AIBU to think DD’s ‘friend’ got a buzz cut to spite her?

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My 22 year old DD has a male ‘friend’ who she has been on and off in a situationship with for a few months, they were friends before that.
On Wednesday she had a few girlfriends over as well as him and were just randomly discussing hairstyles. All the girls including DD mentioned they don’t like buzz cuts and then that was that. Yesterday, he came over to pick up DD to go out and he had been to the barbers and had a buzz cut! Only 3 days after he heard that DD and the other girls mentioned they don’t like them, he got one. I thought it was weird. He had really attractive blond wavy hair and he got rid of it for what?

AIBU to think this was quite narcissistic and he wanted to spite her, could be a bit of a stretch but perhaps even slightly misogynistic. Some males often do try to put down things women like and I’ve seen an increase in these buzz cuts recently.

Am I thinking too much into it or was he being spiteful? It’s just really irked me!

The only people whose hair you get to dictate is your own and your children's while they're young. I have no idea why you'd give this head room let alone allow it to irk you. You're the mum of the girl he shags occasionally. If she doesn't fancy him with short hair she can remove the with benefits part of their friendship

If I were sat around my male friend’s mum’s kitchen island, and all the men were saying they didn’t like pixie cuts in girls, I would probably consider getting a pixie cut for the first time, wonder about it, think it might like to give it a go, get one and thank them for pointing out the option.

If I were the mum of any of the people concerned I would fleetingly marvel at how life is sweet when you’re young and you can chat shit all day while other people pay the bills and go back to thinking about actually consequential things going on in my life.

You don't know what you don't know I guess.

I sometimes wish I was like you.

YABU for calling it a “situationship” 🤮. They’re friends with benefits by the sound of it.

So your DD doesn't like it but hasn't mentioned it. Why do you have a problem with it?

Not liking something doesn't mean their partner (on/off or permanent) shouldn't be allowed to do something.

I don't like certain things and people know it. It's never crossed my mind that they do things to spite me. That is a strange thought to have.

It would be better for you to keep your thoughts to yourself than project them on to your DD.

Maybe he's a secret agent and had to get it done for his lastest undercover assignment.

It’s not entirely nothing but it’s definitely not something. 🥲.

The one taking a stand on doing what he wants is narcissistic. The ones making judgements on hair are the poor victims of . . . something I guess.

I can't say you over thinking, because surely you couldn't end up there if you thought too much . . .

Where do fuck buddies come into this categorisation or is that the same as FWB?

Imagine if a man was commenting on which physical features his sons 'girlfriend' are attractive and why she shouldn't have changed something because it makes her less physically attractive in his eyes. Weird.

100%

There are certain men who go on and on and on about how women 'should' have long hair, how only long hair is attractive for women, etc etc So many stories about men not wanting their wives to cut their hair, even though their wives want to. MN would 100% be absolutely telling her she should have the haircut/length she wanted and to go do it.

It's actually quite revolting that you think a man not doing what a woman wants is misogyny.

Perhaps he is hard of hearing and thought they said they like them.

Me too, and sad 🙁

Attention, oversensitive, angry MRA male users who think everything on here is unfair against men and that's the sole reason you signed up (if that's not you, I'm not addressing you)...

Ok, you can have this one. It's bonkers. But bear in mind that it's getting a resounding "wtf" reaction.

OP blew his cover. This thread will self destruct in 5, 4, 3...

So? It's nothing to do with him if she doesn't like buzz cuts. He can do his own hair how he likes. I'd be telling my DS to stay away from anyone who thought they could dictate what he did with his own hair ( and their mother)

What @WonderingWanda said.

Unless he has form for being a dick, I think jumping to an assumption it was spiteful is very unjustified.

It’s more likely that he heard them talking about buzz cuts and it made him think about how nice and easy it would be to have one, or how much he liked the look of them rather than “O yeah! I could get a buzz cut to piss off a friend I shag sometimes. Great idea.”

Given their relationship, it seems unlikely that he would be making many decisions about his hair based on what your DD likes or doesn’t like.

This is almost certainly what happened. And it’s really quite disturbing that you’ve decided that a man cutting HIS hair is some kind of misogynistic “revenge”. Who the hell cuts their hair to annoy someone else?

I've never had my hair in a certain way for a man. I have my hair how I prefer it because it is my hair.

That isn't weird at all.

Misogynistic hair cuts.

Just when I thought the world couldn't get more batshit.

Totally.

The impulsivity of youth.

When I was almost 16 I had a slightly older boyfriend that said he didn’t like tattoos.
I went out and got one that weekend! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Like FWB?