Should I accept proposal if I've never met his daughters?

[ZanySheep]

We have talked about marriage although bf is still going through his divorce. 3.5 years in, we live together with my kids (they call him step dad) he's met everyone on my side we are very very happy . His ex has said to him I will never be a part of their dd's lives (19&21yrs) still I have never met them because of this . They were living together when we met. They are still married going thru divorce. I have a feeling he will propose when divorce comes through.. my question is should I say yes if I've never met his girls ? I've met his parents , some friends. They live local he sees them every week , gives them money still . He's a brilliant dad . What are everyone's thoughts ?..

sorry but he claims he slept on the floor ?… BUT moved to his parents once he met you?…. Why didn’t he move out and stay at his parents prior to looking for a new partner?!?
The ex’s bitterness does not sound like the relationship was dead before he started seeing you… he’s lied about that.

His kids are adults at 19 & 21, if they chose never to meet you that’s up to them, Even if that is due to loyalty to their mother.

I struggle to believe a 19 & 21 year old see their dad every weekend… are you sure he’s not seeing someone else on those days ?

I think meeting his grown up children first before marrying each other is a must.
Let the dust settle after the divorce enjoy being together and getting to know his grown up family they are old enough to make their own decisions .
His ex wife sadly has no say on who their kids meet at this stage of their lives.
Hopefully her upset will fade once she starts to rebuild her own life.. once kids see this less tension build a relationship with you then marriage .

He hasn't lost them he sounds like he has a good relationship if he sees them every weekend

My comment was directed at a pp who was quoted, not the OP.

No drama.... but the whole point is you should be careful about marrying to protect your assets.

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His children probally dont want to meet you and your bf is using his ex as an exuse. They probally see you as the person who destroyed their parents marriage, and witnessed the effects this had on their mum. The fact his divorce has taken 3 years sends to me red flags. A divorce shouldnt take that long, are you sure he is getting 1 ?. Personally op I think you should walk away, he cheated in his wife with you, dont you think he will do the same to you as he did to her ?. Did he leave hus wife willingly or did his wife kick him out when he found out about you ?

Then he should have been a responsible adult and left instead of lying and sticking his dick in you.
You absolutely know the difference. As stupid as you are entering into this relationship when he wasn't single, I know you know that no one has said he can't leave an unhappy marriage.
But be a man and do that instead of what he did.

They'll never like you nor should they. They won't get past this. They'll only be seeing him because his their dad. You are simply the person that assisted their dad in hurting their family.
You should stfu and just put up with what's dealt.

He WILL leave you how he found you but I love your confidence. You both deserve to be screwed and live your miserable lives being the dishonest scumbags you are.

Team kids here. You're scum.