Things you secretly know

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Just a general lighthearted one. Not aibu. Tell us something surprising, shocking, gripping or funny about someone you know personally , or an experience you had , or a famous person. Without giving anything away.
I've said this one before but....I know a very very well loved tv actor who is absolutely vile IRL. Im not going to out him but your jaw would drop if you knew..
Also I once lived in a place where a woman and her husband were upstanding members of the community, prominant locally, liked being respected, true blue types. They loved pronouncing on who was right and who was wrong in all situations. One day she told me conspiratorially and with great glee that they thought they'd been shafted financially by a local business bloke, so one night they put sugar in his petrol tank and slashed two of his tyres. I was young at the time and completely shocked.
Finally, in the C of E church in my old village where I grew up there were a bunch of smiley 'upstanding 'regular churchgoers who didnt like the new , slightly happy clappy vicar . He waa modern, and kind and seemed to care about the poorer people in the village . Rather like you'd imagine Jesus might have done. So the nice upatanding churchgoing regulars orchestrated a smear campaign against him and didn't stop until they'd made sure the vicar had had a breakdown and hadcto keave his post. It was.such a lovely, kindly village .🤣

My family and I had been going to the same holiday resort for a few years and one time we went, another distant in law was invited to come along. She’s a smoker. First morning there she wanders off for a cigarette (no smoking in accommodation allowed). She comes back and tells us that the staff (cleaning crew) that she got chatting with asked if she was looking to score some drugs. My sister and I were like 😳. Never in the years going there would we have guessed this. She has had a rough time in life and you can see she’s had her problems. I think people can sniff out likely customers.

This is such an awful thread. Grotesque that OP kicks it off with lighthearted and a laughing emoji!

I know someone who is very well liked and respected in his community because just before COVID, he rallied everyone together, got the local counsellors and MP involved, worked hard and led the troops to get rid of the low life drug dealers and users that were plaguing a specific area close to his home and making people feel uncomfortable.

I've lost count of the amount of lines of coke and pills I've watched him take over the years.

He justifies it to himself in that his drugs are delivered to his office in the city underneath a take out lunch. HIS drug use isn't having an impact on the community like those low lifes.

He is not a nice man.

Is that how you found out? Through the sponsor's son?

Your sister could be sacked for this. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-41807717

Did the son tell you? If so I'm surprised you'd be so friendly with someone with no morals

I used to work in very famous 5* hotel:

• One very famous actor used to book a room for few hours every week to have a sex with prostitutes (drug addicted, I believe most of them we even under 16). He married shortly after and I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw their interview on TV recently and his wife (famous too) was talking how lucky she is because she was "first" for him. *I know famous influencer promoting healthy lifestyle, sport, etc who is bulimic. She used to request bucket for every single stay, ordered insane amounts of food and ate/vommited all night long. I have no idea how she's still allive tbh. She's on drugs too.

Well, I didn't find out from going to AA.

Someone I know did this…

was a member of the PTA at school but the leader was a very controlling woman who bullied everyone for anything to make herself look better and would brag about all the things she had and how she didn’t need to work. One day during a school event my friend emptied a bag of icing sugar into her new handbag.

I'm friendly with all types of people.

I'm sure all your friends are as pure as you...

I work for a large financial institution and it is explicitly noted that we are not allowed to access friends’ or family’s accounts. In fact I’m not even allowed to access my own on the system at work.

I have several friends who have accounts with us. It wouldn’t even occur to me that I could access their account details, know about their financial circumstances etc, and if they come through to me I have to transfer them through to someone else due to it being a conflict of interest.

If I inadvertently access someone’s account I know, e.g. if someone for instance called me from a different team and the details they gave me happened to be for someone I know, then there’s a specific procedure to declare it.

Accessing records of friends or family in the NHS is absolutely not allowed and the person doing so deserves to be fired.

I know my father has a secret son who is around 20 years old now. My grandma told me this few hours before she died. He had an affair, shortly after he left my mum for another woman, had more kids. His second wife has no clue about his son.

Exactly and this is how it should be. I dont want random people I know being able to access my financial details out of sheer nosiness

I know that a very good friend of a friend is in so much debt and is lying to avoid paying out. I feel really sorry for this woman but she's also not helping herself at all as she is trying to portray she is doing well and having her hair and nails done regularly.

Funny.
So there's a famous footballer who is fighting an addiction and takes the brave step to go to AA to save his career, his relationships and probably his life. He's gets a sponsor who is bound to utmost confidentiality.
That sponsor has told their son, who spreads this around as gossip?
Absolutely disgusting.

hmmm....mick jagger ?

Absolutely agree with this. I also work in financial and we have to follow this and quite rightly have exact same procedure.

We also have audit checks so if it was identified we were accessing accounts without reason then that would be us in the firing line and rightly so.

On top of that it is mandatory to acknowledge our understanding of this annually.

I would hope the NHS has procedures in place to see if staff members are accessing patient records unnecessarily and out of sheer nosiness! This has to be a sackable offence and a major breach of GDPR.

We were the only people he told actually.

The guy in question is an abusive turd. I heard that from somebody else ;)

@Bitsandbobs2 so you all stayed quiet over the sexual abuse of children?

I’ve got two

1. my mum had two affairs while married to my dad. She first blurted it out to me when I was a teenager. When she left my dad (I was in my late 20’s by this point) she told me who, and one of them was my best friend’s father who I’m still friends with. I don’t think my friend knows. Her parents are still married and I’ll never tell her.
2. My exH is getting married again this summer (3rd time, I was no.2) He’s told the kids, who he told not to tell me because he said he was going to do it, but he hasn’t yet because he’s too chickenshit and I suspect is hoping I’ll just find out. The kids didn’t tell me, I found out another way, and while I couldn’t give a shit he’s marrying again - I certainly don’t want him back, and if anything it means more stability for him which is a good thing for the kids - Im pissed off at him for asking them to keep that kind of secret. I’ve know for 4 months now but I’m not letting on so he can sweat about it

I have no idea what this footballer is like, and it's really not the point. He has gone to AA and gone through a very challenging programme. He will have hit rock bottom with his physical and mental health. His life was probably almost destroyed. He has gone to AA with the assurance that this will be 100% confidential. Otherwise people will stop seeking help.
It's very serious.

It's a bit shocking that the sponsor told his son all about it.

It's a very serious breech of confidence.

This. I used to work in Childrens Social Care, and we weren’t allowed to search any old kid in the system. Everything leaves a digital footprint, and we would’ve been fired for looking at files that we weren’t working on.