DG annoyed about pregnancy worries raised while he was gaming

[GrubbyHouse1]

(I meant DH in title. Can't work out how to edit title)

My husband plays video games to relax. Quite a fair bit to be honest. He often says talk to him when he's finished playing which i guess is reasonable as if Im watching a film or something I might feel irritated if he started chatting loads to me about things

But I realised my period is late. We already have two young kids. Im 40. And this last week I've been feeling v emotional - like tearful randomly.

I was just tidying up (sat morning) and said to him (as he was gaming - some gun game) and I said "God you know what the last time I felt so randomly tearful during the day was when I was pregnant with DS2"

And he took off his headphones and said "FFS. You've given me anxiety now. FFS. God. I cant even focus on the game now you've said that. Could you not keep comments like to yoruseld until I've done with the game"

And honestly I felt my last iota of respect for him dry up in a second

But AIBU? Or a gaming snob? Its his hobby so maybe I shouldn't be thinking out loud to him. I said I wanted to share my thoughts and maybe some support would be nice. He said "yeah well I've got my own feelinsh and im much more likely to respond better if you wait till im done gaming"

??

A 40 year old man with a family who regularly spends time gaming is a pathetic moron.

A Prince among men indeed.

I agree
I’m sorry you have 2 kids with this vile man and if you are pregnant I absolutely wouldn’t be having a third!!!!

He sounds like a mardy teenager!

I know i know....he's not trying to be a dick. He's come to me and said some reassuring things now. I just can't quite believe I need to wait until hes finished gaming to have a conversation. It makes me feel like totally taken for granted. But also just respect gone. When I hear his shouting gaming slang in his room probably online to some teenagers I feel so bleuuuuugh.

He's not 40. Closer to 50 btw 😕

Hopefully my late period + tears = perimenopause

Atee you able to pop out and get a rest @GrubbyHouse1 ? ( if I may call you that?).

Or would you rather leave it for a few days?

*test

Classic. Man is a dick and woman is upset about reasonably upsetting things. But instead of acknowledging he was a dick and you are reasonable to be upset, you end up blaming it on hormones.

It's not hormones. It's him.

To be fair I don’t think that’s true. OPs husband was being a twat, but I don’t think liking gaming makes someone a pathetic moron.
It’s just a hobby

What happens if he is in the middle of a game and the baby is crying and another child falls over and hurts themselves. Will he have anxiety and the children have to wait until the end of the game?

he does run off to play games when he can

Honestly, can you hear yourself OP. What would you think of yourself as a mother and a wife if you sneaked out to play every time you could.

He's not trying to be a dick... so it just comes naturally to him?

I admit to being quite old but I still can't get over the fact that some adults actually play these games. My son and his friends are in their 30s and none of them have done so since they were teenagers.

Yeeeah I'd probably stop having sex with this guy

It's a pretty addictive hobby for some though. My friend lives in a GFF and there is a guy in the flat above who games until 2 or 3am. You can hear him screaming and swearing at the screen.⁸

I agree being addicted to it isn’t good, but not everyone is. I hear more about men going out for full Saturdays playing golf. It’s the behaviour that troublesome not the hobby as such

Cretin.
Glad I'm child free and husband is 75, I don't get this pathetic shit to witness to make my life miserable.
YANBU.

Why??
My DH is a gamer and an amazing husband and dad.
When I hear my friends complain about their OH spending hours at the pub after work / disappearing at the weekend to play golf or cycle / monopolising the TV to watch sports or coming back drunk when going to watch at the stadium… I’m glad mine has a hobby that is cheap, he can do at home, doesn’t involve alcohol, no risk of injury, can be scheduled around family life, etc.

So would you say men who regularly go out and drink are morons? If you go outside around 2-3am in a city center you’ll often see drunks yelling and swearing. And it has been proven that alcohol is addictive.

YANBU, my husband is quite a gamer (though he mostly gave it up after we had children) and he would never behave like this. Rudeness is rudeness.

Gaming does seem to drum up aggression though, evidenced by the screaming of my friends neighbour and the op's DH'S attitude.
If I had to choose, I would rather have a DH that played golf all day once a week than one who sloped off to game every day at every opportunity.

There’s something dreadfully unattractive to me about a grown-man gaming.

Yes. If they go out and get so drunk it affects their behaviour so that they are shouting and screaming or fighting in the street.

Obviously any pastime that is taking up too much time and keeping a parent from parenting is not good. But I consider gaming a really juvenile pastime and gamers aren’t even getting any fresh air or exercise while they do it. If it’s an hour here or there, then fine, but it sounds like OP’s husband takes it far too seriously and spends too much time doing it, at the expense of being an attentive partner and parent.

Its no more juvinelle then screaming at eleven men kicking a ball.

as I said earlier it’s the behaviour that’s bad not the hobby.