AIBU to think DD’s ‘friend’ got a buzz cut to spite her?

[RedBear685]

My 22 year old DD has a male ‘friend’ who she has been on and off in a situationship with for a few months, they were friends before that.
On Wednesday she had a few girlfriends over as well as him and were just randomly discussing hairstyles. All the girls including DD mentioned they don’t like buzz cuts and then that was that. Yesterday, he came over to pick up DD to go out and he had been to the barbers and had a buzz cut! Only 3 days after he heard that DD and the other girls mentioned they don’t like them, he got one. I thought it was weird. He had really attractive blond wavy hair and he got rid of it for what?

AIBU to think this was quite narcissistic and he wanted to spite her, could be a bit of a stretch but perhaps even slightly misogynistic. Some males often do try to put down things women like and I’ve seen an increase in these buzz cuts recently.

Am I thinking too much into it or was he being spiteful? It’s just really irked me!

I'm now imagining a dramatic voiceover on a Netflix documentary: "The situation escalated. After the haircut, he bought a new pair of boots." (dramatic music intensifies)

What's narcissistic is you thinking that another person's hair choices are anything to do with your DD or you in the slightest.

Good for that kid that he gives zero fucks what anyone else thinks. DD's relationship with him has NO bearing on such personal choices. If he were married to her she still would not be in control of what he can and cannot do with his own hair, nor should she consider his personal choices for himself to be to 'spite' her.

If he wants a buzz he should get a buzz. It's good that he has the confidence to after some friends have poopooed the style.

Mind your nose and tell DD to do the same!

I can't even with the misogyny angle - more reach than Mr Tickle 🙄

And this is bullshit! My daughter's in a situation ship and it's mutual. I was giving op the benefit of the doubt in case it wasn't for her and she was feeling defensive.

If my DD said her bloke had buzzed off his hair after hearing she didn't like buzz cuts I would never jump to this conclusion. And if she did, I'd tell her not to be daft. Remind her they're not in a relationship and even if they were he could do what he wanted with his hair! I'd probably also tell her if she was reading this much into his actions perhaps a situationship wasn't for her

This is one of the most.bizarre threads I've ever read on here - you interpretation of this sitiation blows my mind, tbh.

Why should he style his hair to suit them?

I don’t think it’s reasonable for her to have a say over his hair. That’s controlling, and they aren’t even in a relationship.

It’s not him who sounds narcissistic.

You're a tiny bit over invested in your daughter's love life, I would have thought. Why you are giving this any headspace is odd. They're not even a committed couple.

Get a life of your own OP

You would ask someone you daughter is hooking up with why he got a haircut....

Bonkers.

(You, OP!)

It's not him that's narcissistic
It's not him who is controlling
It's a hair cut
I'm pretty sure his world does not revolve around the silly opinions of your precious pampered daughter

What?

I dont think you understand what narcissistic or misogynistic means
A man is allowed to get this hair cut in a style he prefers ,they are not evem in a proper relationship it has nothing to do with either tou are your daughter how has his hair
And I have no doubt you would be outraged if he tried to dictate to your daughter how she should style her hair.

Just to extrapolate: they shag every so often when it’s convenient so no regular pattern. No commitment.

I actually don't think this is unique to you.

I think with intergenerational living people should come up with ways to keep their privacy/have boundaries and separate interests and social spheres.

Your daughter doesn't need to tell you her exact relationship status, it's a bit odd you seeing this young man turning up to take your daughter on a "casual" date. Maybe they should meet out side the home or she makes her way independently?

Plus her friends should be a bit more formal/polite/reserved if you're in the room.

I honestly feel super uncomfortable being in the household of a family member as their CHILD seems to know too much about my personal life (along with opinions and analysis).

It's very unsettling.

Everything about this thread is mental.

That’s for friends and having sex.

just having sex is a situationship.

fuck how do I know this?

So nothing really ?
In.my day I woukd have called it a bit of a fling.

It wasn't my favourite but my teenage boyfriend had one as it was his choice and o e the raf found d acceptable

Now im more confused 😕

God almighty.

Oh my life- get a life, a hobby, a job, anything to not give topics like this a second thought.

please confuse up that this a joke post.

you are hugely over thinking this!!!! Your poor poor daughter!

I think you’re overthinking it.
If he seems like a nice lad I wouldn’t worry.

I think there’s definitely narcissism at play. And it’s not from Mr Buzzcut.

Are you generally quite lonely or bored @RedBear685 because I can’t think how else you’d have the time or energy to be so over invested in something that is not only nothing to do with you, but embarrassing for you to be reaching so far over it to need validation on here.

There’s a whole big world out there with plenty of things to get involved in.