Childminder has had complaints about my son lashing out

[ohsonogo]

My son 2.5 is a sweet boy with a bit of a temper. Multiple times the childminder has asked me to keep his nails short as he lashes out at other children’s faces when annoyed. She says there have been more than ten times that she’s had to send another child home with scratches on their face. Today my partner picked up and she said ‘please cut xxx nails tonight as he’s using them as a weapon’. She’s messages me this

‘Hi, just to let you know xx has scratched another child’s face today again, very close to their eye. The parents are understandably upset and have sent me a very angry message. This other child was also hurt last week. I have now had to apologise to 5 parents due to scratches on their faces. Can you please ensure xx’s nails are kept as short as possible otherwise I won’t be able to accept him back into the setting. I will be in touch soon once I have a better idea of how to proceed with this ongoing issue. Thanks, xxxx ‘

what the hell do I do or say to that? Why is she being such a bitch, there’s only so much I can do when I’m not there.

Wow! How entitled can you be op. No your child is not ‘sweet with a bit of a temper’ he is naughty. The fact you think he is still sweet shows your parenting style. I’m surprised she hasn’t already banned him

Well - she's already given you a warning that she will have to ask you to send him somewhere else, if this keeps happening. If his nails grow that fast, you need to check them at least a couple of times a week - and cut them as short as you can when you do cut them

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Your child is spiteful. Instead of calling her a bitch just parent your child and cut his fucking nails.

Come on guys, this is too obvious...

You are so off the scale unreasonable. No child should be repeatedly scratched by your child. He isn't sweet at all. I hope that for the sake of all the other children the child minder does sack you as a client. As for calling her a bitch, do you really want someone ypu regard with such distaste caring for your child?

Good for her if she does. You dont deserve to have her as a childminder if you are so rude about her.

Your "sweet boy" lashes out at other children causing scratch wounds.

Childminder is a "bitch"
You are already proving to be against the professionals here - if shes such a pitch why do you want him in her care?

Good luck when he goes to school.

I’m convinced the OP is just a rage baiting man

I do so hope the childminder is on Mumsnet 😁

I bet, if this is real, that other parents are threatening to remove their children as they're constantly being hurt. So unless you follow her reasonable request you will lose your child's space.
Don't kid yourself nursery will be any different. There was a bitter at a nursery where I worked and the parents were told she was loosing her place. The biting was constant and happened so fast you couldn't always stop her. Of course parents were upset.
Just cut his nails. She told you lots of times to cut them, you knew they were long but didn't cut them. What the hell were you thinking?

A parent not parenting.

She's obviously considering terminating the contract on safeguarding grounds. The fact you call this reasonable response "getting rid of him" and her a "bitch" shows a low level of emotional maturity and empathy on your part. The overwhelming majority of people think you are BU. Have you stopped to reflect on this?

You obviously need to check daily. This is your fault for not checking!

Hopefully the childminder has reported you to the LADO … I certainly would be seeking input from the LA Safeguarding Team given the child’s behaviour and your tone

Your son is either a sweet boy or he has a temper. He is not both. You are happy to leave him in the care of someone that you've referred to as a bitch. You need to have a stern word with yourself. Your son is harming other children and stressing their parents and the childminder. You need to address this and acknowledge that his behaviour is unacceptable. I imagine that the childminder will refuse to look after him if you don't. Who could blame her.

You need to get in touch with the health visitor. His behaviour is communication and something isn't right, he clearly needs help. I wouldn't be surprised if the childminder does get rid of him.

Id removed him on safety ground and states he needs 1:1

@ohsonogo

Sounds like you need to check his nails at bedtime every weekday night, and at the same time read him a book about managing his emotions and not resorting to hitting or scratching.

If I were you I’d get a few different ones on the lines of “hand are not for hitting” etc.

Your child is hurting other children. Cut his nails!!! Why she being a bitch, sound like a good childminder. Cut his nails! Any reason why your child is acting like this...sounds like he needs 1:1.

I knew your post would be gold by the first line. You did not disappoint me!

My sons autistic and could be violent when unregulated.
His nails also grow speedily........ so I trim them twice a week and file them to make sure there's no sharp edges

If your sons having violent tantrums maybe its best to get advice from the health visitor to see if there's anything they can suggest

Yup, only one person being a bitch here….

Not read any of the replies but…..

why are you calling the childminder a bitch?

it’s your kid that’s the problem!!!

you are being very unreasonable

He has lashed out and injured multiple other children. You are lucky she hasn't got rid of him already. Why should other parents have their children coming home injured because you don't check your child's nail every, single day.

Calling the childminder a bitch for your child's abusive behaviour is shocking. Don't be shocked when she refuses to take your child.