Maintainence man manoeuvred my 3 year old out of the way

[tooloololoo]

Today I was in a bakery with 3year old dd, she went to look at the cakes whilst I ordered. However the maintainence man kept manoeuvring her out of the way back to me whilst I was ordering because there was a vent by her legs. It resulted in dd having a massive meltdown and throwing herself on the floor

On reflection am I being unreasonable to think the maintainence man could have walked me instead of taking ds shoulders and walking her back to me?

At first I was distracted at the till and didn’t realise it was a maintainence person

OP - oh just some basic parenting and stop looking to 'blame' others'

That was different though - the children were alone and it was more than a couple of minutes

Slightly off topic but I could read by the time I was 3 😁

Keep your eye on your child and out of the way of people trying to get on with their work, people like you would be the first to moan if she got hurt.

Omg this winds me up! I can’t stand parents who let their kids do this. My children know that cafes and restaurants are for eating, not playing. They know that we leave if they do t behave. Only had to leave once, they are quick learners.

Very good point.

Surprised the maintenance guy didn't have a meltdown too.

OP has clearly had a meltdown - 9 pages and nowhere in sight.

Don't buy the sausages from her local butcher!

I can just imagine what type of parent you'll be when your kid is in school 😩

Yabu. She's 3 so needs you to watch her at all times anything could have happened to her, plenty worse than a man kindly keeping her from harm.

This woman was in a shop. James Bulger was in a shopping centre and given that I’m sure you can’t name a single other instance like it, it shows how (thankfully) rare it is.

Its nonsense like your attitude that stops people stepping in to help for fear of being accused of who knows what.

James Bulger was taken when his mum was distracted in a shop. OP was distracted in a cafe. Not really that different.

Her child was constantly getting in the way and then started kicking off - it doesn’t sound much like anyone would have had the opportunity.

But she was in the way enough to be moved by the poor man trying to his job so with a parent paying so little attention sadly it wouldn’t take long

OP was sufficiently distracted that she didn't tell the child to come back multiple times. Imagine the maintenance man (who returned her more than once) instead walked her away quickly whilst mum was distracted.

Not seeing much difference myself.

The chances of it happening are ridiculously small. There would have to be a kidnapper at the exact time, no CCTV, nobody else noticing, etc. And frankly as a parent, in the same room as your child in public, keeping an eye is surely a minimum.

okay but what are the chances? The reason everyone knows about James Bulger is that it happens so rarely. The OP clearly wasn’t fussed in any case

The chances may be low but why take the risk?

why wouldn’t you monitor your very young child well enough you know there is no risk!!?

Er, have you had a logic bypass or something? I'm pointing out that James Bulger was abducted while his mum was distracted. On what planet does that equate to my or anyone else's 'attitude' stopping people from stepping in to help?

In OP's case, I think the maintenance man did the only thing he could, given that OP couldn't be arsed keeping her child out of the way.

And as for splitting hairs over shopping centre vs shop ... James Bulger was taken while his mother was in a SHOP within said shopping centre. It's beyond me how you think there's any meaningful distinction between the two.

Lots of things are very low risk. We still take precautions.

Exactly! Some of the complacency on this thread is making my blood run cold tbh.

Well the OP didn’t

Cases like James Bulger = 1 in 30 years

Children dead in car accidents = hundreds

theres low risk and then there’s vanishingly small. You have difficulty differentiating. Do your children ever ravel in a car?

But it doesn't matter if it only happened once. Allowing a child to wander off and get in someone's way multiple times is really crap parenting.

Yes, my children travel in cars. With the relevant carseats until they were too big to use them anymore.

We can't entirely stop horrendous things from happening (car accidents, abductions) but we do the best we can to prevent them. (Car seats, speed limits. Keeping a close eye on a child)