy because he wants to so much. Or she gives him blow jobs so that she's spared his nightly pump and dump. Or she fakes an orgasm so that she can go to sleep (30-40% of women in hetero relationships rarely or never orgasm during their sexual encounters vs 5% of men). There are also women who are probably lesbian but would never act on it because they have internalised it as "not normal/ shameful/ disgusting

So a woman – like me perhaps – who enjoys kinky sex, finds casual sex exciting, can orgasm from giving a BJ and is secure enough to enjoy sharing her partner with another woman, is in some way abnormal??

Did you read the rest of the post you’ve quoted?

@Sporkmaiden I did.

"I think we should indeed be very wary of situations that look like the woman might be coerced by the man, because patriarchy is still very much in power and such coercion is very common and destructive. But we should also recognise that some women are actually having the kind and frequency of sex they want, even if it doesn't conform to what we think is 'normal'."

there are women who have largely escaped this patriarchal conditioning and engage freely in the sex they want. Some want a lot of sex, some want it occasionally, some like ONSs, some want it with a partner they love, some want it with women, or in a poly relationship, or in FFM or MMF swinging.

This poster is fully supportive of you having the sex you want. The post you’re getting upset over presents a nuanced argument that respects the choices you’ve made freely, while also recognising the enduring impact of the patriarchy and the need to be aware of the possibility of coercion in situations like this. It’s not an attack on you.

I tried. And it was just as bad as I described.

I was very young and my husband talked me into it - I left the room and they didn’t notice for a good 20 minutes.

I would not recommend it.

@LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta
i agree with what you’ve said. It’s hard to separate what women actually want, sexually, from what they’ve been conditioned to think they want. I gave up sex in 2016 after being coerced by male agendas into things I really didn’t want to do