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Anti valuers are dumb and pathetic

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Beautifulsiro56 · 18/03/2026 23:39

Anti-vaxxers shouldn’t even consider having children until they develop a basic sense of responsibility.

I’m beyond frustrated hearing about measles outbreaks again and again. I fully understand that some parents genuinely cannot vaccinate their children using live vaccines due to legitimate medical conditions that weaken the immune system, but outside of those rare cases, there is no excuse apart from being totally and utterly DUMB and people that are do dumb and irresponsible should not be reproducing..

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WearyAuldWumman · 19/03/2026 14:34

LakieLady · 19/03/2026 13:30

People don't realise how devastating some "childhood" illnesses can be, because they're rarely seen these days. Being ancient, I can remember only too well.

A neighbour had a child a couple of years older than me who was quite badly disabled as a result of having polio, now virtually eradicated thanks to a worldwide vaccination programme.

One of my earliest memories is of being very ill with measles and the doctor visiting to see if I needed to go into hospital; a second is my mother crying (with relief) when I was finally well enough to want something to eat. Years later, she told me that two children at my nursery school had died of measles in that outbreak.

I was off school for 2 weeks when I had German measles at 6. I had mumps at 14, which could have affected my fertility (although that is rarer in girls than in boys). I was more pissed off that it meant I was stuck in bed for a big chunk of the summer holidays.

And I wish there'd been a chicken pox vaccine when I was a child. I got it when I was 36 and was so ill that I was off work for 3 weeks, and suffered repeated attacks of shingles for a couple of years afterwards.

We'd still have sodding smallpox if it wasn't for vaccinations.

Yes, I recall having to lie in a darkened room when I had measles (for fear that my eyesight would be affected).

I missed mumps and German measles somehow, but did have a bad case of Chickenpox. I had shingles twice later on. I've had my first dose of the shingles vaccine this year.

My SGD got her first MMR but apparently her parents failed to organise the required second dose when they moved abroad for seven years.

The result was that SGD got mumps when it hit her university campus.

Nanny0gg · 19/03/2026 14:36

Calendulaaria · 18/03/2026 23:56

There are children who don't cope well with vaccinations. The number may be higher than the few, rare examples you think. When you have children who cope very easily with their shots, it can be easy to fall into judgement of others.

Edited

That's not the same thing as being an anti-vaxxer

And there's a difference between 'not coping well' and having a life threatening reaction to them

Ihatetomatoes · 19/03/2026 14:36

Owlbookend · 19/03/2026 14:30

Infectious childhood diseases can lead to death and serious complications.
For example, measles:

A child with measles will have to spend about five days in bed and could miss two weeks of school. Even in wealthier countries such as the UK, around one in every 15 children with measles will develop more serious complications. These can include:

  • ear infection (otitis media) in about 8% of measles cases (about 1 in 12 people)
  • pneumonia in up to 6% of measles cases (up to 1 in 16 people)
  • diarrhoea in about 8% of measles cases (about 1 in 12 people)
  • encephalitis (inflammation of the brain): 1 case for every 1000-2000 cases of measles. Encephalitis can lead to permanent brain damage.
In countries like the UK, measles causes death in about 1 in 5000 cases. In rare cases, measles can lead to a condition called SSPE (subacute sclerosing panencephalitis). SSPE is a persistent viral infection, a devastating complication of measles which leads to a progressive destruction of the central nervous system. Symptoms can develop years after the initial infection. It results in dementia, loss of motor control, epilepsy and eventually death.

https://vaccineknowledge.ox.ac.uk/measles#More-information

Serious complications from standard childhood vaccinations are rare. There are no recent recorded cases of deaths. For example the MMR has caused no deaths.
https://www.ons.gov.uk/aboutus/transparencyandgovernance/freedomofinformationfoi/deathorinjurycausedbymmrmeaslesmumpsandrubellavaccine

Children and adults have died from the conplications from measles in the UK.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/measles-historic-confirmed-cases-notifications-and-deaths/measles-historic-confirmed-cases-notifications-and-deaths

People become frustrated and upset because not vaccinating children exposes them and others to serious health risks.

Calling people dumb/stupid/ignorant/idiots etc. doesn't help. Health education campaigns have to be redoubled. Access to vaccines need to be made easier.

Thank you.

@CheesyToes have a read of these.

LostFuse · 19/03/2026 14:37

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:32

For anyone who is genuinely interested in understanding more about vaccines - for or against. I would suggest starting with the well researched, factual book called Turtles All the Way Down. There are also many other books that are fully backed by the studies that claim that vaccines are safe and effective.
If you start with this book, you will naturally move onto other material and websites.
I have around 10 books that I have read - again, each and every one references the studies that have been carried out for every vaccines (excluding the covid vaccines).

Either way, it’s a deeply personal decision and I would never judge those that do/don’t vaccinate.

All the best.

The Grand Debunk of the antivaxxer book “Turtles All the Way Down” (part 1/10) | Science-Based Medicine

Nanny0gg · 19/03/2026 14:37

ReadingSoManyThreads · 19/03/2026 00:26

YABU

Clearly, you've never lost a child due to the worst vaccination side effect, i.e. death.

Your post is repulsive and highly ignorant.

I'm sorry for your loss

But that's not the same thing at all

randomchap · 19/03/2026 14:38

Turtles All the Way Down?

The book that's been widely condemned for being misleading.

It's been criticised for misunderstanding placebo use, selectively choosing sources, dismissing decades of research.

It's bullshit. Well written and convincing bullshit, but bullshit nonetheless

Don't feel bad you've been taken in by it

popcornandpotatoes · 19/03/2026 14:40

Is the recent outbreak related to lack of vaccination? Are the people who have caught it/died unvaccinated?

Genuinely curious

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:40

Ihatetomatoes · 19/03/2026 14:36

Thank you.

@CheesyToes have a read of these.

Thank you but I don’t need to. I’m vaccine injured so it’s not recommended for me / my babies to take any vaccines. Guess that makes me an anti-vaxxer 🤡

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 19/03/2026 14:41

FrazzledHippy · 19/03/2026 12:49

I'm not entirely sure contracting and entirely preventable disease is as act of God though is it. That's like saying folk that died of cholera or bubonic plague died due to an act of God, they didn't they died because of poor hygiene and a lack of understanding.

At the very least, it has to be child abuse. Imagine your child contracting something you could have prevented and passing away because of it? I mean Christ, you take your child out of school for five days and your getting a fine. Yet there's no punishment for doing something that could legitimately lead to their death?

Barring a health condition or a legitimate reason not to vaccinated there's absolutely no reason at all children shouldn't be protected. "Mummy thinks you might get Autism, or get a little poorly" or any other crap is not an excuse or a reason not to vaccinate.

I'm not entirely sure contracting and entirely preventable disease is as act of God though is it

Of course it is. There are plenty of unvaccinated people who do not go on to contract the disease in question, the only difference between those and the people who do is happenstance.

That's like saying folk that died of cholera or bubonic plague died due to an act of God

Precisely, because they were the unfortunate ones, unlike the other people living in the precise same circumstances at the same time, who didn't contract cholera or plague through sheer good fortune. You can't have it one way and not the other.

At the very least, it has to be child abuse

Well no, because as things stand it is not illegal to opt not to vaccinate children. It might be morally questionable, but while it's still perfectly legal I don't think it's in any way reasonable to term it "child abuse".

I mean Christ, you take your child out of school for five days and your getting a fine

That'll be because the State legally compels you to educate your children, so by withdrawing them from education without reasonable grounds you are in breach of this legal obligation. You are comparing apples and oranges, because again, it is not a legal obligation to vaccinate your child.

Barring a health condition or a legitimate reason not to vaccinated there's absolutely no reason at all children shouldn't be protected. "Mummy thinks you might get Autism, or get a little poorly" or any other crap is not an excuse or a reason not to vaccinate

Then the law needs to be changed to compel this, and by doing so you would also open the way for people who refuse to be prosecuted without the nonsense of the original suggestion, which amounted to "we are going to prosecute you retroactively for doing something which is and was perfectly legal"

The law does not prosecute people because they made morally dubious but perfectly legal choices, it prosecutes people who have acted illegally and broken the law. Although I think there would be issues regarding personal liberty if you compelled people to vaccinate, the State does legally compel Guardians to educate children to a certain minimum standard, so it's not as if there aren't already precedents for the State taking choice out of parents and Guardians hands and mandating that all children have to be subject to a certain stricture.

RunSlowTalkFast · 19/03/2026 14:42

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:32

For anyone who is genuinely interested in understanding more about vaccines - for or against. I would suggest starting with the well researched, factual book called Turtles All the Way Down. There are also many other books that are fully backed by the studies that claim that vaccines are safe and effective.
If you start with this book, you will naturally move onto other material and websites.
I have around 10 books that I have read - again, each and every one references the studies that have been carried out for every vaccines (excluding the covid vaccines).

Either way, it’s a deeply personal decision and I would never judge those that do/don’t vaccinate.

All the best.

Are all the other books written by people who push Qanon, MAGA nonsense too?

Nanny0gg · 19/03/2026 14:42

anniegun · 19/03/2026 12:55

We have been lulled into complacency by the rarity of these diseases because of mass vaccinations. Those old enough to remember children being serously harmed and dieing due to measles, whooping cough and polio are generally very supportive of vaccines

Edited

Indeed I am

And I suggest 'research' on child deaths before vaccinations to those who think it's safer not to have them

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:43

RunSlowTalkFast · 19/03/2026 14:42

Are all the other books written by people who push Qanon, MAGA nonsense too?

Well, they reference the orignal vaccine studies so unless you’re suggesting vaccines are a Q Anon / MAGA thing then I doubt it.

RunSlowTalkFast · 19/03/2026 14:44

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:43

Well, they reference the orignal vaccine studies so unless you’re suggesting vaccines are a Q Anon / MAGA thing then I doubt it.

What are the other books then?

LostFuse · 19/03/2026 14:46

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 19/03/2026 14:41

I'm not entirely sure contracting and entirely preventable disease is as act of God though is it

Of course it is. There are plenty of unvaccinated people who do not go on to contract the disease in question, the only difference between those and the people who do is happenstance.

That's like saying folk that died of cholera or bubonic plague died due to an act of God

Precisely, because they were the unfortunate ones, unlike the other people living in the precise same circumstances at the same time, who didn't contract cholera or plague through sheer good fortune. You can't have it one way and not the other.

At the very least, it has to be child abuse

Well no, because as things stand it is not illegal to opt not to vaccinate children. It might be morally questionable, but while it's still perfectly legal I don't think it's in any way reasonable to term it "child abuse".

I mean Christ, you take your child out of school for five days and your getting a fine

That'll be because the State legally compels you to educate your children, so by withdrawing them from education without reasonable grounds you are in breach of this legal obligation. You are comparing apples and oranges, because again, it is not a legal obligation to vaccinate your child.

Barring a health condition or a legitimate reason not to vaccinated there's absolutely no reason at all children shouldn't be protected. "Mummy thinks you might get Autism, or get a little poorly" or any other crap is not an excuse or a reason not to vaccinate

Then the law needs to be changed to compel this, and by doing so you would also open the way for people who refuse to be prosecuted without the nonsense of the original suggestion, which amounted to "we are going to prosecute you retroactively for doing something which is and was perfectly legal"

The law does not prosecute people because they made morally dubious but perfectly legal choices, it prosecutes people who have acted illegally and broken the law. Although I think there would be issues regarding personal liberty if you compelled people to vaccinate, the State does legally compel Guardians to educate children to a certain minimum standard, so it's not as if there aren't already precedents for the State taking choice out of parents and Guardians hands and mandating that all children have to be subject to a certain stricture.

If a disease is preventable (e.g., through vaccination, proper safety protocols, or hygiene), it does not meet the requirement of being "impossible to guard against". An event that could have been avoided by reasonable care is not an Act of God.

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:48

RunSlowTalkFast · 19/03/2026 14:44

What are the other books then?

Start with Turtles, it gets expensive otherwise. But once you read that, you’ll gravitate to other books.

Waitingfordoggo · 19/03/2026 14:48

A few on the thread have mentioned bodily autonomy. One poster said that it’s no one else’s business if others don’t get vaccinated. Mostly, it isn’t my business what health care others do or don’t partake in. Vaccines are different because we’re talking about diseases that spread to other people. People who can’t be vaccinated because of their health conditions are reliant on herd immunity- they’re powerless to protect themselves, so they need the majority to choose vaccines to protect them. This is why I view choosing not to vaccinate as selfish (as well as ill-informed).

Ihatetomatoes · 19/03/2026 14:48

Owlbookend · 19/03/2026 14:33

I can & have provided links to reputable sources about the known harms of childhood diseases and the lack of deaths related to MMR. If I had time I could do it for other childhood vaccines.
Those against vaccines are not linking reputable sources.

Agreed.

Suggestion of a book by an anonymous author so far. The book has no scientific accreditation and no peer reviewed claims. Clearly popular with individuals that are anti vax. The author doesn't even use their name, listed merely as 'anonymous'.

"Turtles All the Way Down: Vaccine Science and Myth (2024, by "Anonymous") is a highly critical, independent publication questioning vaccine safety and efficacy. It is not peer-reviewed by mainstream scientific journals, but popular on platforms like Amazon. It argues that childhood vaccine clinical trials lack proper, inert placebos and suggests that vaccine safety data is consistently misrepresented.

Key Arguments and Perspectives

  • Safety Trials: The book, also listed on Amazon, highlights studies, arguing that the control groups in clinical trials often use other vaccines or vaccine adjuvants rather than true inert placebos.
  • Medical Establishment Critique: It presents itself as a "systematic demolition of the vaccine system," questioning the validity of vaccine science from the perspective of critics who believe they cause harm.
  • "19 Polio Mysteries": The book includes a section examining the history of polio, suggesting that some illnesses categorized as polio were not caused by the virus.
  • Data Compilation: It cites over 1,200 references from scientific papers, government documents, and manufacturer publications, aiming to consolidate scattered information in a way that is accessible to non-experts.

Critical Reception and Context

  • Proponent Reviews: Supporters describe the book as a "must-read" for parents, arguing that it brings necessary attention to vaccine safety issues and provides detailed analysis.
  • Skepticism: One review noted that the book may rely on older studies, overlook recent, updated data, or omit the broader scientific consensus that vaccines are generally safe and effective.

Fits the narrative that the reader is looking for.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 19/03/2026 14:49

LostFuse · 19/03/2026 14:46

If a disease is preventable (e.g., through vaccination, proper safety protocols, or hygiene), it does not meet the requirement of being "impossible to guard against". An event that could have been avoided by reasonable care is not an Act of God.

This is fair enough, but the point still remains - while it is perfectly legal to opt against vaccination and there is no compulsion, the law can not then turn around at some arbitrary point in the future and prosecute you just because you took what was a perfectly legal decision.

What about the others who also took the same decision but did not contract an illness? Should the law just ignore them because they enjoyed good fortune and luck?

No, if you are going to talk about prosecution, then it can only be in the context of someone having committed an illegal act in the first place, not because they made a morally questionable but perfectly legal choice.

randomchap · 19/03/2026 14:50

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:40

Thank you but I don’t need to. I’m vaccine injured so it’s not recommended for me / my babies to take any vaccines. Guess that makes me an anti-vaxxer 🤡

Assuming you actually had a side effect of a particular vaccine, that does not preclude you or your family having other vaccines.

Please talk to your GP about it. Ask to be referred to an immunologist. Talk to actual professionals.

Don't just use this "vaccine injury" as an excuse to not vaccinate your children.

The antivax movement is lying to you. It's causing you to put your babies at risk. You can change your mind, you don't need to continue down this route.

LostFuse · 19/03/2026 14:50

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:48

Start with Turtles, it gets expensive otherwise. But once you read that, you’ll gravitate to other books.

Have you similarly read the debunking of said book....and if not, why not?

SP2024 · 19/03/2026 14:51

I don’t understand why people don’t want to vaccinate. Yes of course vaccines carry a -rare - risk of harm. But compared to the risk of the disease it’s worth it overall. My youngest caught measles aged 8 months, before he was old enough to get vaccinated against it. It was absolutely terrifying! We had to be isolated in hospital, public health contacted everyone we had been in contact with the week before, he was very very unwell. I am so so thankful he was ok in the end and doesn’t appear to have any long lasting consequences. But it could have been so much worse. All because someone refused to vaccinate and allowed it to circulate when it was virtually eradicated.

RunSlowTalkFast · 19/03/2026 14:52

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:48

Start with Turtles, it gets expensive otherwise. But once you read that, you’ll gravitate to other books.

I'm assuming the other books are also by antivax grifters then. When you say 'gravitate towards' What's actually happened is that you've been sucked into a conspiracy black hole.

Go on. Tell us the other books.

Viviennemary · 19/03/2026 14:52

I'm not an anti vaccine myself but do think folk should retain the right to refuse to have their children vaccinated. 🫢

Nanny0gg · 19/03/2026 14:52

AllIwantedwasanMOT · 19/03/2026 13:58

This, with bells on!!! A lot of people simply cannot grasp quite how awful these illnesses are, precisely because of the vaccinations they now choose to reject.

I have a living relative who is disabled as a result of contracting polio as a child. Granted, he is ancient, but speak to any baby boomer and they can tell you about measles - it ain't fun!

It wasn't

Nor was German measles

Or mumps

Or chicken pox

And I can't tell you how thrilled my mother was when the polio vaccination came out. One of my classmates missed it and wore a caliper.
My older sister had eyesight damage from measles

Nanny0gg · 19/03/2026 14:53

CheesyToes · 19/03/2026 14:12

I completely agree with this! The OP and many of the PPs are vile! They need to talk to the victims or families who have been seriously harmed by vaccines.

What if the victim had contracted the actual disease?