Things you secretly know

[Daygloboo]

Just a general lighthearted one. Not aibu. Tell us something surprising, shocking, gripping or funny about someone you know personally , or an experience you had , or a famous person. Without giving anything away.
I've said this one before but....I know a very very well loved tv actor who is absolutely vile IRL. Im not going to out him but your jaw would drop if you knew..
Also I once lived in a place where a woman and her husband were upstanding members of the community, prominant locally, liked being respected, true blue types. They loved pronouncing on who was right and who was wrong in all situations. One day she told me conspiratorially and with great glee that they thought they'd been shafted financially by a local business bloke, so one night they put sugar in his petrol tank and slashed two of his tyres. I was young at the time and completely shocked.
Finally, in the C of E church in my old village where I grew up there were a bunch of smiley 'upstanding 'regular churchgoers who didnt like the new , slightly happy clappy vicar . He waa modern, and kind and seemed to care about the poorer people in the village . Rather like you'd imagine Jesus might have done. So the nice upatanding churchgoing regulars orchestrated a smear campaign against him and didn't stop until they'd made sure the vicar had had a breakdown and hadcto keave his post. It was.such a lovely, kindly village .🤣

@Rhubarb24 - I know that you are angry that I called out your post. Credit to you that you have had it removed. However, you're still being unpleasant, offensive and your claim is vile. Please retract it.

It has the ring of inauthenticity.

The rich Christians in the village hated the poor people and when a lovely vicar (like Jesus!) who cared for the poor came along, they worked to get him out because like all Christians, they didn't care about the poor.

They were nasty evil moustache twirling horrors who threw crusts out of their Rolls Royce windows for the huddled poor begging for food and who drove over the foot of the Jesus like vicar, as he-a victim of their evil plans-waited at the bus stop for a bus to take him away- armed only with a plastic bag of belongings and the knowledge that Christians were shits.

He knew he must convert to a purer faith.

Or something like!

I live abroad so different rules apply here, regulation is low and light touch, not at all like in the EU and European countries.

I have an unpaid role in an organization that people have to pay A LOT of money to join - sort of like a country club. It’s part of my job to assess the financial viability of applicants, to confirm whether or not they have the means to pay their dues. It’s a small area, there are only two or three such organizations, and people tend to go where the facilities best suit their needs which tends to be decided along lines like location and facilities. As a consequence, people in the same circle tend to gravitate towards the same place.

I know ALL about many people’s finances: their salaries, investments, properties and their valuation, pensions, monthly credit card statements, who their advisors are - everything down to the last penny. Everyone knows that I have this information, everyone knows I have this information about everyone else in their organization.

Honestly? I wish I didn’t know. It’s not a burden as such, but it certainly makes you see people other than as they present themselves.

I know I have enough saved to retire whenever I want. My employer doesn't and thinks they can keep piling on the pressure, giving me more to do and not paying me market rate. One day very soon I am going to tell them where to stick their job. Sure, no one is irreplaceable but I am already doing 3 people's work while trying to recruit to replace them and supporting several others, so I know how hard it is recruiting the required skill set. Most of the critical projects are in my team and anyone stepping in to take over won't know them like I do for at least 2 years. There will be delays, which will materially affect the company value.

It's out there.

I'm not angry about anything. It was not a big deal.

I'm not retracting anything. You said what you said. And it was odd.

I have an unpaid role in an organization that people have to pay A LOT of money to join
Honestly? I wish I didn’t know.

Why are you working an unpaid role you don't even like in an organisation that could clearly afford to compensate you well?

If you're from out of town you can just ask around brazenly because you're going to be gone soon anyway so there's no blowback.

Because I don't have to pay full dues for me and my family. For a few hours a week, it's more than worth my time. Financial assessment of new members is just one part of it (it's not actually a country club, btw). Mostly it's about ensuring the longevity of the organization, financially but also in terms of its ties to the city and county, compliance with laws, supervision of management etc. I enjoy the role, especially the compliance stuff which most people find excruciatingly dull and are happy to offload onto me. It's related to what I used to do when I worked. I just wish I didn't know so much about my friends' and acquaintances' finances.

We are both mildly ashamed of hiding chocolate, so neither will ever let on that we have found the other out. He buys mini eggs, which I don’t like, and I buy Crunchies because he doesn’t like them- part safety feature, part politeness. It would seem the height of rudeness to hide a Twix, for example.,

😂

I hide chocolate all the time, usually in my knitting bag. The mars ice creams and stuff I put in the frozen peas

😂

I know a friend had an affair with another friend's husband . He was going to leave his wife for her . She panicked at that . She has got away with it because unfortunately the man got cancer and died . And he didn't make a confession. Nobody will ever tell the wife as we do not want to tarnish her memory as she was so distraught. I think of it every time I see these women especially in a group .

A few years ago a family friend passed away and at the funeral my DM introduced his brother, Tom and his wife Pam to my StepF Bob. They all hit it off and are now close friends, Pam rings DM for chats a lot and she and Tom regularly visit DM and Bob who live abroad. All lovely, except I know that DM and Tom slept with each other regularly over a period of months when I was a child. DM was single at the time, but Tom was married to Pam. Poor Pam and Bob have no idea that DM and Tom had a fling.

Someone I’ve known since school kisses the arse of another old school friend. Won’t have a word said against her. Shame because the other old school friend feels only pity for her, slagged off her wedding etc.

Don't you just look for the shoes hanging off the telegraph wire...? 😂

I had a one night stand with David Haye before his throuple days... that's not a secret as my friends/family all know, but he also told me that when he was on I'm a Celeb he had access to a gym off camera whenever he wanted, protein shakes, extra food, etc....

I thought that as soon as I read your original post.

I know that my brother secretly cross dresses.
I have no desire to tell anyone. Probably no one would believe me anyway.

There's so much hypocrisy with religious types isn't there?! Sad

Well, with those who arent in it for the right reasons, yes. In my village, when I was a child, I certainly noticed that there were those who were decent towards others....but there were also those who went to church because they wanted to be seen going to church. Even as a child, you can sense that sort of thing.

My dsis is not the successful independent woman she makes out to be she’s up to her eyes in debt despite being bankrolled by dm all her adult life. We are nc after she started helping herself to dm money and i refused to do an equity release on dm house not whatever lies she has told family friends

i believe she is currently selling her house not out of choice but because time has run out on her interest only mortgage and she was planning on paying it with inheritance and dm hasn’t passed away yet.

So.many ppl are in debt at the moment

This isn’t new debt or due to col crisis she has been financially reckless and irresponsible all her adult life and she’s in her 50s now which is why dm has bailed her out lending her but never paid back tens of thousands numerous times over the years.