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Anti valuers are dumb and pathetic

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Beautifulsiro56 · 18/03/2026 23:39

Anti-vaxxers shouldn’t even consider having children until they develop a basic sense of responsibility.

I’m beyond frustrated hearing about measles outbreaks again and again. I fully understand that some parents genuinely cannot vaccinate their children using live vaccines due to legitimate medical conditions that weaken the immune system, but outside of those rare cases, there is no excuse apart from being totally and utterly DUMB and people that are do dumb and irresponsible should not be reproducing..

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Calendulaaria · 19/03/2026 20:03

Wednesdaytoday · 19/03/2026 13:22

I was one of them when I was younger but that's no reason not to believe in the science. Vaccines are effective for the majority and are you really going to chance it if you don't have to.

The only point I am making is that it's over the top to HATE people you view as anti vaxxers, when some of those people may have tried to vaccinate and then their children didn't cope well with it, so they stopped. This blind hatred whipped up by the media etc is over the top

Calendulaaria · 19/03/2026 20:11

TheIceBear · 19/03/2026 14:24

Yeh whatever . My child had a rare life threatening reaction to a vaccine and ended up in hospital. I still had him vaccinated for everything else

I'm glad he survived the others.

Calendulaaria · 19/03/2026 20:12

Nanny0gg · 19/03/2026 14:36

That's not the same thing as being an anti-vaxxer

And there's a difference between 'not coping well' and having a life threatening reaction to them

Everyone who doesn't stick to the schedule is labelled anti vaxxer. Even those who have HAD shots, but dare to talk about side effects are labels anti vaxxer.

Beautifulsiro56 · 19/03/2026 20:29

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:09

Why does it bother you? If you/your child are vaccinated you’re protected. Those that are ‘anti-vax’ as you put it are mostly vaccine injured people or have a child/family member who has been damaged by vaccines. I think you need to pull your head out your arse and actually take some time to listen to these people.

I think you are one of the dumbos. I refer to here. Ever heard of herd immunity???

If most people are immune (usually through vaccination or past infection), the disease can’t easily “jump” from person to person.
This indirectly protects people who aren’t immune, like babies, elderly individuals, or those with weakened immune systems.

Idiots not getting their kids vaccinated means herd immunity has DROPPED and people are at RISK.

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TheIceBear · 19/03/2026 20:32

Calendulaaria · 19/03/2026 20:11

I'm glad he survived the others.

it was an unusual situation. The point still stands that vaccine preventable diseases are more deadly than vaccines. So I took the advice of experts and vaccinated him against the other diseases when there was no more risk involved than anyone else in the general population . All vaccines are different it would be very unusual for a child to be allergic to all vaccines .

Labelledelune · 19/03/2026 20:39

youbizarrehorse · 19/03/2026 00:56

Has this happened to you? Or someone you know? It’s extremely rare.

It’s not ‘extremely’ as rare as you think. I’m not an anti vaxxer as you are calling it, but I won’t have a covid shot as they told my son that his boys were in no uncertain terms to get it ( both have cystic fibroses) that was enough information for me.

Additup · 19/03/2026 20:46

Calendulaaria · 19/03/2026 20:12

Everyone who doesn't stick to the schedule is labelled anti vaxxer. Even those who have HAD shots, but dare to talk about side effects are labels anti vaxxer.

I agree. It's ridiculous and only serves to get people's backs up.

My children all received all their vaccines and some extra private ones but it hasn't stopped another poster accusing me of being anti vax. All because I said I had some sympathy for anti vaxxers because of the pandemrix debacle, covid vax injuries etc. ie some sympathy, I can see why some would feel like that, not I agree with them wholeheartedly.

It's as if some people can't comprehend 2 different views at the same time without short circuiting 😂

Frequency · 19/03/2026 21:26

Additup · 19/03/2026 20:46

I agree. It's ridiculous and only serves to get people's backs up.

My children all received all their vaccines and some extra private ones but it hasn't stopped another poster accusing me of being anti vax. All because I said I had some sympathy for anti vaxxers because of the pandemrix debacle, covid vax injuries etc. ie some sympathy, I can see why some would feel like that, not I agree with them wholeheartedly.

It's as if some people can't comprehend 2 different views at the same time without short circuiting 😂

I think the difference is that one "point of view" is backed up by decades of medical studies, and supported by people who have studied disease and vaccines for decades, while the other is backed up by YouTubers who have a loose grip on reality.

It's not so much one POV vs another as it is fact vs fiction. I have no respect for anyone who believes their "research" makes them more qualified than scientists and medical professionals who have spent their entire adult lives studying one topic.

You wouldn't trust some randomer on the dark web to perform surgery on your child, yet thousands are willing to trust their children's lives, and the lives of those unable to be vaccinated through no fault of their own, to randomers on the internet. It would be funny if it weren't so dangerous.

cityanalyst678 · 19/03/2026 21:39

Additup · 19/03/2026 17:42

I'm a very, very long way from being anti vax. My children had all their vaccinations and we even paid for some extra private ones.

However, I remember the pandemrix debacle where people did die/were left with life changing illness even after all the testing etc

There have also been other cases where well tested vaccines have caused serious health problems and that's before we get to the people who died as a result of a bad reaction to the covid vaccine. A vaccine that many countries mandated.

As a result I do have some sympathy for those not keen on vaccinations. Government's are rightly concerned with herd immunity but that isn't much consolation if you or you child is the one who experiences vaccine injury.

I think there is a lot of false information about vaccines. Covid itself has caused a lot of people’s immune systems to attack their bodies. People then assume it’s the vaccine.

Calendulaaria · 19/03/2026 22:11

Additup · 19/03/2026 20:46

I agree. It's ridiculous and only serves to get people's backs up.

My children all received all their vaccines and some extra private ones but it hasn't stopped another poster accusing me of being anti vax. All because I said I had some sympathy for anti vaxxers because of the pandemrix debacle, covid vax injuries etc. ie some sympathy, I can see why some would feel like that, not I agree with them wholeheartedly.

It's as if some people can't comprehend 2 different views at the same time without short circuiting 😂

Exactly. There's a middle ground and compassion for those who are perhaps injured or metabolise differently and can't have certain shots. It's good to see someone else on here with a more balanced view!

LadyFlumpalot · 19/03/2026 22:33

I’m allergic to penicillin. If I took it I would be very ill or could die. Would that mean that all antibiotics are bad and no one should take them, or just that I, a singular person, had a bad reaction to one particular type.

Vaccines themselves are not bad, but doubtless some people will have reactions to them. Vaccines are responsible for saving millions of lives, as are antibiotics. Just because I’m allergic to one antibiotic doesn’t mean everyone else shouldn’t take them. Just because some people react badly to vaccines doesn’t make them inherently unsafe.

JohnofWessex · 19/03/2026 22:35

Many years ago now one of the Scandinavian countries conducted a risk/benefit analysis of vaccines.

I understand that it came down very strongly in favour of vaccination but I have no idea where to find it.

Drippingfeed · 19/03/2026 22:41

Beautifulsiro56 · 18/03/2026 23:39

Anti-vaxxers shouldn’t even consider having children until they develop a basic sense of responsibility.

I’m beyond frustrated hearing about measles outbreaks again and again. I fully understand that some parents genuinely cannot vaccinate their children using live vaccines due to legitimate medical conditions that weaken the immune system, but outside of those rare cases, there is no excuse apart from being totally and utterly DUMB and people that are do dumb and irresponsible should not be reproducing..

True but I think you need to ask MNHQ to edit your header...

Additup · 19/03/2026 22:53

Frequency · 19/03/2026 21:26

I think the difference is that one "point of view" is backed up by decades of medical studies, and supported by people who have studied disease and vaccines for decades, while the other is backed up by YouTubers who have a loose grip on reality.

It's not so much one POV vs another as it is fact vs fiction. I have no respect for anyone who believes their "research" makes them more qualified than scientists and medical professionals who have spent their entire adult lives studying one topic.

You wouldn't trust some randomer on the dark web to perform surgery on your child, yet thousands are willing to trust their children's lives, and the lives of those unable to be vaccinated through no fault of their own, to randomers on the internet. It would be funny if it weren't so dangerous.

I'm not thinking of people who use YouTube for medical advice though. I think when you think of anti vaxers and when I think of anti vaxers we're considering 2 different types of people.

You see all anti vaxers as the sort of people who learn about the world through YouTube, tictok etc which I agree is unhealthy in all sorts of ways, not just for health advice.

I imagine many, not all anti vaxers are people who are worried and scared to do the wrong thing for their and their children's health. The reason they are scared is because of past experience such as pandemrix, government mandates, well documented issues with the covid vax and lack of understanding about these concerns.

I don't believe that all anti vaxers think in the same way or have the same motivation. That's what I mean by different points of view.

Cerezo · 19/03/2026 23:03

“Anti vax folk are all Morons” is the same as “all brexit voters are racist”.

I mean the Venn diagrams for anti vaxxer/moron and brexit/racist are pretty close together; but they fundamentally also show a dissatisfaction with the current system to meet their needs, and that I can empathise with even if I think those people are being misled by charlatans.

youbizarrehorse · 20/03/2026 00:22

Labelledelune · 19/03/2026 20:39

It’s not ‘extremely’ as rare as you think. I’m not an anti vaxxer as you are calling it, but I won’t have a covid shot as they told my son that his boys were in no uncertain terms to get it ( both have cystic fibroses) that was enough information for me.

I didn’t call anyone an anti vaxxer. And I’m not sure I understand what you mean about your grandchildren with Cystic Fibrosis. It is recommended that children who are physically vulnerable or immunosuppressed have the Covid vaccine. Why would that advice stop you from having it?

Owlbookend · 20/03/2026 10:24

I would absolutely agree that it helps no one to label people who do not give their children vaccines dumb, stupid etc. Nobody ever hears this and thinks 'yes - I have been stupid i must go out and vacinate my child'. Instead it angers people, they feel persecuted and they stop listening.

However, there is no doubt that scientific evidence supports the UK childhood vaccination schedule. The benefits of standard childhood vaccines far, far outweigh the risks. If you have concerns discuss them with your GP who has years of medical training and can access your child's nedical records. They are best placed to advise you.

I do not apologise for post this information about measles again.

A child with measles will have to spend about five days in bed and could miss two weeks of school. Even in wealthier countries such as the UK, around one in every 15 children with measles will develop more serious complications.
These can include:
ear infection (otitis media) in about 8% of measles cases (about 1 in 12 people)
pneumonia in up to 6% of measles cases (up to 1 in 16 people
diarrhoea in about 8% of measles cases (about 1 in 12 people)
encephalitis (inflammation of the brain): 1 case for every 1000-2000 cases of measles. Encephalitis can lead to permanent brain damage.
In countries like the UK, measles causes death in about 1 in 5000 cases.
In rare cases, measles can lead to a condition called SSPE (subacute sclerosing panencephalitis). SSPE is a persistent viral infection, a devastating complication of measles which leads to a progressive destruction of the central nervous system. Symptoms can develop years after the initial infection. It results in dementia, loss of motor control, epilepsy and eventually death.

Vaccines protect children from these side effects. They prevent deaths and lifelong disabilities.

PaperMachePanda · 20/03/2026 10:34

Ignore this, posted on wrong thread.

randomchap · 20/03/2026 10:37

PaperMachePanda · 20/03/2026 10:34

Ignore this, posted on wrong thread.

Edited

Wrong thread?

PaperMachePanda · 20/03/2026 10:38

randomchap · 20/03/2026 10:37

Wrong thread?

Oh yes sorry haha

Owlbookend · 20/03/2026 10:39

A local population survey in Germany showed that children under 5 who had measles had a 1 in 1700 to 1 in 3300 chance of developing SSPE. Children under the age of 3 faced a nearly twofold increased risk. In California, children under 5 had a 1 in 1367 risk, and those under the age of 1 had a 1 in 607 risk of postmeasles SSPE (Mekki et al. 2019).

Read upthread about whst SSPE is. Vaccination prevents measles. If you choose to vaccinate you can reduce the risk of SSPE post vaccination to almost 0.

Subacute Sclerosing Panencephalitis: Impact on Public Health, Current Insights, and Future Perspectives - PMC

Subacute Sclerosing Panencephalitis (SSPE) is a rare complication of the measles infection. SSPE is a chronic disease of the central nervous system (CNS) that causes encephalitis, leading to the demyelination of neurons in the brain. It affects the ...

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11808179/#brb370292-bib-0033

Wonderknicks · 20/03/2026 10:43

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 19/03/2026 15:26

It still wasn't tested on humans and you know full well it wasn't. That can't be rushed through...

That's weird, because I was in a clinical trial of the vaccines.

Butchyrestingface · 20/03/2026 10:45

Not that I agree with anti-vaxxers, but what an unfortunate typo in the headline of a thread dedicated to calling people with dissenting views, "dumb and pathetic". Grin

randomchap · 20/03/2026 10:55

Wonderknicks · 20/03/2026 10:43

That's weird, because I was in a clinical trial of the vaccines.

So was I. The Novavax one