DG annoyed about pregnancy worries raised while he was gaming

[GrubbyHouse1]

(I meant DH in title. Can't work out how to edit title)

My husband plays video games to relax. Quite a fair bit to be honest. He often says talk to him when he's finished playing which i guess is reasonable as if Im watching a film or something I might feel irritated if he started chatting loads to me about things

But I realised my period is late. We already have two young kids. Im 40. And this last week I've been feeling v emotional - like tearful randomly.

I was just tidying up (sat morning) and said to him (as he was gaming - some gun game) and I said "God you know what the last time I felt so randomly tearful during the day was when I was pregnant with DS2"

And he took off his headphones and said "FFS. You've given me anxiety now. FFS. God. I cant even focus on the game now you've said that. Could you not keep comments like to yoruseld until I've done with the game"

And honestly I felt my last iota of respect for him dry up in a second

But AIBU? Or a gaming snob? Its his hobby so maybe I shouldn't be thinking out loud to him. I said I wanted to share my thoughts and maybe some support would be nice. He said "yeah well I've got my own feelinsh and im much more likely to respond better if you wait till im done gaming"

??

YANBU. He sounds like a selfish, man child. I would struggle to have any respect for him.

He sounds like a total prick….a massive man child. How on earth did you find the desire to actually have sex with him three times to procreate?

What a prick

He games all day while you look after the young children?

He's a massive immature prick and you deserve better.

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Dont have any more kids with him. Or do and accept him for what he is. More of a pain in the arse pet who bites occasionally.

Are you sure you have your abbreviations correct, did you mean DS? Surely a grown adult wouldn't react like that

Gaming isn’t the issue as long as he does his fair share around the house & with childcare but his attitude towards you is awful.

Take a pregnancy test and find out if you are or not, if you are, consider your options, especially at 40. If you’re not pregnant, great. But you still need to consider relationship options.

He's a man child. I don't know why men want to emasculate themselves like this and basically appear child-like to their partners. Unable to regulate emotions and being deeply engaged in pathetic button mashing fantasy role play is a massive turn off.

My partner also games and I find it extremely unattractive. Partner snaps at me if playing on the FIFA game and seeing him play it, and how he is while playing it makes me lose attraction to him & I could certainly understand losing all respect in the scenario you’ve given. So YANBU.

p.s I don’t think it is like watching a film as you could easily pause a film, and you wouldn’t be as engrossed as they are while gaming, you’d still be conscious of what’s going on around you and the film lasts 1.5 - 2 hours.. Gaming they hide away for hours on end, engrossed, not wanting to interact with anything else. I’d never get away with hiding away for hours with headphones on having an excessive nap (my hobby) no questions asked. Never.

What is he like with your children if that's what he's like with you?

You've got two kids. Why is he gaming on a Saturday morning. He's selfish and nasty.

Do you get to do your 'hobby' on a Saturday morning?

Accidentally clicked on YABU but frankly you are being unreasonable to be having unprotected sex with this loser.

My DH plays video games to relax....after DD is in bed, the washing is hung up, dishwasher filled etc. and if I'm happy to do my own thing while he does so. Your DH plays video games to avoid family life and pulling his weight by the sounds of it.

God I hope he looks like Tom Hardy but even then I’d struggle to invite this cretin into my vagina

my partner also likes to play fifa on the PlayStation, which he now plays about once a month. Because we have a little one and just a life in general. Even if you’d asked what the plan for dinner was this response is awful. Everything about this is pathetic

Selfish man child who does not respect you. You already have three kids, he is one himself. Hopefully you are not pregnant. I hear so many women at work with young kids say their partner/DH is always gaming. This is the age of the man child it seems. Can you imagine your dad or granddad carrying on like that. He should be spending time with you/your kids on a Saturday morning.

Ok, he’s a dickhead, but I suspect you already know that.

Your next step is to figure out whether you are pregnant. Have you done a test?

I’m was gaming on Saturday morning. It’s a hobby. The weather is shit.

The word prick came exactly to mind! What. A. Prick.

Aaaaand.... this is why I swipe left on gamers. Man children.

Not helpful to you OP and I'm sorry .. I've got no advice, just sympathy.

If you have a hobby you do at home it can be annoying when people just chat to you as though you’re just sitting down for a bit.
I wouldn’t run up to DH when he’s playing five-a-side and ask him what’s for dinner but he thinks nothing of walking in when I’m doing yoga and asking me.
However, his reaction was over the top. I feel like despite them saying the opposite, gaming can often have negative effects on people’s moods.

"Over the top"?

It's that far over he's in Flanders Fields!

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Your DH was annoyed because you caused him "anxiety" on a bloody Saturday morning whilst you were doing the tidying up? Presumably he wasn't playing gun games with the kids? Does he expect his entire family to never speak a word on a Saturday morning because he's playing a game?

I don't actually have an issue with gaming. My DH also games. We have kids. He games in the evening when kids are in bed and house has been tidied up or at the weekends if I'm out with the kids and he's done a few jobs around the house first. Likewise I don't get the privilege of sitting down to a show until the jobs are done and kids are sorted. Neither of us would dream of being so horrible if the other spoke about possible pregnancy.

He doesnt game all day and he's fairly attentive with kids. But he does run off to play games when he can. A few times recently I've been sat waiting at the dinner table with the kids and hes not joined us until 10 mins after I've said "dinner". And last week my DS1 got down feom the table and said "im not sitting at the table. Daddy's not" and I realised how much trouble we are in here! But he does do his bit round the house mostly. He just says its his hobby saying "i could be down the pub but im staying home and just doing a bit of gaming"