Should I ask my DS and his girlfriend for money

[DiaryofWimpy]

My DS2 has moved his girlfriend in with her 2 cats.

Obviously it’s another person using the washing machine,,TV, gas and electricity they are both 22 and don’t work but get benefits.

Do you think I’m being unreasonable asking them for money?

Technically when the DS and the GF offer to "pay rent" it'll be us indirectly paying for it.

I see you already agreed the rent. That's good. I don't really agree with kids moving their partners in, but if they do. They should pay rent.

Why don't you just go away. Like I repeat. Just go away - shame I didn't put it into action. Sorry that I'm suffering from crippling insomnia that has me sleeping an hour a night despite being on medication. You know nothing about me. You are just a bully. You've been awful to lots of people on here. Not just me.

Keep your nose out.

No I did not take suggestions on board. It was a joke.

But the reason I was awake at 1am is that I'm suffering from horrible crippling insomnia. By the way - I just finished an online degree. Despite all the stuff I've been going through in my offline life - and you want people like me to fill in potholes. You're a disgrace and so is anyone that agrees with you.

And that is the very LAST thing I'll ever say to you or your like on here.

But it’s known to generally improve health and wellbeing. Her son is young, and already signed off sick having presumably never worked. Thats no life. There is help out there, people don’t need to be writing themselves off in their 20s, holed up with their girlfriend who also doesn’t work. Work, for most people, is a net positive in their life.

I have nothing more to say on here. The personal attacks on me have started - and they've been reported

Then don’t say anything else. This isn’t your thread. You don’t get to decide what people post nor are you compelled to respond to people then tell them off for responding back!

Put the phone down and go watch a film, or take a walk, or write. Internet forums or the internet in general is probably not the best if you’re not feeling good.

I posted at 1.49am this morning because I suffer from insomnia. It started when my uncle killed himself three decades ago and it got much worse after I was stalked and had a breakdown. Despite being on sleeping pills for the last two months nothing is making it better. That's why I post at unsocial hours. I would rather be asleep

You actually have the nerve to be sitting laughing at me on here? Wow!

No. YOU don't say anything else. You started this and made it personal. You don't get nasty and personal with me and then invite other people to laugh at me and then try and tell me what to do. Why don't you log off.

Don't try and gaslight me when you started this. Don't patronise me either and tell me what I need to be doing with my time just because you're attacking the OP and you've been challenged on it. HTH

BEnefits system is an utter joke if two otherwise fit 22 year olds don't have to work because they have 'anxiety'. I'm sorry, but that's beyond ridiculous, the sheer number of young people claiming they're too anxious to work and pay their own way.

I said "written an essay, which was quite amusing".

Nothing insulting about that, You need to take a deep breath and calm down. Or write another essay.

Did anyone ask why you posted in the early hours. NO. I thought you were on another time zone. Posters have said you have been busy posting. Nothing wrong with that, in fact since 18.45 today you have posted 18 times on this thread. I would say it is factually correct you post often.

I'll say this one more time.
You don't tell me what I do or don't do online. Ok?

The word 'apparently' tells me anxiety is a load of crap.

She wasnt too anxious moving into your home with two cats and the nerve to not even pay!

They're lazy and you know it.

Where is arguing a stranger getting you? Ignore and move on.

They are paying. Read the full thread

Oh I see. They are paying now but weren't before, which was the point of the post. They are lucky £80 a week is very cheap accommodation with no bills.

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They are on benefits. They don't have a lot of money

No one said they wouldn't be paying a contribution to bills either

Honestly I don’t think you’re charging enough. You have 2 adults living with you and in your home all day long paying less than £100 each week. They should be paying 25-30% of their income on rent and then split the utilities (water gas electric WiFi tv) 3 ways.

Yes, you should charge them rent. If she's not related to you, then she should be able to claim the housing allowance part of universal credit at the single room rate.
They need to be honest about what benefits/money they have coming in, not decide what amounts they wish to give you. As an example, my step son was in the limited capability to look for work or work related activity, which meant he received a higher amount of universal credit (standard rate for your son and his girlfriend is around £325 each I think) so obviously what they are receiving has a bearing on what they can pay. If they're not paying any other bills then £80 a week between them doesn't really cover anything, you need to list all the household bills and they should be looking at making they'd contribution as near to half as they can get it (again with the caveat that they can't pay what they don't have)

The son has been living there for a long time rent free by the sounds of it. The OP has another child - should they be paying too?

WiFi costs no more no matter how many people live there. Tv license same.

Children under 18 you get child benefits for. OPs son should be a contributor.

No she can't. The dwp won't allow two sets of rent element to be paid for one house - that's benefits fraud. How does 320 pounds a month not cover anything? The OP has presumably not been charging her son anything until now. Of course 320 pounds a month covers something