Don't Want to use Voucher on 2nd Friend

[BoundaryGirl3939]

I know this sounds petty but I can't help how I feel.

I have a voucher for a really nice restaurant. I asked a good friend of mine to go to this restaurant tomorrow and mentioned i had a voucher we could use. She said great.

She has since messaged me to say she has invited another friend.

I have noticed in the past that when the 3 of us are together that I can be sidelined and ignored. I dont think its intentional but i decided I would stay away from get-togethers with the 3 of us.

This is the petty part. I didnt mind using the voucher on the first friend as she is a good friend. The second lady she invited has been stingy with me in the past and is self absorbed. I dont want to use my voucher on her. Not because of the cash but on principle.

They now know I have this voucher...but I never offered to use it on 2nd friend. How do I get out of this without making things awkward? I can't leave the 3rd lady out but I equally dont want to use it on her.

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I would say the voucher is only for you and a one-plus as stipulated by the generous gifter. Ask your friend to tell the person she invited she'll have to pay her own way. Anyway, it's a but thoughtless to invite a third person without consulting with you isn't it?

I think she knows damn well you’re not that crazy about other friend… otherwise why wouldn’t YOU have invited her along in the first place?

I once did this and it caused an issue because my friend thought I was bitching about her friend - I wasn’t, I just said I didn’t get along with her as well and had hoped to spend time just catching up with friend. It went down badly and never recovered. OP just make a neutral excuse to get out of it.

You should have nipped this in the bud. You invited her when she told you she'd invited someone else you should have responded. "Oh that changes the dynamic I'm not comfortable with that you two have a great time.". If you want to be super polite add-on Let me know when we can go. Honestly though if I invited a friend out and we both knew I've got a voucher and she tried to tag someone else on I don't think I'd consider her a real friend.

It's not difficult, dont admonish anyone but keep quite about your feelings. Then wait a short while and message first person to say: the restaurant, upon checking, either has No Tables available OR that VOUCHER is not valid for 3 people, OR VOUCHER is out of date , then invite someone else.