Should I ask my DS and his girlfriend for money

[DiaryofWimpy]

My DS2 has moved his girlfriend in with her 2 cats.

Obviously it’s another person using the washing machine,,TV, gas and electricity they are both 22 and don’t work but get benefits.

Do you think I’m being unreasonable asking them for money?

Thanks for explaining.

Educate yourself then before constantly jumping on here. Universal Credit can be made up of several different elements, including Limited Capability for Work/Work Related Activity; Child Element; Disabled Child Element; Carers Element; Housing Element. Fully explained for you as you have an issue with the use of abbreviations.

Wel you crack on and invent one then, oh superior genius 🙄 in my profession it's a system I navigate every day, including the joy of appeals preparation and tribunal representation. Another large part of my work is dealing with end of life applications. God help you if you ever have to walk in the shoes of some of my clients.

Yep I will sign up for a course on "benefits abbreviations" at university. Just joking but on second thoughts it is probably on the cards the way the country is going.

Yes.. my terminally ill clients and those with children born with severe disabilities find the whole thing one utterly hilarious joke. On a daily basis. How wonderful to be so untouched by such things that you can make a joke of the whole system, ignoring the fact that it has to be navigated by some of the most vulnerable in society....🤔 aha but,no, wait, you will doubtless claim at some point that your disdain and sweeping judgmentalism 'doesn't apply to them....!'

Read the press today re welfare and prepare wisely. You can thank me for the heads up.

By the way, I am very much touched by disabilities albeit at the moment indirectly. It is terrible to endure. Throwing money at it is not the answer. A loving supportive family network is what is needed.

A link would be beneficial. Not just read the press.

I've said this in some other posts but some people on lcwra work and so do people on PIP/adp. The extra money helps some people stay in work.

A loving supportive family network doesn't pay for services or adaptations that some disabled people need.

People who aren't on ADP and don't qualify for a bus pass in my area pay around five pounds return to go less than a mile each way. If you don't have a job centre near you you could be travelling four miles each way or more. Some people might need to see a work coach every week - so that's 20 pounds from 400 pounds or 316 a month. Which might not sound a lot but it adds up.

(And before anyone says why don't you walk - I did before the leg break).

People on basic UC can be in food poverty. Fuel poverty and transport poverty. All at the same time.

I have a loving family network - however my mum is a pensioner. She is on a state pension and a small works pension -what difference would a loving family network make to someone who needs Pip or ADP to be able to stay in employment? Or someone who needs it to help manage a medical condition?

The benefits that I got helped pay for taxis to and from hospital in the beginning - because at that point I could not physically have walked the three minute walk to the bus stop. I was in too much pain and I was expected to go for regular check ups after my operation.

Very much touched you are. Not for the reasons you've given though.

All physically able adults should be working and/or contributing to society as a whole. DS and his partner should be working and also not sponging off OP. The amount they are contributing from their benefits is derisory. It should be doubled. They should only have a very small amount left for their 'personal needs'.

The son is disabled. Have you read the entire thread?

Where does OP say he is physically unable to work?

He's on disability benefits. Hth

You’re right. OP doesn’t say that.

But she says he's on disability benefits. I'm on disability benefits. I'm unable to work just now. Should we just pop up a bit more and give her a bit more of a grilling for other peoples lolz?

What are you talking about? The last thing I said to the Op is well done for looking into getting back to work.

I’m not grilling the Op and afaik that other poster was not doing that as well although I haven’t read all their posts.

They stated she didn’t say her son is physically unable to work and I agreed. That is correct.

I don't think op has said he can't work just that he suffers form anxiety. . Lots of people claiming disability benefits work, those benefits are there to help disabled people stay in work. It is a tragedy the number of young people currently not working due to anxiety and MH issues. There needs to be more help and quickly before these young people become long term benefit claimants.

Can't imagine why they'd be anxious getting free money for doing nothing. This is one of the reasons the welfare bill costs the Government £330 billion a year

He is not able to work for mental health reasons. That is still a valid reason to struggle with work, and he will have been assessed and had to give evidence to show that was the case.

Perhaps if you let them save, and they can show they are saving money with no housing costs then they can move out together sooner. Likewise they can show you they've applied for their own housing, otherwise they're never going to move out!

What is a DS firstly?

Darling son !

They need to contribute something. Otherwise they will end up sponging off you. Are you really happy to be accomodating two people on benefits. Hopefully they are seeking jobs.

Genuine people get turned down because they didn't do their homework to know the "correct" answers to give.

ADHD more likely.

or be held in hospital for STDC having hallucinations and thinking they are a higher being.

Bipolar isn’t just depression it’s a dangerous illness to have