Don't Want to use Voucher on 2nd Friend

[BoundaryGirl3939]

I know this sounds petty but I can't help how I feel.

I have a voucher for a really nice restaurant. I asked a good friend of mine to go to this restaurant tomorrow and mentioned i had a voucher we could use. She said great.

She has since messaged me to say she has invited another friend.

I have noticed in the past that when the 3 of us are together that I can be sidelined and ignored. I dont think its intentional but i decided I would stay away from get-togethers with the 3 of us.

This is the petty part. I didnt mind using the voucher on the first friend as she is a good friend. The second lady she invited has been stingy with me in the past and is self absorbed. I dont want to use my voucher on her. Not because of the cash but on principle.

They now know I have this voucher...but I never offered to use it on 2nd friend. How do I get out of this without making things awkward? I can't leave the 3rd lady out but I equally dont want to use it on her.

Go along to the restaurant……..but ‘forget’ to take the voucher with you!

I'm glad it's all worked out but just for some balance, I don't think it's that unlikely that the friend assumed it was a discount voucher and, because it was all arranged before she knew of the voucher, that she was happy to go with or without it.

I wouldn't invite a friend to a meetup with another friend without checking first in almost all occasions BUT there are a couple of friendship groups where we are a very firmly established 3 where it would feel really weird to meet up as just 2 of us if the 3rd wasn't invited so maybe this needs a polite chat with your friend about how you like meeting up with just her sometimes.

@BoundaryGirl3939 just reply and say “aa ok sure , i Will save the vouch for a later date when you and I go out together next “

Either way it's pretty rude. I'd just cancel, very minimal response and trust she'll get the message.

That’s great that it has worked out @BoundaryGirl3939
Finger crossed the other woman doesn’t change her mind and decide to go after all.

Cancel. Take someone else.

I think thats fair enough. Either cancel or say you've forgotten the voucher

Can't be arsed to tag all the recent posters, but OP updated yesterday, and she is looking forward to the get together.

No need for cancelling/forgetting the voucher/replying or feigning illness.

that's incredibly rude of her I would cancel

Just tell her you would prefer that it just be the two of you and reschedule.

I think your friend is very cheeky to invite the other person knowing you have a voucher it’s a free lunch for them I think it’s time you found new friends OP.
I would probably cancel tbh you are clearly not comfortable with the other person. Hope you get to enjoy your voucher with someone else

I treated a good friend yesterday with a voucher I received at Christmas. I would have been spectacularly pissed off if my friend had invited a third person!
Just ‘forget’ your voucher tomorrow!

I think thats rude of her! Why did she invite the other woman? Cant she just go alone with you for a meal? I would cancel

IT GOT SORTED YESTERDAY.

Yes I am shouting.

OP will be sticking to the original plan and is now looking forward to it. She was kind enough to come back and update - the least you can do is read the updates - there's even a "special" button to do this.

Nobody needs to cancel/forget/be ill.

Maybe I’m not clued up on how vouchers work, but why would the friend assume the voucher extended to her, let alone a second friend?

If someone told me “hey wanna go somewhere? I have a voucher to use up” I would still assume it’s just for themselves unless explicitly told it will cover both of us.

ETA : Ok, I see there is an update, we don't all get the chance to RTWT at times ...

CANCEL !!!

Your friend is a CF!

Spend it on yourself and not your CF friend!

Definitely not rude, you invited your friend not the other friend so I’d say it’s your friend being rude

Your friend should not have invited the other friend since she knew you were going to use the voucher. That was very presumptuous of you friend and rude. I would make an excuse and cancel.

Do you actually have a 121 with your friend ever or, does she always invite someone else which indicates she either has a problem with 121s or does not value your friendship enough to have one.

I would cancel the lunch and invite someone else. She is bang out of order thinking she and her other friend can have part of their lunch paid for without asking you first if ok the other lady was invited.

OP's good friend isn't a good friend.

Either say, I'll save the voucher for another time and be blunt that your intention was to share it with one person, not two, or cancel.
If OP gets pushed aside when the third friend comes along it's clear the good friend does not value OP. The fact that she invited the other friend sort of indicates that: sharing OP's voucher with her.

Accidentally leave it at home!

I’d have assumed you meant like a 20% off voucher not a gift card

Is it a money voucher or %off? If it’s the latter -

Ah sorry, I didn’t realise the voucher didn’t work on the weekends. It’s Mon-Thurs. We’ll go another time.

If it’s the first then that’s actual CF-ery 😂

Sorry I am THAT poster that didn’t RTFT 😂

Do it anyway - then it will definitely look genuine, even if the other friend turned out not to be going..